Anonymous
08/29/2023 19:30
Subject: Inappropriate joke at work
What gender is OP?
Anonymous
08/29/2023 19:29
Subject: Inappropriate joke at work
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:.Anonymous wrote:I work as an in-house commercial attorney and I support our sales team. A sales person reached out to me on Friday about a deal I will be working on with him, and he said that he told the counterparty that he is 6’6” and he will “beat up any lawyers as needed in order for this deal to go through.”
Clearly it was a joke but I feel like it was extremely inappropriate and I’m considering raising it with my boss. While it was a joke it was still a threat to not get in the way of his deal. I don’t want to make a formal complaint against him but I want it noted that he said this in case there are other issues going forward. Thoughts on how to best do this?
The sales person is a complete jerk. Inappropriate comment. Regardless of whether or not it was perceived as a threat, it is unprofessional. Comments like that might affect a deal. Needs to be raised with your boss because he said this to an opposing party / counter-party. Your boss needs to be aware so the sales person doesn't make any other inappropriate comments.
I wonder whether prior posters understand that the salesman said this to the other party--and not just to you.
First, you completely misread the context of the comment to the other party. Second, lighten up, Francis.
No, I did not misread the context of the comment to the other party.
Oh, lighten up!
Anonymous
08/29/2023 19:28
Subject: Inappropriate joke at work
Oh, jeez. Let it go. OP, you are not ready for the workplace if you cannot handle that joke. The workplace is rough, and it isn't about your feelings. It is about doing business, and getting deals done. If you want to this sensitive, then go run a backyard garden.
Anonymous
08/29/2023 19:21
Subject: Inappropriate joke at work
Omg OP, grow up.
- only 41 and you’re making me feel ancient
- only 41 and you’re making me feel ancient
Anonymous
08/29/2023 19:19
Subject: Inappropriate joke at work
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:.Anonymous wrote:I work as an in-house commercial attorney and I support our sales team. A sales person reached out to me on Friday about a deal I will be working on with him, and he said that he told the counterparty that he is 6’6” and he will “beat up any lawyers as needed in order for this deal to go through.”
Clearly it was a joke but I feel like it was extremely inappropriate and I’m considering raising it with my boss. While it was a joke it was still a threat to not get in the way of his deal. I don’t want to make a formal complaint against him but I want it noted that he said this in case there are other issues going forward. Thoughts on how to best do this?
The sales person is a complete jerk. Inappropriate comment. Regardless of whether or not it was perceived as a threat, it is unprofessional. Comments like that might affect a deal. Needs to be raised with your boss because he said this to an opposing party / counter-party. Your boss needs to be aware so the sales person doesn't make any other inappropriate comments.
I wonder whether prior posters understand that the salesman said this to the other party--and not just to you.
First, you completely misread the context of the comment to the other party. Second, lighten up, Francis.
No, I did not misread the context of the comment to the other party.
Anonymous
08/29/2023 18:39
Subject: Inappropriate joke at work
Anonymous wrote:.Anonymous wrote:I work as an in-house commercial attorney and I support our sales team. A sales person reached out to me on Friday about a deal I will be working on with him, and he said that he told the counterparty that he is 6’6” and he will “beat up any lawyers as needed in order for this deal to go through.”
Clearly it was a joke but I feel like it was extremely inappropriate and I’m considering raising it with my boss. While it was a joke it was still a threat to not get in the way of his deal. I don’t want to make a formal complaint against him but I want it noted that he said this in case there are other issues going forward. Thoughts on how to best do this?
The sales person is a complete jerk. Inappropriate comment. Regardless of whether or not it was perceived as a threat, it is unprofessional. Comments like that might affect a deal. Needs to be raised with your boss because he said this to an opposing party / counter-party. Your boss needs to be aware so the sales person doesn't make any other inappropriate comments.
I wonder whether prior posters understand that the salesman said this to the other party--and not just to you.
First, you completely misread the context of the comment to the other party. Second, lighten up, Francis.
Anonymous
08/29/2023 18:36
Subject: Inappropriate joke at work
Anonymous wrote:In the words of the late, great, Pee Wee Herman, “Lighten up, Francis”
You should be ashamed of yourself. From one of the all-time great comedies:
Anonymous
08/29/2023 18:32
Subject: Inappropriate joke at work
Having just been counseled on something I said that was inappropriate and all those involved, I'm guessing OP is around 45 or 50.
Anonymous
08/29/2023 17:57
Subject: Inappropriate joke at work
My inclination is to say something to the person whose made this kinda joke…. So I have some agency.
Anonymous
08/29/2023 16:55
Subject: Re:Inappropriate joke at work
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:There is no room for humor in the workplace. Someone may be triggered and it's also a microaggression. He should be fired, and canceled.
I had a coworker come to me about another coworker who called a client a dick. The client can be a jerk and after they hung up with him she said "what a dick" Another coworker was so offended and upset, she wanted it formally written up. It took everything in me not to roll my eyes
Was she offended because it was off color or offended because it was gendered? I’m trying not to use the b— word anymore because it’s so gendered, so I pause and then substitute in a non-gendered term.
Anonymous
08/29/2023 16:54
Subject: Inappropriate joke at work
Anonymous wrote:At work a white guy at a meeting that 1/2 the people were black used the term “cotton picking hands”
Big deal. Should we fire him. BTW he is 60 from the South with lots of black friends and black co-workers.
I guess to sensitive ears it is an issue
This is inappropriate and he should be counseled. Lots of people say inapprpriopriate things without thinking — the right response is to teach them to do better. I wouldn’t fire someone over this unless it was a persistent problem that the person refused to acknowledge/fix.
Anonymous
08/29/2023 16:44
Subject: Inappropriate joke at work
It is entirely inappropriate to write, even in jest, that you are going to use violence against someone.
So at best, it's poor judgment. At worst, this person is using pretend "jokes" to intimidate people and get his way.
Now to your career. If this is the first time he's done this, to your knowledge, I would keep the communication and find a moment to tell him not to make these jokes. If/when he does it again, then it's time to escalate to HR, and say that this behavior is making people uncomfortable in the workplace.
So at best, it's poor judgment. At worst, this person is using pretend "jokes" to intimidate people and get his way.
Now to your career. If this is the first time he's done this, to your knowledge, I would keep the communication and find a moment to tell him not to make these jokes. If/when he does it again, then it's time to escalate to HR, and say that this behavior is making people uncomfortable in the workplace.
Anonymous
08/29/2023 16:41
Subject: Re:Inappropriate joke at work
Anonymous wrote:There is no room for humor in the workplace. Someone may be triggered and it's also a microaggression. He should be fired, and canceled.
I had a coworker come to me about another coworker who called a client a dick. The client can be a jerk and after they hung up with him she said "what a dick" Another coworker was so offended and upset, she wanted it formally written up. It took everything in me not to roll my eyes
Anonymous
08/29/2023 16:37
Subject: Inappropriate joke at work
At work a white guy at a meeting that 1/2 the people were black used the term “cotton picking hands”
Big deal. Should we fire him. BTW he is 60 from the South with lots of black friends and black co-workers.
I guess to sensitive ears it is an issue
Big deal. Should we fire him. BTW he is 60 from the South with lots of black friends and black co-workers.
I guess to sensitive ears it is an issue
Anonymous
08/29/2023 16:00
Subject: Re:Inappropriate joke at work
There is no room for humor in the workplace. Someone may be triggered and it's also a microaggression. He should be fired, and canceled.