Anonymous
08/30/2023 21:53
Subject: Conversation dynamic with mom - normal?
Anonymous wrote:Same, but I think some of it is hearing loss. if she's doing all the talking she doesn't have to pretend to have understood things that she didn't really hear.
+1
My mom did get significantly less monologue-y once she got hearing aids.
Anonymous
08/30/2023 21:36
Subject: Conversation dynamic with mom - normal?
My mom (mid 60s) never asks me questions, just monologues about her life. Which I don't mind at all until she gets frustrated with me that she "doesn't know anything about my life." Well gee, ask me a question and you will learn! I'm not one to monologue myself without prompts!
Anonymous
08/30/2023 20:33
Subject: Conversation dynamic with mom - normal?
Anonymous wrote:Same, but I think some of it is hearing loss. if she's doing all the talking she doesn't have to pretend to have understood things that she didn't really hear.
This is a great point - could be at play in my situation. Thank you for the insight.
Anonymous
08/30/2023 18:00
Subject: Conversation dynamic with mom - normal?
Anonymous wrote:I’m similar ages and my mom is deeply interested in my life and the grandkids’. Lots of questions about them. I think her life has gotten less interesting so she doesn’t have as much to say.
I wish she had more friends. I’ve wished that my whole life and swore I wouldn’t be like that. But here I am after Covid and my close friends have gone away mostly.
Same exact.
Anonymous
08/30/2023 16:39
Subject: Conversation dynamic with mom - normal?
My mom is 72 and is exactly the same. I don’t think she’s asked me anything about myself since my children were born. As soon as I produced grandchildren, I was reduced by my own mother and my MIL to a source of information about or photos of the grandchildren and a sentient being who brings the children to them. Sometimes they ask my how my husband is doing.
Anonymous
08/30/2023 16:35
Subject: Conversation dynamic with mom - normal?
Same, but I think some of it is hearing loss. if she's doing all the talking she doesn't have to pretend to have understood things that she didn't really hear.
Anonymous
08/30/2023 16:34
Subject: Conversation dynamic with mom - normal?
I'm 79 and hate to talk about myself. I just ask the "kids" how they're doing and listen. I generally deflect questions about me.