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Anonymous wrote:Totally. Any kid who gets a B is certainly struggling. I mean B basically is a failure, right?

Well, multiple B's won't get you into a decent college. DD hasn't received any but just started 5th grade and we're wondering what to expect.

Multiple B’s won’t get you into a DECENT college?

You people are seriously sick. This is not healthy or normal in any way, shape or form.

What, planning ahead? Multiple Bs in high school won't even get kids into the program I went to these days. And if they can't manage As in elementary school...

Not how that works. I got B's in elementary school and still got A's in high school, undergrad and law school.

Anonymous wrote:You people are nuts. Holy crap.

And your kid can't read.

Anonymous wrote:Your child needs to get a B so you can tell them to really sit with the feeling of being a B, and know how bad a B feels so they will always get As so they never feel that terrible B again. So a B (once!) Is actually necessary and helpful

I've been told this before.

Grade school grades don't matter unless the kid is flunking. If your kid is getting a 3, call off the dogs. Your kid is doing. Make learning fun for your child. You have enough time to make high school a Bataan march. Enjoy your children while they are still young and the stakes are low. It's over before know it. Don't burn your kid out by 12.

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Anonymous wrote:With the exception of math, grades are very subjective in ES. So much at this level has to do with behavior.

In ES we had numerical grades, and I rarely got anything below a 97. In MS, suddenly I felt so…average. I felt like the things I was rewarded for in ES—being a docile, well behaved student—suddenly were not valued as much.

I was still diligent, and certainly didn’t feel as though I were any less intelligent than my peers, but I felt like they certainly spoke out much more, especially the boys. I do think MS/HS is when those once overly rambunctious little boys end up harnessing their energy in a more productive way.

My kid had solid Bs in math in ES despite As on tests. The teacher felt they weren't trying. It was no big deal because the grades don't matter

Then why grade?

Good question

You people are nuts. Holy crap.

Your child needs to get a B so you can tell them to really sit with the feeling of being a B, and know how bad a B feels so they will always get As so they never feel that terrible B again. So a B (once!) Is actually necessary and helpful

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Anonymous wrote:With the exception of math, grades are very subjective in ES. So much at this level has to do with behavior.

In ES we had numerical grades, and I rarely got anything below a 97. In MS, suddenly I felt so…average. I felt like the things I was rewarded for in ES—being a docile, well behaved student—suddenly were not valued as much.

I was still diligent, and certainly didn’t feel as though I were any less intelligent than my peers, but I felt like they certainly spoke out much more, especially the boys. I do think MS/HS is when those once overly rambunctious little boys end up harnessing their energy in a more productive way.

My kid had solid Bs in math in ES despite As on tests. The teacher felt they weren't trying. It was no big deal because the grades don't matter

Then why grade?

Anonymous wrote:With the exception of math, grades are very subjective in ES. So much at this level has to do with behavior.

In ES we had numerical grades, and I rarely got anything below a 97. In MS, suddenly I felt so…average. I felt like the things I was rewarded for in ES—being a docile, well behaved student—suddenly were not valued as much.

I was still diligent, and certainly didn’t feel as though I were any less intelligent than my peers, but I felt like they certainly spoke out much more, especially the boys. I do think MS/HS is when those once overly rambunctious little boys end up harnessing their energy in a more productive way.

My kid had solid Bs in math in ES despite As on tests. The teacher felt they weren't trying. It was no big deal because the grades don't matter

With the exception of math, grades are very subjective in ES. So much at this level has to do with behavior.

In ES we had numerical grades, and I rarely got anything below a 97. In MS, suddenly I felt so…average. I felt like the things I was rewarded for in ES—being a docile, well behaved student—suddenly were not valued as much.

I was still diligent, and certainly didn’t feel as though I were any less intelligent than my peers, but I felt like they certainly spoke out much more, especially the boys. I do think MS/HS is when those once overly rambunctious little boys end up harnessing their energy in a more productive way.

Eh. It does not matter until it does. For example, if your child test slightly average for something like TAG, then they will look at his grades and a B will not help. He is just average. An A may very well help give him a push into TAG.

The only time grades mattered in ES was 5th grade because that was part of the calculus for getting into the honors English and advanced math classes in MS.

B’s in advanced courses in HS is very different from a B in third grade math where there is “equity” and no tracking. The former is not a concern, the latter is.

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Anonymous wrote:Totally. Any kid who gets a B is certainly struggling. I mean B basically is a failure, right?

Well, multiple B's won't get you into a decent college. DD hasn't received any but just started 5th grade and we're wondering what to expect.

Multiple B’s won’t get you into a DECENT college?

You people are seriously sick. This is not healthy or normal in any way, shape or form.

What, planning ahead? Multiple Bs in high school won't even get kids into the program I went to these days. And if they can't manage As in elementary school...

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Totally. Any kid who gets a B is certainly struggling. I mean B basically is a failure, right?

Well, multiple B's won't get you into a decent college. DD hasn't received any but just started 5th grade and we're wondering what to expect.

Multiple B’s won’t get you into a DECENT college?

You people are seriously sick. This is not healthy or normal in any way, shape or form.