Anonymous
Post 08/22/2023 17:13     Subject: Do you enjoy attending a wedding?
Anonymous wrote:Meh. Very ambivalent. I will always go if invited, because I believe in showing up to mark milestones and I love an excuse to get dressed up. But I loathe having to make small talk with strangers, so an endless seated reception with the distant cousins of the couple is way, way down my list of fun activities. Classic introvert easily overwhelmed by too much stimulous. I'd say for me the ideal is to dress up, go to the ceremony, get a little weepy, go through the receiving line, and then cut out and skip the reception.


DP because I forgot the other questions. I'm 58 and have probably been to a couple of dozen weddings but not many recently at all, except a couple of gay weddings after it was legalized. I'm awaiting the next round when friends' kids and my nieces and nephews get married in the coming decade or so.
Anonymous
Post 08/22/2023 17:10     Subject: Do you enjoy attending a wedding?
Meh. Very ambivalent. I will always go if invited, because I believe in showing up to mark milestones and I love an excuse to get dressed up. But I loathe having to make small talk with strangers, so an endless seated reception with the distant cousins of the couple is way, way down my list of fun activities. Classic introvert easily overwhelmed by too much stimulous. I'd say for me the ideal is to dress up, go to the ceremony, get a little weepy, go through the receiving line, and then cut out and skip the reception.
Anonymous
Post 08/22/2023 17:08     Subject: Do you enjoy attending a wedding?
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:Not at all. I don’t believe in marriage so the whole thing is just odd to me. Also, I can’t stand all the loud music, I don’t like dancing, and the small talk with people I barely know is awkward. I’d rather go to the dentist.


So why even go?


PP here. To support my friends. I’m also asexual and on the autism spectrum so this type of stuff is very hard for me. Dressing up is also not my thing.


The from a realistic standpoint the dressing up is actually totally bizarre. People are literally in costumes.
Anonymous
Post 08/22/2023 17:07     Subject: Re:Do you enjoy attending a wedding?
I love weddings, they are such a sh*t show.

I use to work for a caterer so I was able to see the sh*t show with a backstage pass.

Now I just love to watch the drama unfold...

who's gonna bang who
who gets totally wasted and makes a fool of themselves
who criticizes every aspect of the wedding
who falls down.. there is always 1
who passes out
who shows up and was not invited (this is only happened at 2 weddings)
Who is avoiding who all night
Who starts a fight, verbal or otherwise.

Oh how I love a wedding.

I eloped.

BTW you should ask the gender of the responses most dudes hate weddings.
Anonymous
Post 08/22/2023 17:02     Subject: Do you enjoy attending a wedding?
I received a lot of criticism from a bride who was not happy about the cranberry colored dress I wore to her December wedding. I have decided that attending weddings is just not worth the risk of offending the bride. I will attend the wedding of my son but all other weddings invitations will be declined.
Anonymous
Post 08/22/2023 16:32     Subject: Do you enjoy attending a wedding?
I liked them in my 20s and 30s, but now in my 50s, I don't enjoy them anymore.
Anonymous
Post 08/22/2023 16:30     Subject: Do you enjoy attending a wedding?
I hate all weddings.
Anonymous
Post 08/22/2023 16:26     Subject: Re:Do you enjoy attending a wedding?
Yes! Our friends kids are starting to get married and I was disappointed that we missed a couple of pandemic weddings. We don’t have that many weddings though so they are special events.
Anonymous
Post 08/22/2023 16:22     Subject: Do you enjoy attending a wedding?
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:Not at all. I don’t believe in marriage so the whole thing is just odd to me. Also, I can’t stand all the loud music, I don’t like dancing, and the small talk with people I barely know is awkward. I’d rather go to the dentist.


So why even go?


PP here. To support my friends. I’m also asexual and on the autism spectrum so this type of stuff is very hard for me. Dressing up is also not my thing.
Anonymous
Post 08/22/2023 16:21     Subject: Do you enjoy attending a wedding?
Depends on the wedding.
Anonymous
Post 08/22/2023 16:20     Subject: Re:Do you enjoy attending a wedding?
Anonymous wrote:Some of the time. I prefer the less formal ones, with guests of all ages, from grandparents to chat with to little kids on the dance floor. I tend to dislike the ones that are organized as pageants, with requirements for the guests, multiple gift-grabs, and inconvenient-for-me locations.

For the most part, I’d rather choose my own adventures— vs using time and money on someone else’s dream wedding. If I budget for an outfit, I’d rather do so with my own preferences in mind — not someone else’s color schemes. Assigned seating can be fine — or awful.

The best wedding that I attended was held at the bride’s house. The ceremony was in the backyard, the food was awesome, the conversations memorable. My next favorite was much more formal, and much larger, but great care was taken to arrange things for the comfort of the guests, as well as truly reflecting the interests and relationships of the bride and groom.

TLDR: Mostly: No. Upon reflection, though, I have enjoyed a few.


To add: I’ve been in 4, attended a few dozen. Mostly friends. About half travel — but that’s because I was living in a different city, not because they were destination weddings.
Anonymous
Post 08/22/2023 16:19     Subject: Do you enjoy attending a wedding?
Anonymous wrote:Not at all. I don’t believe in marriage so the whole thing is just odd to me. Also, I can’t stand all the loud music, I don’t like dancing, and the small talk with people I barely know is awkward. I’d rather go to the dentist.


So why even go?
Anonymous
Post 08/22/2023 16:19     Subject: Do you enjoy attending a wedding?
Yes! But I only attend weddings of close friends/family. I’ve never been invited to the wedding of a distant relationship. Aside maybe my husband’s friends. Even then I cry, LOL
Anonymous
Post 08/22/2023 16:17     Subject: Do you enjoy attending a wedding?
Not at all. I don’t believe in marriage so the whole thing is just odd to me. Also, I can’t stand all the loud music, I don’t like dancing, and the small talk with people I barely know is awkward. I’d rather go to the dentist.
Anonymous
Post 08/22/2023 16:17     Subject: Do you enjoy attending a wedding?
I only truly enjoy the weddings of close family and friends where I know a bunch of people. Otherwise, it is a bit painful for me.