I don't believe this actually happened. They are plaid shorts, and it gave you the appearance of boxers.

Anonymous wrote:Related: is it okay for a approx. 30+ yo neighbor to be hanging out in the front yard in a bikini? No, she was not on the way to the pool or back from it.

Its about layers of fabric.

Bathing suits usually have a liner and outer fabric layer (and no open fly) between junk and the world. Also radically thicker material than boxers.

Sure wear boxers out in the world, as long as you are wearing briefs under them.

Anonymous wrote:I thought this was going to be about him hanging around the house in boxers. That’s bad enough.

Hanging out in the house in boxers is bad? Who are you people?!?

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Anonymous wrote:
I’m talking about things like going out to get the mail, mowing the grass or working on a car in the driveway. Barbecuing. Maybe doing a short errand like driving to KFC or the hardware store.

Man here. The ohter guys are teh hardware store won't care a lick about it.

Do you think women don’t go to the hardware store, Caveman?

Also, maybe you like getting flashed by random dudes, but, I don’t think that’s a universal opinion.

i'm not fancy at all - but hard no. You can see right in them if they bend the wrong way.

Definitely not acceptable. I don’t want my DH leaving our bedroom in boxer shorts. He grew up in a rural area and was shocked when I told him he needed to wear a t-shirt to mow our lawn (growing up he didn’t wear a shirt to do it.)

I was a nanny and the dad always wore the boxer with the hole. He would sit on the couch and stick his…parts… out of the hole while watching tv.

Made me super uncomfortable. Luckily one day his wife came home and caught him like that. I was in the next room feeding the kids.

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Anonymous wrote:
I’m talking about things like going out to get the mail, mowing the grass or working on a car in the driveway. Barbecuing. Maybe doing a short errand like driving to KFC or the hardware store.

Man here. The ohter guys are teh hardware store won't care a lick about it.

We won't "care" but will definitely know you're a weirdo at best, a perv at worst.

OP: if he really wants to freeball, at least pitch the idea of him wearing basketball shorts or something similar. It's magically better but at least he won't look like a complete creep with an open fly.

As a guy, my rule is that boxes are not the only lower covering outdoors except after dark (like if i go to move the trash cans to the street).

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Anonymous wrote:The only person I’ve seen do this was an elderly widower neighbor who was starting to have dementia. Someone called his children who lived out of state and they promptly took their dad back with them.

OK, let’s not go overboard.

To be clear, there are a wide variety of boxer shorts. If I’m grabbing the mail or getting something from the car in a T-shirt and something like this (https://www.hanes.com/hanes-cool-comfort-reg-men-s-boxers-pack-moisture-wicking-plaid-6-pack.html), no one is even going to notice they aren’t just regular shorts.

I’m sure it was a dig but one of the PPs said only in NJ, I do think this may be partly an Italian thing.

Dude. You can definitely tell they are boxers from that link.

How lazy is your husband and how can you be attracted to someone with such low standards for themself? He can’t muster up the energy to put shorts on? Disgusting.

It’s like leaving the house in a robe.

Unacceptable.

Anonymous wrote:How acceptable is it for a middle aged man to do things outdoors or go on small errands wearing boxer shorts and flip flops? (Plus a shirt, though it might be a tank.)

I’m talking about things like going out to get the mail, mowing the grass or working on a car in the driveway. Barbecuing. Maybe doing a short errand like driving to KFC or the hardware store.

From this list, the only thing I would say is acceptable is getting the mail, and even then only occasionally in your boxers and they have to be the kind of boxers that could be mistaken for shorts at first glance. Everything else is "get dressed" territory, even if that means your grungiest clothes.

Boxers can sometimes look like shorts, but they're underwear. Not just the open flap issue, but they're much thinner than shorts and leave nothing to the imagination. Buy your DH some basketball shorts or something if he finds clothes so uncomfortable.

Anonymous wrote:Age has nothing to do with it, it's unacceptable at 5 years old, 30 years old, 50 years old......

Your DH may be suffering from depression.

More likely he enjoys subjecting women to non-consensual nudity.

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Anonymous wrote:The only person I’ve seen do this was an elderly widower neighbor who was starting to have dementia. Someone called his children who lived out of state and they promptly took their dad back with them.

OK, let’s not go overboard.

To be clear, there are a wide variety of boxer shorts. If I’m grabbing the mail or getting something from the car in a T-shirt and something like this (https://www.hanes.com/hanes-cool-comfort-reg-men-s-boxers-pack-moisture-wicking-plaid-6-pack.html), no one is even going to notice they aren’t just regular shorts.

I’m sure it was a dig but one of the PPs said only in NJ, I do think this may be partly an Italian thing.

No, no it’s not. It’s a trash thing. Signed wife of 100% Jersey Italian.