Anonymous wrote:She’s entering 11th grade and she tried out for varsity and she didn’t make it and the coach wants her in JV. She doesn’t want to do it bc some of her friends went to varsity and she doesn’t get along with the JV coach.

I’m honestly supportive of either option - stick out the year or just stop altogether and focus on her studies (which aren’t great - Bs/Cs). I don’t want soccer to be a source of stress for her; I want it to be enjoyable but I fear she’s going to let it get to her (being stuck on JV).

Anyone go through something similar? Looking for advice.

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Anonymous wrote:Sports is a huge friend group in HS. Leaving will change that for her. No advice other than there are unintended consequences of leaving.

She has a couple good friends that chose not to continue soccer and actually, 2-3 of her friends made the varsity team. She only has a couple friends on the JV team.

My point is this shouldn’t be an issue since her good friends won’t be on JV.

IME JV and varsity hang around. But your experience could be different.

FWIW, my kid didn’t make a coveted spot in their sport this year and wanted to quit. I asked for alternative plans that didn’t involve cellphones and other electronics. My kid chose sports because they couldn’t come up with a better plan - and is not disappointed by the choice though still working through feelings.

Varsity and JV don't really hang around.

Anonymous wrote:How is the team? Same thing happened at our school but every game was a blowout- won all games by huge margins—11-0, 5-0, etc. The kids decided the time commitment required for getting zero out of it with a tough academic important year and playing for a strong club team: it would have been pointless and taken time that wasn’t there.

The team is about average - same as the varsity team.

Anonymous wrote:Is she on a club team? If so, I’d just do that and not JV.

No club team. She's not a year around type of player.

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Anonymous wrote:Bs/Cs?! she should do tutoring after school and not soccer. Junior year is the most important.

That’s not really fair. Not everyone is capable of As and not every parent has money and transportation for tutoring.

Thank you. Some people have an odd perspective on things.

Without even a club team, she should be happy she made JV.

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Anonymous wrote:One of my DDs was cut junior year and decided to run cross country instead. She ended up doing really well and went to the state competition with the cross-country team. If she is willing to try running, the new runners end up really improving their times throughout the season. Also, in our school, the team does bonfires and lots of social activities, and since it is co-ed the kids have so much fun. My other DD made varsity as a freshman and high school soccer has just been cutthroat and stressful for her, a much more intense atmosphere than cross country.

This OP. As a former college athlete, I always rather looked down on cross country and track. My DD got fed up with soccer in high school. She was a very athletic kid, but psychologically just couldn't deal with the pressures of soccer anymore and it was making her feel awful. She switched to cross country and track in her senior year and the only regret she had was having not discovered it sooner. So much more supportive. You can kind of pick and choose when you compete on the weekends, if academics need to take priority, and you stay active and fit and off screens for a couple hours each day. I really recommend it. JV as a junior could be pretty demoralizing.

Please elaborate on this statement?

I play real sports. Not trying to be the best at exercising.

No they are not complements. They use the same body parts and it's why kids have some many injuries.
The best athletes play multiple sports. Track and cross country are actually a great cross training complement to Soccer.

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Anonymous wrote:Sports is a huge friend group in HS. Leaving will change that for her. No advice other than there are unintended consequences of leaving.

She has a couple good friends that chose not to continue soccer and actually, 2-3 of her friends made the varsity team. She only has a couple friends on the JV team.

My point is this shouldn’t be an issue since her good friends won’t be on JV.

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Anonymous wrote:One of my DDs was cut junior year and decided to run cross country instead. She ended up doing really well and went to the state competition with the cross-country team. If she is willing to try running, the new runners end up really improving their times throughout the season. Also, in our school, the team does bonfires and lots of social activities, and since it is co-ed the kids have so much fun. My other DD made varsity as a freshman and high school soccer has just been cutthroat and stressful for her, a much more intense atmosphere than cross country.

This OP. As a former college athlete, I always rather looked down on cross country and track. My DD got fed up with soccer in high school. She was a very athletic kid, but psychologically just couldn't deal with the pressures of soccer anymore and it was making her feel awful. She switched to cross country and track in her senior year and the only regret she had was having not discovered it sooner. So much more supportive. You can kind of pick and choose when you compete on the weekends, if academics need to take priority, and you stay active and fit and off screens for a couple hours each day. I really recommend it. JV as a junior could be pretty demoralizing.

Please elaborate on this statement?

I play real sports. Not trying to be the best at exercising.

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Anonymous wrote:One of my DDs was cut junior year and decided to run cross country instead. She ended up doing really well and went to the state competition with the cross-country team. If she is willing to try running, the new runners end up really improving their times throughout the season. Also, in our school, the team does bonfires and lots of social activities, and since it is co-ed the kids have so much fun. My other DD made varsity as a freshman and high school soccer has just been cutthroat and stressful for her, a much more intense atmosphere than cross country.

This OP. As a former college athlete, I always rather looked down on cross country and track. My DD got fed up with soccer in high school. She was a very athletic kid, but psychologically just couldn't deal with the pressures of soccer anymore and it was making her feel awful. She switched to cross country and track in her senior year and the only regret she had was having not discovered it sooner. So much more supportive. You can kind of pick and choose when you compete on the weekends, if academics need to take priority, and you stay active and fit and off screens for a couple hours each day. I really recommend it. JV as a junior could be pretty demoralizing.

Please elaborate on this statement?

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Anonymous wrote:One of my DDs was cut junior year and decided to run cross country instead. She ended up doing really well and went to the state competition with the cross-country team. If she is willing to try running, the new runners end up really improving their times throughout the season. Also, in our school, the team does bonfires and lots of social activities, and since it is co-ed the kids have so much fun. My other DD made varsity as a freshman and high school soccer has just been cutthroat and stressful for her, a much more intense atmosphere than cross country.

This OP. As a former college athlete, I always rather looked down on cross country and track. My DD got fed up with soccer in high school. She was a very athletic kid, but psychologically just couldn't deal with the pressures of soccer anymore and it was making her feel awful. She switched to cross country and track in her senior year and the only regret she had was having not discovered it sooner. So much more supportive. You can kind of pick and choose when you compete on the weekends, if academics need to take priority, and you stay active and fit and off screens for a couple hours each day. I really recommend it. JV as a junior could be pretty demoralizing.

Please elaborate on this statement?

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Anonymous wrote:One of my DDs was cut junior year and decided to run cross country instead. She ended up doing really well and went to the state competition with the cross-country team. If she is willing to try running, the new runners end up really improving their times throughout the season. Also, in our school, the team does bonfires and lots of social activities, and since it is co-ed the kids have so much fun. My other DD made varsity as a freshman and high school soccer has just been cutthroat and stressful for her, a much more intense atmosphere than cross country.

This OP. As a former college athlete, I always rather looked down on cross country and track. My DD got fed up with soccer in high school. She was a very athletic kid, but psychologically just couldn't deal with the pressures of soccer anymore and it was making her feel awful. She switched to cross country and track in her senior year and the only regret she had was having not discovered it sooner. So much more supportive. You can kind of pick and choose when you compete on the weekends, if academics need to take priority, and you stay active and fit and off screens for a couple hours each day. I really recommend it. JV as a junior could be pretty demoralizing.

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Anonymous wrote:One of my DDs was cut junior year and decided to run cross country instead. She ended up doing really well and went to the state competition with the cross-country team. If she is willing to try running, the new runners end up really improving their times throughout the season. Also, in our school, the team does bonfires and lots of social activities, and since it is co-ed the kids have so much fun. My other DD made varsity as a freshman and high school soccer has just been cutthroat and stressful for her, a much more intense atmosphere than cross country.

This OP. As a former college athlete, I always rather looked down on cross country and track. My DD got fed up with soccer in high school. She was a very athletic kid, but psychologically just couldn't deal with the pressures of soccer anymore and it was making her feel awful. She switched to cross country and track in her senior year and the only regret she had was having not discovered it sooner. So much more supportive. You can kind of pick and choose when you compete on the weekends, if academics need to take priority, and you stay active and fit and off screens for a couple hours each day. I really recommend it. JV as a junior could be pretty demoralizing.

Anonymous wrote:Let your kid decide.