BBT wrote:I am looking to hear experiences as I know no one who has used a donor egg and we have very few parents in our friend group. After the child is born, how often do you think about not sharing a genetic link?
If you were in your 40s when you had a child, are you glad you did it? We do not have children and I am 43. I worry about not having the energy to be a parent and worry about being in my 60s when the child graduates from high school.
I thought I would feel different but from the moment I was pregnant, in my heart they were my kids. I nurtured them in my body. When people say they don't have my features I should have felt bad, but nope. I just say they look like someone else in the family and it doesn't phase me one bit. I don't think about genetic link. My kids have known they are not biologically related to me. I used an anonymous donor. I have asked them to take a test when they are older to see if they have the same biological mom, for medical reasons.
About being tired, yes that is definitely a concern (had mine at 42). I wish I had gone that route earlier.
But in the end, zero regrets. Cannot imagine life without my kids.