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Agreed on talking to his ped as a more reasonable way to assuage one's concerns generally, but on the other hand, I would be willing to bet a fair amount of money that no ped is going to be like, "oh your not yet 14 year old is 5'3" and has no visible signs of puberty (based on a parent, rather than doctor's, assessment), definitely time to FTFO."


Kid is 14 next week and pediatrician appointment is a few days later, as indicated in OP, but thanks for being condescending.


How do you view those first two facts as playing in? I don't. Of course ask, but the kid is not yet even 14 and is as tall as me, a grown adult person.

Honestly, I am somewhat sorry to have been snappy, but on the other hand, as someone married to a short guy (5'5") and the mom of two boys who are likely to be short, I am pretty sick of people on DCUM pathologizing and having massive anxiety about shortness within the range of normal. It's ridiculous. If someone acted this way about a kid being slightly overweight, they would get jumped all over.

Agreed on talking to his ped as a more reasonable way to assuage one's concerns generally, but on the other hand, I would be willing to bet a fair amount of money that no ped is going to be like, "oh your not yet 14 year old is 5'3" and has no visible signs of puberty (based on a parent, rather than doctor's, assessment), definitely time to FTFO."


Kid is 14 next week and pediatrician appointment is a few days later, as indicated in OP, but thanks for being condescending.


How do you view those first two facts as playing in? I don't. Of course ask, but the kid is not yet even 14 and is as tall as me, a grown adult person.

Agreed on talking to his ped as a more reasonable way to assuage one's concerns generally, but on the other hand, I would be willing to bet a fair amount of money that no ped is going to be like, "oh your not yet 14 year old is 5'3" and has no visible signs of puberty (based on a parent, rather than doctor's, assessment), definitely time to FTFO."


Kid is 14 next week and pediatrician appointment is a few days later, as indicated in OP, but thanks for being condescending.

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OP, stop crowd sourcing. All you'll get is generalizations that may or may not have anything to do with your son.

You should be talking to his pediatrician who can do a check-up on your specific, individual son and decide whether there is any reason to be concerned or to determine whether he should run any additional tests on your son to determine whether there is anything to be concerned about.

Agreed on talking to his ped as a more reasonable way to assuage one's concerns generally, but on the other hand, I would be willing to bet a fair amount of money that no ped is going to be like, "oh your not yet 14 year old is 5'3" and has no visible signs of puberty (based on a parent, rather than doctor's, assessment), definitely time to FTFO."

OP, stop crowd sourcing. All you'll get is generalizations that may or may not have anything to do with your son.

You should be talking to his pediatrician who can do a check-up on your specific, individual son and decide whether there is any reason to be concerned or to determine whether he should run any additional tests on your son to determine whether there is anything to be concerned about.

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That’s an average height at that age. See an endocrinologist if you are worried.


It’s definitely not, especially for a kid with tall parents, and the issue is that he has zero signs of puberty.

NP here. It's somewhat below average, but not extraordinarily so. My son is also almost 14, and is 5'4". He's in the 40th percentile for height, as is his best friend whose dad is 6'2" (a few months older than DS).
OP, when you say zero signs of puberty, what do you mean? My son's first sign of puberty was armpit hair, which I would not have noticed if he had not given me a hug at the beach (he is blonde). His voice began to change shortly thereafter.

When I say zero I mean he is in all ways like a child. Absolutely no signs at all.

NP: but how can you know this? The first signs are testicular enlargement and then a bit of pubic hair. I can’t imagine you still see him unclothed or would discuss such things? I believe if there are truly NO signs as described- not even testicular enlargement, then the ped will send him for a workup as that is officially considered “delayed” at age 14 (I think). But- he may have those signs and you are unaware.

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Anonymous wrote:I’m sure this will come up at his ped appt. If the ped is concerned, tests may ordered.

Are you sure he hasn’t started puberty? My 14yo has no outward signs that I would notice (voice, facial or armpit hair etc) but has definitely started puberty per our ped. The only signs at first are below the belt, which you would (obviously) probably not be aware of. The major growth comes a bit later, usually- sometimes a lot later.

Has your DS ever been tall? Has he been growing fine the last few years- but just not a growth spurt yet? What were your and DH’s growth patterns- did either of you mature on the late side? I believe peds take all of that, and more, into account.

My own DS is a bit behind at age 14.5 but DH was the same, so it is no surprise. Our ped has no concerns.

As someone who has been through this with a son who started puberty on the late side, and was followed by an endocrinologist for a period of time, this is the best reply OP has received.

What signs have you checked for? Are you familiar with Tanner stages? The earliest outward sign of puberty isn't something most parents are going to notice (testicle enlargement).

Has he fallen off his growth curve? Was he still on the curve at his 13 yr check-up?

Were you or your DH late to start puberty?

This is OP. When I said zero signs, I meant zero signs. He has definitely not started puberty at all. I started puberty at a normal time (about 11) and DH doesn’t really remember though said it was gradual with no big growth spurt. He wasn’t exceptionally tall until college but also wasn’t small at any point. He does remember that he didn’t shave until college though, but he also started college at 17.

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Anonymous wrote:

That’s an average height at that age. See an endocrinologist if you are worried.


It’s definitely not, especially for a kid with tall parents, and the issue is that he has zero signs of puberty.

NP here. It's somewhat below average, but not extraordinarily so. My son is also almost 14, and is 5'4". He's in the 40th percentile for height, as is his best friend whose dad is 6'2" (a few months older than DS).
OP, when you say zero signs of puberty, what do you mean? My son's first sign of puberty was armpit hair, which I would not have noticed if he had not given me a hug at the beach (he is blonde). His voice began to change shortly thereafter.

When I say zero I mean he is in all ways like a child. Absolutely no signs at all.

Anonymous wrote:

That’s an average height at that age. See an endocrinologist if you are worried.


It’s definitely not, especially for a kid with tall parents, and the issue is that he has zero signs of puberty.

NP here. It's somewhat below average, but not extraordinarily so. My son is also almost 14, and is 5'4". He's in the 40th percentile for height, as is his best friend whose dad is 6'2" (a few months older than DS).
OP, when you say zero signs of puberty, what do you mean? My son's first sign of puberty was armpit hair, which I would not have noticed if he had not given me a hug at the beach (he is blonde). His voice began to change shortly thereafter.

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Anonymous wrote:I’m sure this will come up at his ped appt. If the ped is concerned, tests may ordered.

Are you sure he hasn’t started puberty? My 14yo has no outward signs that I would notice (voice, facial or armpit hair etc) but has definitely started puberty per our ped. The only signs at first are below the belt, which you would (obviously) probably not be aware of. The major growth comes a bit later, usually- sometimes a lot later.

Has your DS ever been tall? Has he been growing fine the last few years- but just not a growth spurt yet? What were your and DH’s growth patterns- did either of you mature on the late side? I believe peds take all of that, and more, into account.

My own DS is a bit behind at age 14.5 but DH was the same, so it is no surprise. Our ped has no concerns.

As someone who has been through this with a son who started puberty on the late side, and was followed by an endocrinologist for a period of time, this is the best reply OP has received.

What signs have you checked for? Are you familiar with Tanner stages? The earliest outward sign of puberty isn't something most parents are going to notice (testicle enlargement).

Has he fallen off his growth curve? Was he still on the curve at his 13 yr check-up?

Were you or your DH late to start puberty?

Anonymous wrote:

That’s an average height at that age. See an endocrinologist if you are worried.


It’s definitely not, especially for a kid with tall parents, and the issue is that he has zero signs of puberty.

NP here. It's somewhat below average, but not extraordinarily so. My son is also almost 14, and is 5'4". He's in the 40th percentile for height, as is his best friend whose dad is 6'2" (a few months older than DS).
OP, when you say zero signs of puberty, what do you mean? My son's first sign of puberty was armpit hair, which I would not have noticed if he had not given me a hug at the beach (he is blonde). His voice began to change shortly thereafter.