Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Imho, for elders the physiological affects of treatment is more than most can bare. It's harder on them than the reality of dying. Please let it always be their decision, without judgement, and not a decision they make based on loved one's emotions.
Why infantilize the elderly? I agree to respect their wishes entirely, and without judgment, and without regard to what the family would want. But, barring dementia or something like that, we should not assume that elderly are not able to mentally cope with treatments less than younger adults.
Doesn't physiological mean physical symptoms, not mental ones?
Yes. I think pp misread the post.
That's embarrassing!
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Imho, for elders the physiological affects of treatment is more than most can bare. It's harder on them than the reality of dying. Please let it always be their decision, without judgement, and not a decision they make based on loved one's emotions.
Why infantilize the elderly? I agree to respect their wishes entirely, and without judgment, and without regard to what the family would want. But, barring dementia or something like that, we should not assume that elderly are not able to mentally cope with treatments less than younger adults.
Doesn't physiological mean physical symptoms, not mental ones?
Yes. I think pp misread the post.
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Imho, for elders the physiological affects of treatment is more than most can bare. It's harder on them than the reality of dying. Please let it always be their decision, without judgement, and not a decision they make based on loved one's emotions.
Why infantilize the elderly? I agree to respect their wishes entirely, and without judgment, and without regard to what the family would want. But, barring dementia or something like that, we should not assume that elderly are not able to mentally cope with treatments less than younger adults.
Doesn't physiological mean physical symptoms, not mental ones?
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Imho, for elders the physiological affects of treatment is more than most can bare. It's harder on them than the reality of dying. Please let it always be their decision, without judgement, and not a decision they make based on loved one's emotions.
Why infantilize the elderly? I agree to respect their wishes entirely, and without judgment, and without regard to what the family would want. But, barring dementia or something like that, we should not assume that elderly are not able to mentally cope with treatments less than younger adults.
Anonymous wrote:Imho, for elders the physiological affects of treatment is more than most can bare. It's harder on them than the reality of dying. Please let it always be their decision, without judgement, and not a decision they make based on loved one's emotions.
Anonymous wrote:Hi All, wanted to post an update. My Mom has been on meds for about 7 months to try and shrink the cancer…unfortunately having bad side effects. However, a recent scan shows the meds are working!! The cancer is shrinking and detaching from the muscle wall…the surgeon says she can do the surgery depending on clearance from other doctors. Nothing scheduled just yet. But it was really positive to hear the results from the latest scan.
Anonymous wrote:Hi All, wanted to post an update. My Mom has been on meds for about 7 months to try and shrink the cancer…unfortunately having bad side effects. However, a recent scan shows the meds are working!! The cancer is shrinking and detaching from the muscle wall…the surgeon says she can do the surgery depending on clearance from other doctors. Nothing scheduled just yet. But it was really positive to hear the results from the latest scan.
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:I would also think about your mom's overall health and how aggressively she wants to treat this. Some people have great quality of life in their 80s and some don't.
That’s what has me most worried. She definitely doesn’t want aggressive treatment.
My mom had a different type of cancer and we wasted her last 5 months seeking treatment that bought her little time (if any) and made her miserable. It’s tough to think about, but in hindsight I wish we’d just rented a condo at the beach for that time and took turns visiting with her. I know it’s easy for me to say that now, knowing how my story ended. Hugs.
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:I would also think about your mom's overall health and how aggressively she wants to treat this. Some people have great quality of life in their 80s and some don't.
That’s what has me most worried. She definitely doesn’t want aggressive treatment.
Anonymous wrote:The treatment options right now are taking hormonal therapy and a mid level chemo drug to stop progressions and shrink the tumors. She’s now saying she’s not sure she wants to do it. I’m feeling frustrated.