My MIL didn’t like the fact we were getting married. Didn’t try to get to know them because I don’t engage in the nonsense she engaged in and am not going to attempt to placate a grown adults delusions of importance.

She knew nothing about me and thought I was a loser, which was so far from the truth. I just wasn’t flashy.

I was marrying her daughter not her. He is marrying your daughter not you.

I truly feel posts like this are impossible to answer. Maybe OP you are normal and the husband is a bad guy and you should say something! Or maybe you're like my mom and invent elaborate villainous backstories for anyone your children become close to. It is impossible to tell from these online posts. Ask other people in your life who know him and listen to what they say. If they hedge, maybe you are cuckoo, if they jump to agreement, then hey maybe you should say something.

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Anonymous wrote:Are you Republican? My dad was Republican pre trump era, and my ex who was black obviously wasn't having it, though he was polite to them.

Good point. Republicans are well known to have bad marriages.

Is there any way you can talk your daughter into calling off the wedding?

Dems very rarely get divorced. It's much, much more common among conservatives. The data is there.

Dims (and yes, I spelled correctly) get divorced all the time.
This forum is proof.

Well aren't you clever!

I guess this is what happens when the leading comedic light of your "movement" is Greg Gutfeld.

Anonymous wrote:Are you Republican? My dad was Republican pre trump era, and my ex who was black obviously wasn't having it, though he was polite to them.

I think what this PP is saying is maybe he's staying quiet because he thinks the parents of the bride have very different political opinions so he's keeping his mouth shut.

Anonymous wrote:She’s going to be fine.
Also make sure he is not a narcissist.

But you can’t take people arguing as a sign of that. Everyone disagrees about the chores sometimes.

+1

Anonymous wrote:Are you Republican? My dad was Republican pre trump era, and my ex who was black obviously wasn't having it, though he was polite to them.

Wow! You would marry someone who puts politics above family?!?!? Wow!

I’d think you could encourage her to go to premarital counseling. The first website on the Internet says that couples who get premarital counseling are 50% less likely to get divorced. Here’s the link:

https://www.jouslinesavra.com/does-premarital-counseling-help-you-avoid-divorce-in-marriage-a-closer-look/#:~:text=The%20short%20answer%20here%20is,as%20a%20couple%20before%20marriage.

Tell her that you want her to have an amazing life and in your mom experience, the couples who are the happiest process their tough stuff before getting married. This conversation should be less than five minutes. Text her a pertinent link. Then never bring it up again. Don’t ask her if she went. Whether your daughter’s marriage will be stronger or she won’t get married to a poor match, it’s a win. I had a dear friend dodge an absolute bullet in premarital counseling. Would recommend it to any couple.

Anonymous wrote:OP, I have three married daughters. Their husbands are all completely different from each other. Really only one seems to care all that much about our family. But all three are devoted to our daughters and that’s ALL that counts.

You’re not the one marrying the guy. Your daughter is.

Excellent advice.

I also think the daughter warned the guy about the mom, that she's a busy body and to say vei little.

Op, unless you want your daughter to distance yourself from you keep your mouth closed.