Anonymous wrote:Another glaring example of women trying to police what good masculinity is, but God forbid anyone tell them how a "lady" should act?

You have to laugh.

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Anonymous wrote:I'm a year older than you so I think I can add some generational perspective here. He's cheap for accepting your offer to pay - most men who are gentlemen would turn you down - but you are making it needlessly awkward. Venmo? It needs to be a little smoother than that. Let him pay for dinner and then you suggest a round of drinks somewhere that you can pay for.

However, I did pay for a fourth date recently and that was because he had to step outside for a work call and I thought it was tacky to just sit there with the bill in the middle of the table until he was done. And when he came back in and realized I had already paid he was mortified.

Why offer to pay at all?

I mean, you're preaching to the choir. I don't offer to pay. But I also think a lot of women do and men who accept their offers to do so aren't gentlemen. I only pay in extenuating circumstances like the one I mentioned where the guy had to step out to take a work call, OR if it's like his birthday or he just got a promotion or something. But the latter is more in relationships, not dating. I would be so grossed out if a guy I wasn't exclusive with expected me to pay.

They aren’t “gentlemen???” WTF is this 1950. Women are impossible.

Cope.

WhErE dId tHe GOoD mEn Go?!?

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Anonymous wrote:I'm a year older than you so I think I can add some generational perspective here. He's cheap for accepting your offer to pay - most men who are gentlemen would turn you down - but you are making it needlessly awkward. Venmo? It needs to be a little smoother than that. Let him pay for dinner and then you suggest a round of drinks somewhere that you can pay for.

However, I did pay for a fourth date recently and that was because he had to step outside for a work call and I thought it was tacky to just sit there with the bill in the middle of the table until he was done. And when he came back in and realized I had already paid he was mortified.

Why offer to pay at all?

I mean, you're preaching to the choir. I don't offer to pay. But I also think a lot of women do and men who accept their offers to do so aren't gentlemen. I only pay in extenuating circumstances like the one I mentioned where the guy had to step out to take a work call, OR if it's like his birthday or he just got a promotion or something. But the latter is more in relationships, not dating. I would be so grossed out if a guy I wasn't exclusive with expected me to pay.

They aren’t “gentlemen???” WTF is this 1950. Women are impossible.

Cope.

WhErE dId tHe GOoD mEn Go?!?

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Anonymous wrote:I mean burgers and beer has to be what, $50? And he is squawking at paying that? This guy is a tool. This wasn’t some fine dining experience that you used him for. I would move on.

+1 I can't imagine being in a relationship or marriage with a man that tight with his money. Will only get worse with the years, kids, house payment, etc.

Anonymous wrote:I find it absolutely extraordinary that women expect men to pay for dates in 2023. Period. It should be 50/50 every single time.

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Anonymous wrote:I'm a year older than you so I think I can add some generational perspective here. He's cheap for accepting your offer to pay - most men who are gentlemen would turn you down - but you are making it needlessly awkward. Venmo? It needs to be a little smoother than that. Let him pay for dinner and then you suggest a round of drinks somewhere that you can pay for.

However, I did pay for a fourth date recently and that was because he had to step outside for a work call and I thought it was tacky to just sit there with the bill in the middle of the table until he was done. And when he came back in and realized I had already paid he was mortified.

Why offer to pay at all?

I mean, you're preaching to the choir. I don't offer to pay. But I also think a lot of women do and men who accept their offers to do so aren't gentlemen. I only pay in extenuating circumstances like the one I mentioned where the guy had to step out to take a work call, OR if it's like his birthday or he just got a promotion or something. But the latter is more in relationships, not dating. I would be so grossed out if a guy I wasn't exclusive with expected me to pay.

They aren’t “gentlemen???” WTF is this 1950. Women are impossible.

Cope.

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Anonymous wrote:I'm a year older than you so I think I can add some generational perspective here. He's cheap for accepting your offer to pay - most men who are gentlemen would turn you down - but you are making it needlessly awkward. Venmo? It needs to be a little smoother than that. Let him pay for dinner and then you suggest a round of drinks somewhere that you can pay for.

However, I did pay for a fourth date recently and that was because he had to step outside for a work call and I thought it was tacky to just sit there with the bill in the middle of the table until he was done. And when he came back in and realized I had already paid he was mortified.

Why offer to pay at all?

I mean, you're preaching to the choir. I don't offer to pay. But I also think a lot of women do and men who accept their offers to do so aren't gentlemen. I only pay in extenuating circumstances like the one I mentioned where the guy had to step out to take a work call, OR if it's like his birthday or he just got a promotion or something. But the latter is more in relationships, not dating. I would be so grossed out if a guy I wasn't exclusive with expected me to pay.

They aren’t “gentlemen???” WTF is this 1950. Women are impossible.

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Anonymous wrote:I'm a year older than you so I think I can add some generational perspective here. He's cheap for accepting your offer to pay - most men who are gentlemen would turn you down - but you are making it needlessly awkward. Venmo? It needs to be a little smoother than that. Let him pay for dinner and then you suggest a round of drinks somewhere that you can pay for.

However, I did pay for a fourth date recently and that was because he had to step outside for a work call and I thought it was tacky to just sit there with the bill in the middle of the table until he was done. And when he came back in and realized I had already paid he was mortified.

Why offer to pay at all?

I mean, you're preaching to the choir. I don't offer to pay. But I also think a lot of women do and men who accept their offers to do so aren't gentlemen. I only pay in extenuating circumstances like the one I mentioned where the guy had to step out to take a work call, OR if it's like his birthday or he just got a promotion or something. But the latter is more in relationships, not dating. I would be so grossed out if a guy I wasn't exclusive with expected me to pay.

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Anonymous wrote:I'm a year older than you so I think I can add some generational perspective here. He's cheap for accepting your offer to pay - most men who are gentlemen would turn you down - but you are making it needlessly awkward. Venmo? It needs to be a little smoother than that. Let him pay for dinner and then you suggest a round of drinks somewhere that you can pay for.

However, I did pay for a fourth date recently and that was because he had to step outside for a work call and I thought it was tacky to just sit there with the bill in the middle of the table until he was done. And when he came back in and realized I had already paid he was mortified.

Why offer to pay at all?

I mean, you're preaching to the choir. I don't offer to pay. But I also think a lot of women do and men who accept their offers to do so aren't gentlemen. I only pay in extenuating circumstances like the one I mentioned where the guy had to step out to take a work call, OR if it's like his birthday or he just got a promotion or something. But the latter is more in relationships, not dating. I would be so grossed out if a guy I wasn't exclusive with expected me to pay.

Anonymous wrote:I mean burgers and beer has to be what, $50? And he is squawking at paying that? This guy is a tool. This wasn’t some fine dining experience that you used him for. I would move on.

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Anonymous wrote:Women are all about equality until they date, then they expect the man to pay.

Ladies, quick translation for you. When men say snarky comments like this, they are really saying "I'm broke."

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Anonymous wrote:Women are all about equality until they date, then they expect the man to pay.

Ladies, quick translation for you. When men say snarky comments like this, they are really saying "I'm broke."

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Anonymous wrote:I'm a year older than you so I think I can add some generational perspective here. He's cheap for accepting your offer to pay - most men who are gentlemen would turn you down - but you are making it needlessly awkward. Venmo? It needs to be a little smoother than that. Let him pay for dinner and then you suggest a round of drinks somewhere that you can pay for.

However, I did pay for a fourth date recently and that was because he had to step outside for a work call and I thought it was tacky to just sit there with the bill in the middle of the table until he was done. And when he came back in and realized I had already paid he was mortified.

Why offer to pay at all?