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Anonymous wrote:Today Drunk Elephant and Lululemon. Tomorrow, "Why aren't you spending Christmas break in Aspen or St Barts?" This isn't going to end, so simply getting her a bit of Drunk Elephant and a couple of pieces of Lululemon are a short term solution to a longterm issue you will probably spend at least a couple of years dealing with.

This, and it's everywhere. Welcome the the aspirational social media lifestyle. When we were kids there were aspirational teen dreams too, but the difference is that now designer everything is made to appear attainable for all and appropriate for kids.

There are public middle schoolers in my are running around in VanCleef & Arpels Alhambra necklaces that start at $1500+.

I try not to judge how other people spend their money or how they raise their kids -- but I can't help feeling a bit disgusted by this.

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Anonymous wrote:I have a daughter in an elite private HS and have never heard of drunk elephant. Lululemon yea and she has a few bras and shorts.

Lol. “Elite”. Cool story. I’m sure it’s not that elite.

What do you care.

Anonymous wrote:Today Drunk Elephant and Lululemon. Tomorrow, "Why aren't you spending Christmas break in Aspen or St Barts?" This isn't going to end, so simply getting her a bit of Drunk Elephant and a couple of pieces of Lululemon are a short term solution to a longterm issue you will probably spend at least a couple of years dealing with.

This, and it's everywhere. Welcome the the aspirational social media lifestyle. When we were kids there were aspirational teen dreams too, but the difference is that now designer everything is made to appear attainable for all and appropriate for kids.

There are public middle schoolers in my are running around in VanCleef & Arpels Alhambra necklaces that start at $1500+.

We buy our kids just the basics and if they want to spend extra for a particular brand, they need to pay the difference out of their own pocket. So they mow lawns, save their birthday money, and shovel snow, etc. This is so they develop a good work ethic and learn how to save and spend wisely.

I grew up with my parents telling me we could never afford any of the things I wanted. It was incredibly rough. I also thought we were poor. Turns out we weren’t poor, my parents just weren’t good at that part of parenting. Don’t be like them, find a middle ground.

Anonymous wrote:I have a daughter in an elite private HS and have never heard of drunk elephant. Lululemon yea and she has a few bras and shorts.

Lol. “Elite”. Cool story. I’m sure it’s not that elite.

Anonymous wrote:Today Drunk Elephant and Lululemon. Tomorrow, "Why aren't you spending Christmas break in Aspen or St Barts?" This isn't going to end, so simply getting her a bit of Drunk Elephant and a couple of pieces of Lululemon are a short term solution to a longterm issue you will probably spend at least a couple of years dealing with.

I attended private school, and this is correct. The tuition is just one expense of many, especially for girls who are going to be peer pressured more to fit in.

Anonymous wrote:Lol that you think this is a private school thing.

My husband took our public school daughter and her public school friends—in, get this, FLYOVER COUNTRY, shopping and they went into Ulta. Friend spent over $100 on Drunk Elephant products. Her mom took it right back to the store the next day. I refuse to buy any—that stuff is for adult women, not tweens with normal skin. I use Cerave from Costco, they can too, unless they need something prescribed by a dermatologist.

There are Lululemon outlets but most of the merchandise there is there for a reason—weird colors or extreme sizes that didn’t sell. We’ve had some luck at resale shops.

Also my skin care strategy 🙃

Don't cave, OP. We don't spent frivolously because we have to pay full tuition. My DD understands that if she wants overpriced things, she has to babysit, pet sit, or mow lawns for the neighbors. I might splurge for such things on her birthday or Christmas, but that is it.

Anonymous wrote:We go to a public middle school and my daughter still wears Lululemon and uses drunk elephant. How are you affording private if $60 for one pair of shorts is going to break the bank?

“We” go to a public middle school? What grade are you in, OP?

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Anonymous wrote:Underage drinking is inappropriate, even for your fancy private school students.

huh?

I’m not PP, but…really? Zooming over your head?

Please explain, because I also don’t know why someone brought up underage drinking on a thread about overpriced skincare and clothing.

You, too???

I'm guessing due to the word drunk.

If the person who first brought up underage drinking was trying to be funny because of Drunk Elephant’s name, they failed spectacularly.

Np

I assume they were talking about peer pressure. What to wear, make up, hair styles, then next comes the sex, drugs, alcohol peer pressure.

We’re still buying overpriced Squishamallows.

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Anonymous wrote:Underage drinking is inappropriate, even for your fancy private school students.

huh?

I’m not PP, but…really? Zooming over your head?

Please explain, because I also don’t know why someone brought up underage drinking on a thread about overpriced skincare and clothing.

You, too???

I'm guessing due to the word drunk.

If the person who first brought up underage drinking was trying to be funny because of Drunk Elephant’s name, they failed spectacularly.

I have a rising 9th grade daughter at a private school (she started private school in 6th grade). She and her friends wear Lululemon to sports and on dress down days and love to try new beauty and skin care products. That being said, they also shop at H&M, TJ maxx, etc. my daughter will buy T-shirts from target too. She wears lulu shorts and Nike tempo shorts! We buy her some items, but she spends her allowance, birthday money, and money she has earned buying extras.

Be sure to check out the “We made too much” section of lululemon. Great deals compared to the standard cost. If you register online and set up a free membership, you can return the “We made too much” sale items for instore credit. Otherwise, they are final sale.

https://shop.lululemon.co...z0xcuuZ8t6

You will never find black or navy items, but you will find tons of other fun colors. They update this section with new items every Thursday.

Might be worth having your daughter go to a store to try on things to get an idea of her sizes. My daughter wears a 2 in the ebb to street tank, but a 6 in the swiftly tech T-shirt. Have her see what fits the best, buy a few basic solid color items at full price, and then order fun colors on their “We made too much” site. Hope this helps and I hope she has a great time in middle school!

Also, if you or your spouse are in the military, be sure to log your id with lululemon online. They offer a 15% military discount. They apply this to same items too.

If she feels that a pair of leggings, a pair of shorts, and a t-shirt will help her fit in initially, go for it. None of my daughter’s friends would ever judge a kid for not wearing certain brands and I think that your daughter will realize this as she gets to know others better. But, perhaps an item or two will help your teenager feel more confident as she starts a new school.

Good luck to her!

Just get her The Ordinary marula oil instead. Its just as good and $9. Then she can tell her friends they are being ridiculous.