Anonymous wrote:Pull the weeds like you promised.

lol.

I would love if it DH did that, but I'm the one who does it, mostly.

At least DH never forgets my bday.

Macy's gold necklace.

Anything that allows her to focus on herself - certificate for lunch with a friend, mani pedi, massage, facial, books, something for her hobby AND you doing something to make things easier for her - handle her responsibilities at home or for the kids.

Do the stuff around the house that needs doing, and do it in a manner that she will recognize as done. My husband, were he to see the suggestion about weeding, would mow everything down with a weed-whacker. He cleans the bathroom using paper towels and Windex. He bought me some chocolate that I liked once, and now he buys it for every occasion.

I'm not even a present person, for the most part. I just wish there were some effort behind it if he's going to go retail: does this look like A Birthday Present, or does it look like something I would actually enjoy?

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Anonymous wrote:Flowers, nice bottle of wine, gift card to one of her favorite stores inside a card with a loving and thoughtful message from you, dinner out at any restaurant you know she really enjoys.

This is the absolute floor floor in terms of a thoughtful intentional gift but it’s still better than the air fryer poor OP’s wife is going to end up with

how would you improve on it?

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Flowers, nice bottle of wine, gift card to one of her favorite stores inside a card with a loving and thoughtful message from you, dinner out at any restaurant you know she really enjoys.

This is the absolute floor floor in terms of a thoughtful intentional gift but it’s still better than the air fryer poor OP’s wife is going to end up with

Eh, it’s what I would want.

+1. I'm not into stuff. A night out without the kids where my husband made me feel like #1 would be all I need to feel special. Flowers at home would make the magic last a little longer.

Take her to dinner and call it a day.

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:How do you not know your wife well enough to be able to purchase something for her w/o crowdsourcing? Yes, the last minute is thoughtless. But this is the bigger issue.

If my birthday wasn’t in June it could have been my husband posting. Horrible gift giver.

What did you get?

This year was a major birthday—promise of a trip to see the northern lights that I’ll have to plan myself and we really can’t afford—so nothing. And the tween kids picked out a Stanley tumbler for me because they want me to be trendy.

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Flowers, nice bottle of wine, gift card to one of her favorite stores inside a card with a loving and thoughtful message from you, dinner out at any restaurant you know she really enjoys.

This is the absolute floor floor in terms of a thoughtful intentional gift but it’s still better than the air fryer poor OP’s wife is going to end up with

I'd like an air fryer! Also want to second the car detailing - my husband had a mobile guy come and do that last year and it was a great gift. I'd like to make it a yearly tradition.

That is a gift more for your family than you but if it makes you happy, let him know!

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Flowers, nice bottle of wine, gift card to one of her favorite stores inside a card with a loving and thoughtful message from you, dinner out at any restaurant you know she really enjoys.

This is the absolute floor floor in terms of a thoughtful intentional gift but it’s still better than the air fryer poor OP’s wife is going to end up with

Eh, it’s what I would want.

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Flowers, nice bottle of wine, gift card to one of her favorite stores inside a card with a loving and thoughtful message from you, dinner out at any restaurant you know she really enjoys.

This is the absolute floor floor in terms of a thoughtful intentional gift but it’s still better than the air fryer poor OP’s wife is going to end up with

Definitely no appliances!

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Flowers, nice bottle of wine, gift card to one of her favorite stores inside a card with a loving and thoughtful message from you, dinner out at any restaurant you know she really enjoys.

This is the absolute floor floor in terms of a thoughtful intentional gift but it’s still better than the air fryer poor OP’s wife is going to end up with

I'd like an air fryer! Also want to second the car detailing - my husband had a mobile guy come and do that last year and it was a great gift. I'd like to make it a yearly tradition.

Gift certificate to a spa plus offer to watch the kids all day on a Saturday or Sunday while I went to the spa.

Anonymous wrote:Flowers, nice bottle of wine, gift card to one of her favorite stores inside a card with a loving and thoughtful message from you, dinner out at any restaurant you know she really enjoys.

This is the absolute floor floor in terms of a thoughtful intentional gift but it’s still better than the air fryer poor OP’s wife is going to end up with

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:How do you not know your wife well enough to be able to purchase something for her w/o crowdsourcing? Yes, the last minute is thoughtless. But this is the bigger issue.

If my birthday wasn’t in June it could have been my husband posting. Horrible gift giver.

What did you get?