Anonymous
07/24/2023 10:01
Subject: Re:Would you miss either of these events for a girls weekend?
I would not miss either event.
Anonymous
07/24/2023 10:00
Subject: Would you miss either of these events for a girls weekend?
Anonymous wrote:It depends.
If I had a girls weekend scheduled in Europe, with a group of people, and we'd all agreed on a date, and then we find a sleep away camp that my kid wants to go to and it turns out the first day is when I'm away, absolutely I would miss it. My husband can handle something like that. Backing out of a trip like that for that reason after a weekend has been chosen is crappy.
If my friends and I are trying to schedule a weekend away, I would definitely lead with those dates not being good for me. BUT if it's like 10 people, you're going to have to be flexible to make it happen. People are going to have immovable commitments, and there's only so many weekends. I would sacrifice either of these to make that trip happen if it was the only option ASSUMING these are friends that are important to me and I want to go.
It's also okay to say (internally) "yes, this trip will be fun if it fits in my schedule, but at this stage in my life, I'm not willing to miss any even somewhat important kid things," provide the weekends that work for you, and if they don't work for others, say "I'm bummed to miss it, but my calendar is tight this year. You guys should go and have a great time, take lots of pictures for me."
Op - no we haven’t booked it yet, i said those weekends are an issue for me but apparently they are best for others
Anonymous
07/24/2023 09:50
Subject: Re:Would you miss either of these events for a girls weekend?
I would use any excuse to miss a girls weekend. They are a torture on so many levels.
Anonymous
07/24/2023 09:42
Subject: Re:Would you miss either of these events for a girls weekend?
Can we compare what DHs have missed for golf trips and a whole lot less?
Anonymous
07/24/2023 09:37
Subject: Would you miss either of these events for a girls weekend?
It depends.
If I had a girls weekend scheduled in Europe, with a group of people, and we'd all agreed on a date, and then we find a sleep away camp that my kid wants to go to and it turns out the first day is when I'm away, absolutely I would miss it. My husband can handle something like that. Backing out of a trip like that for that reason after a weekend has been chosen is crappy.
If my friends and I are trying to schedule a weekend away, I would definitely lead with those dates not being good for me. BUT if it's like 10 people, you're going to have to be flexible to make it happen. People are going to have immovable commitments, and there's only so many weekends. I would sacrifice either of these to make that trip happen if it was the only option ASSUMING these are friends that are important to me and I want to go.
It's also okay to say (internally) "yes, this trip will be fun if it fits in my schedule, but at this stage in my life, I'm not willing to miss any even somewhat important kid things," provide the weekends that work for you, and if they don't work for others, say "I'm bummed to miss it, but my calendar is tight this year. You guys should go and have a great time, take lots of pictures for me."
If I had a girls weekend scheduled in Europe, with a group of people, and we'd all agreed on a date, and then we find a sleep away camp that my kid wants to go to and it turns out the first day is when I'm away, absolutely I would miss it. My husband can handle something like that. Backing out of a trip like that for that reason after a weekend has been chosen is crappy.
If my friends and I are trying to schedule a weekend away, I would definitely lead with those dates not being good for me. BUT if it's like 10 people, you're going to have to be flexible to make it happen. People are going to have immovable commitments, and there's only so many weekends. I would sacrifice either of these to make that trip happen if it was the only option ASSUMING these are friends that are important to me and I want to go.
It's also okay to say (internally) "yes, this trip will be fun if it fits in my schedule, but at this stage in my life, I'm not willing to miss any even somewhat important kid things," provide the weekends that work for you, and if they don't work for others, say "I'm bummed to miss it, but my calendar is tight this year. You guys should go and have a great time, take lots of pictures for me."
Anonymous
07/24/2023 09:26
Subject: Would you miss either of these events for a girls weekend?
Is camp drop off actually at camp? Or at a random parking lot where they get on a bus to head to camp?
As for birthdays, I would celebrate before hand, and then leave a special gift behind for them to find on the actual day.
As for birthdays, I would celebrate before hand, and then leave a special gift behind for them to find on the actual day.
Anonymous
07/24/2023 09:21
Subject: Would you miss either of these events for a girls weekend?
I couldn't miss either. Sorry, I'm just being honest.
Anonymous
07/24/2023 09:16
Subject: Would you miss either of these events for a girls weekend?
Anonymous wrote:OMG you people and your drama. A birthday is just a day. It can be celebrated on another day. Both of my kids had delayed b-day family celebrations this year, nbd.
To a child it's not just a day. They have an entire lifetime of adult birthdays you can blow off as no big deal and celebrate on another day.
Anonymous
07/24/2023 08:42
Subject: Would you miss either of these events for a girls weekend?
I wouldn't miss the birthday but I'd be fine with my spouse handling camp drop-off.
Anonymous
07/24/2023 08:04
Subject: Would you miss either of these events for a girls weekend?
I personally would not miss the camp drop-off, but I would be open to missing a birthday. The reason why is because you can always pre-celebrate a birthday! In my family, The Day is not always the day on which we celebrate things. Of course the other parent can do something special on the actual birthday (like order pizza and have a cake), but you can have the birthday party or some other celebration the weekend before.
That said, what’s up with these replies? I can see why people would or wouldn’t skip either of these events for this purpose. OP was asking what you (an individual) would do. Asked and answered. Why do you feel the need to pick on someone who answers differently from you? Really do find something better to do with your time.
That said, what’s up with these replies? I can see why people would or wouldn’t skip either of these events for this purpose. OP was asking what you (an individual) would do. Asked and answered. Why do you feel the need to pick on someone who answers differently from you? Really do find something better to do with your time.
Anonymous
07/24/2023 08:01
Subject: Would you miss either of these events for a girls weekend?
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:I think girls trips are dumb. Team take your kid.
I honestly agree. And how does anyone do a "weekend" in Europe? Not even a full week?? Going overseas is something you put aside at least a week for, two or three ideally. The trains are fast, but not that fast if you want to see more than one cool city.
op - yes.
i am from europe and so are most of the 'girls'. but i live in the US now - so for them a weekend is super easy, for me it's obv farther. but i'm ok with that (can also go see my parents etc while there) but it does add a layer of complexity and makes it harder for me to schedule a little bit and obv a lot more $$
You might as well take your child to Europe with you if you are going to see your parents.
Op - maybe but that’s quite a hectic thing to wedge in between end of school and sleep away camp drop off
Anonymous
07/23/2023 23:39
Subject: Would you miss either of these events for a girls weekend?
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:I think girls trips are dumb. Team take your kid.
I honestly agree. And how does anyone do a "weekend" in Europe? Not even a full week?? Going overseas is something you put aside at least a week for, two or three ideally. The trains are fast, but not that fast if you want to see more than one cool city.
op - yes.
i am from europe and so are most of the 'girls'. but i live in the US now - so for them a weekend is super easy, for me it's obv farther. but i'm ok with that (can also go see my parents etc while there) but it does add a layer of complexity and makes it harder for me to schedule a little bit and obv a lot more $$
You might as well take your child to Europe with you if you are going to see your parents.
Anonymous
07/23/2023 23:31
Subject: Would you miss either of these events for a girls weekend?
Anonymous wrote:OMG you people and your drama. A birthday is just a day. It can be celebrated on another day. Both of my kids had delayed b-day family celebrations this year, nbd.
Sme with us. We actually rarely do parties on the day of. Often we do the closest weekend or another convenient day so missing a birthday is not a huge deal. We usually also do a family celebration and a friend celebration and never on the same day. I am surprised so many only celebrate on the day of and not on a weekend before or after when friends and family are more available to celebrate.
Anonymous
07/23/2023 23:26
Subject: Would you miss either of these events for a girls weekend?
OMG you people and your drama. A birthday is just a day. It can be celebrated on another day. Both of my kids had delayed b-day family celebrations this year, nbd.
Anonymous
07/23/2023 23:09
Subject: Would you miss either of these events for a girls weekend?
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:I think girls trips are dumb. Team take your kid.
I honestly agree. And how does anyone do a "weekend" in Europe? Not even a full week?? Going overseas is something you put aside at least a week for, two or three ideally. The trains are fast, but not that fast if you want to see more than one cool city.
op - yes.
i am from europe and so are most of the 'girls'. but i live in the US now - so for them a weekend is super easy, for me it's obv farther. but i'm ok with that (can also go see my parents etc while there) but it does add a layer of complexity and makes it harder for me to schedule a little bit and obv a lot more $$