If you are doing it to look pretty, then you can just skip the nails. That's one thing women grossly overestimate men care about. I have never found a women more or less attractive based on her nails. As long as they are neatly trimmed and not chewed on, they are fine to me

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Anonymous wrote:How much time is this taking?. Looking good is nice but if it takes away time from getting to know you as a person. Is it really worth it.

And no one wants to hear about your very special diet and the million things you can't eat.

Basically by middle age most people are looking for depth not just looks when it comes to long-term

On a weekly basis I spend 5 hours at the gym, 2 hours at yoga, 4 hours on skincare and nails.

How does yoga help you lookswise?

Yoga helps maintaining a strong core. 5 hours in a gym is not a low. I spend 10/week (2-3 workouts) and also on a strict diet (only salad at night. no bread, sugars, alcohol). It take a great will to preserve body and looks after 40 for women

It takes a lot for men too.

But the men don't talk about it. If they do, we'd roll our eyes. I recently brought to my DH's attention that most of the middle aged men around him are dyeing their hair and going to the gym daily. He did not even notice. He thought he was aging prematurely.

That’s just a lie. There is not a guy in the universe with any kind of fitness routine— and god forbid running marathons— you will not hear all about.

Disagree. My dh does triathlons, masters swim in the mornings before work, runs during lunch and never talks about it. He eats really healthfully too, a spinach salad heaped with vegetables for lunch every day, barely drinks and doesn't talk about it. (1.5 hours working out daily, 30 min prepping vegetables)

What he really wouldn't talk about is how I got him wearing sunscreen and moisturizer (with HA and vitamin c) every morning, tretinoin at night. He couldn't stand the tretinoin, but now it's just like flossing and he does it.

I have heard his friends joke about his high metabolism and how low maintenance he is. He actually thinks he's low maintenance too. I can't imagine most of them wake at 5am for masters swim.

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Anonymous wrote:Americans spend so much time with all this stuff and measure it to the n’th degree but you walk around Croatia or Argentina (dcum would say these are poor places) and everyone looks a lot prettier and healthier

Something is off

Lol no. I am from a “poor” country and if anything the women spend an incredible amount of time, energy, and money to look pretty. It’s even more important to them than it is to us.

Yep.

No they don't! They look atrociously fake, overdone, tacky, and thirsty.

They are not doing it for you. It is important to them to look that way.

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Anonymous wrote:Americans spend so much time with all this stuff and measure it to the n’th degree but you walk around Croatia or Argentina (dcum would say these are poor places) and everyone looks a lot prettier and healthier

Something is off

Lol no. I am from a “poor” country and if anything the women spend an incredible amount of time, energy, and money to look pretty. It’s even more important to them than it is to us.

Yep.

No they don't! They look atrociously fake, overdone, tacky, and thirsty.

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Anonymous wrote:Americans spend so much time with all this stuff and measure it to the n’th degree but you walk around Croatia or Argentina (dcum would say these are poor places) and everyone looks a lot prettier and healthier

Something is off

Lol no. I am from a “poor” country and if anything the women spend an incredible amount of time, energy, and money to look pretty. It’s even more important to them than it is to us.

Yep.

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Anonymous wrote:How much time is this taking?. Looking good is nice but if it takes away time from getting to know you as a person. Is it really worth it.

And no one wants to hear about your very special diet and the million things you can't eat.

Basically by middle age most people are looking for depth not just looks when it comes to long-term

On a weekly basis I spend 5 hours at the gym, 2 hours at yoga, 4 hours on skincare and nails.

How does yoga help you lookswise?

Yoga helps maintaining a strong core. 5 hours in a gym is not a low. I spend 10/week (2-3 workouts) and also on a strict diet (only salad at night. no bread, sugars, alcohol). It take a great will to preserve body and looks after 40 for women

It takes a lot for men too.

But the men don't talk about it. If they do, we'd roll our eyes. I recently brought to my DH's attention that most of the middle aged men around him are dyeing their hair and going to the gym daily. He did not even notice. He thought he was aging prematurely.

That’s just a lie. There is not a guy in the universe with any kind of fitness routine— and god forbid running marathons— you will not hear all about.

I don't know any man who runs marathons. From what I read here, these men who run marathons are in a special class of their own. 😆

All the men above 40 around me ( friends and family) except for my DH work out daily. I never hear about it.

But you have a point because their wives know. So they are probably yapping to their wives. Lol

Anonymous wrote:Americans spend so much time with all this stuff and measure it to the n’th degree but you walk around Croatia or Argentina (dcum would say these are poor places) and everyone looks a lot prettier and healthier

Something is off

Lol no. I am from a “poor” country and if anything the women spend an incredible amount of time, energy, and money to look pretty. It’s even more important to them than it is to us.

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Anonymous wrote:I’m mystified what you could be spending 4 hours on weekly for skin and nail care. One pedicure lasts 4-6 weeks and fingernails take 1/2 hour a week tops and that’s every other week. Skincare takes ten minutes a day max.

Gross, new poster here and I would not go more than 2.5 weeks max on a new mani/pedi.

Many people never have their nails done professionally and manage to keep them clean and presentable. Nothing gross about it.

Americans spend so much time with all this stuff and measure it to the n’th degree but you walk around Croatia or Argentina (dcum would say these are poor places) and everyone looks a lot prettier and healthier

Something is off

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Anonymous wrote:Op here. I spend 30 mins a day on skincare…..washing twice a day, exfoliating every other day, sunscreen, moisturizer, gua sha, eye cream, lash serum, and weekly facial. I spend 30 mins a week on nails (I don’t do gel or anything fake).

I have washed and moisturized twice a day since I was a teenager. Most women would not consider this a beauty routine at this point in life. It's just hygiene now. I wouldn't talk about it anymore than I would talk about brushing my teeth for 10 minutes a day.

Is it possible that you are talking about your upkeep too much? I have a 50 year old friend who spends too much time talking about how good she looks and how much effort she puts in. She looks very good, but she sounds kind of angry that she has to put in that work. It's not cute, and the whole room usually goes silent when she goes on her rant.

Exactly. Nothing OP does is so extensive that it has to be a focal point of conversation with someone she is dating. Maybe if they were living together, but not dating.

Of course, if she compulsively starts conversations to go on and on about her discipline and rigidity and how special that makes her, that could do it.

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Anonymous wrote:How much time is this taking?. Looking good is nice but if it takes away time from getting to know you as a person. Is it really worth it.

And no one wants to hear about your very special diet and the million things you can't eat.

Basically by middle age most people are looking for depth not just looks when it comes to long-term

On a weekly basis I spend 5 hours at the gym, 2 hours at yoga, 4 hours on skincare and nails.

How does yoga help you lookswise?

Yoga helps maintaining a strong core. 5 hours in a gym is not a low. I spend 10/week (2-3 workouts) and also on a strict diet (only salad at night. no bread, sugars, alcohol). It take a great will to preserve body and looks after 40 for women

It takes a lot for men too.

But the men don't talk about it. If they do, we'd roll our eyes. I recently brought to my DH's attention that most of the middle aged men around him are dyeing their hair and going to the gym daily. He did not even notice. He thought he was aging prematurely.

That’s just a lie. There is not a guy in the universe with any kind of fitness routine— and god forbid running marathons— you will not hear all about.

haha, this is true!

Anonymous wrote:I try to stay attractive by working out, eating healthy, and having a disciplined beauty regimen. Men I date appreciate that I look good. I’m middle aged and all of this stuff takes more time and money as I age. Even though guys like that I look nice, many don’t want to support the stuff I have to do to keep up. For instance, they may resent the time it takes or that I have to be strict with my diet. How do others handle this?

Just don't tell them when you are doing it - say you are going to the gym (or shopping) and then go get hair, nails, etc. done.

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Anonymous wrote:How much time is this taking?. Looking good is nice but if it takes away time from getting to know you as a person. Is it really worth it.

And no one wants to hear about your very special diet and the million things you can't eat.

Basically by middle age most people are looking for depth not just looks when it comes to long-term

On a weekly basis I spend 5 hours at the gym, 2 hours at yoga, 4 hours on skincare and nails.

How does yoga help you lookswise?

Yoga helps maintaining a strong core. 5 hours in a gym is not a low. I spend 10/week (2-3 workouts) and also on a strict diet (only salad at night. no bread, sugars, alcohol). It take a great will to preserve body and looks after 40 for women

It takes a lot for men too.

But the men don't talk about it. If they do, we'd roll our eyes. I recently brought to my DH's attention that most of the middle aged men around him are dyeing their hair and going to the gym daily. He did not even notice. He thought he was aging prematurely.

That’s just a lie. There is not a guy in the universe with any kind of fitness routine— and god forbid running marathons— you will not hear all about.

So true! And, if it's your dh, he expects you to listen to the details and be interested. When my dh does this, it sounds like he's farting words.

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Anonymous wrote:How much time is this taking?. Looking good is nice but if it takes away time from getting to know you as a person. Is it really worth it.

And no one wants to hear about your very special diet and the million things you can't eat.

Basically by middle age most people are looking for depth not just looks when it comes to long-term

On a weekly basis I spend 5 hours at the gym, 2 hours at yoga, 4 hours on skincare and nails.

How does yoga help you lookswise?

Yoga helps maintaining a strong core. 5 hours in a gym is not a low. I spend 10/week (2-3 workouts) and also on a strict diet (only salad at night. no bread, sugars, alcohol). It take a great will to preserve body and looks after 40 for women

It takes a lot for men too.

But the men don't talk about it. If they do, we'd roll our eyes. I recently brought to my DH's attention that most of the middle aged men around him are dyeing their hair and going to the gym daily. He did not even notice. He thought he was aging prematurely.

That’s just a lie. There is not a guy in the universe with any kind of fitness routine— and god forbid running marathons— you will not hear all about.

Anonymous wrote:Stop living for various rando guys you meet from the internet. Start living your own fabulous healthy life and having your own interests.

this!