We found someone in her early 60s who did this. We did not use her room on the weekends when she was away.

She was a retired teacher. Her DH was retired too, and he was annoying ( helpless) the crap out of her. It was originally for her benefit even though we ended up benefitting a lot from it. She was a great cook and insisted on making dinner for all of us every night. And she made some pretty healthy juice for me. She enjoyed her quest time in her room in the evenings.

Her DH would drive her to our house Sunday nights and pick her up on Friday evening. He was always so eager to see her on Fridays. 😆

She did this for almost a year and he became more self sufficient.

This is how we have arranged our living situation with our live-in nanny. She has her own dedicated room and bathroom, where she keeps all of her personal belongings. Out of respect for her privacy, we never enter her room without obtaining her permission, even on weekends. She essentially occupies an entire floor to herself. While we would have been open to her staying with us during weekends, she prefers to spend that time with her relatives and friends, so she often goes out. She doesn't have her own place here in DMV area but she has a strong support network of friends and family who live nearby, and she can easily stay with them. This arrangement seems to benefit both parties involved. Our family can enjoy our privacy, while our nanny can make the most of her free time and socialize. Typically, she departs on Friday evenings to be with her relatives and friends, returning on Sunday evenings to begin her workweek with us. We consider ourselves incredibly fortunate to have established this unique arrangement with our live-in nanny. We recognize that it's not the conventional setup for nannies and their employers, and we truly appreciate our good fortune in being able to both find her and afford this exceptional form of childcare.

I hope that you can also find someone as kind, capable, and dedicated as our nanny. Our search was aided by resources like neighborhood.com, professional nanny agencies, and we went to the extent of engaging with nannies at the park during our search, seeking potential referrals.

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Anonymous wrote:My friends had Indian ladies who liked this setup. The aunties lived with their children permanently. This allowed them to have some income and their kids had their space. They typically did this once their own grandchildren were past the nanny stage.

So these nannies were quite old?

If they had kids 18-25 and their kids had kids 18-25, they wouldn't be more than 55, maybe 60. Plenty of women nanny to 65.

Yep my grandma had her first kid at 18 and her last at 24. My first cousin was born when she was in her early 40s.

Why do you want it, OP? We had a live in for many years - obviously all 7 days. But she wasn't working or available to us or even really around on the weekends - she lived with us, but she did her own thing. Are you worried she will be in the way? I agree with PPs that you can't use her room anyway so not sure the benefit and it will be almost impossible to find.

Anonymous wrote:OP, what is your rationale for wanting a nanny who disappears on the weekends?

+1 I’m curious too. All her stuff stays in her room, even over the weekends, unless you plan on using the room on the weekends for something else, which would really be lousy.

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Anonymous wrote:My niece did this for awhile (not in the DC or NYC area). Basically on the weekends she stayed with her boyfriend who had his own apt, no roommates. Because she only stayed 2 days a week, it did not violate his lease terms regarding guests. She would hang out there a couple nights a week after work but sleep at her nanny's house.

I think she did it a little over a year and ended things on good terms with the family. She just matured out of the arrangement.

It's nice that it worked out for you niece, but it doesn't sound like an ideal situation. If a nanny is depending on staying at a boyfriend's house every weekend, it puts her in a vulnerable position. What if he becomes abusive, or starts using drugs? She'll feel obligated to still stay with him so she isn't homeless every weekend. Or what if they just break up, or he gets a new job opportunity and needs to move?

My partner is significantly older than I am. I'm looking to move in with him (he's planning on proposing after I move in), and I'm going to transition from 24/7 to a new family who needs 14-24 hour coverage weekdays and is fine with live-out M-F when the parent is home. I will still do 24/7 when the parent travels.

This is a weird post.
1. What does it have to do with the post you quoted?
2. Why is he waiting to propose after you move in? Either he wants to marry you or he doesn't.

I think it could work for the right person (as others have said, someone who lives at home with parents/family). Especially if they live further away and don't want to commute daily. You will limit your options but I don't think its impossible to find.

I don't understand what is in it for OP though. Are you thinking you would have them work extra hours M-F? Or pay the nanny less because you are providing housing 5 days a week? Or do you work an overnight shift and just need someone there? I don't see how it benefits you without it being a major red flag for the nanny.

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Anonymous wrote:My niece did this for awhile (not in the DC or NYC area). Basically on the weekends she stayed with her boyfriend who had his own apt, no roommates. Because she only stayed 2 days a week, it did not violate his lease terms regarding guests. She would hang out there a couple nights a week after work but sleep at her nanny's house.

I think she did it a little over a year and ended things on good terms with the family. She just matured out of the arrangement.

It's nice that it worked out for you niece, but it doesn't sound like an ideal situation. If a nanny is depending on staying at a boyfriend's house every weekend, it puts her in a vulnerable position. What if he becomes abusive, or starts using drugs? She'll feel obligated to still stay with him so she isn't homeless every weekend. Or what if they just break up, or he gets a new job opportunity and needs to move?

My partner is significantly older than I am. I'm looking to move in with him (he's planning on proposing after I move in), and I'm going to transition from 24/7 to a new family who needs 14-24 hour coverage weekdays and is fine with live-out M-F when the parent is home. I will still do 24/7 when the parent travels.