Anonymous
Post 01/06/2026 12:15     Subject: I pee my pants - what should I ask Dr
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:Pelvic floor PT


Yes ask for this specifically. If they suggest kegels, you know you are talking to someone who doesn't know what they are talking about.


They usually ask you to do kegels between appointments.
Anonymous
Post 01/06/2026 12:14     Subject: I pee my pants - what should I ask Dr
Referral to a urogynecologist and a PT referral for pelvic floor PT.

I am really surprised you did not pursue this after your first. Peeing after sneezing is enough to get pelvic floor PT. And yes, they will make you do kegels. It is part of PT but there is also other things.
Anonymous
Post 01/06/2026 09:25     Subject: Re:I pee my pants - what should I ask Dr
Anonymous wrote:OP here. I'm getting the sling on Monday from a urologist. I was doing another search online looking for recovery information and found this old post I made. Closing the loop that I'm getting it done. I've since talked to so many people that I've had it done and said it's life-changing. I will report back if I remember to.


Good Luck, OP! Sending you good wishes for your procedure.
Anonymous
Post 01/06/2026 09:19     Subject: Re:I pee my pants - what should I ask Dr
OP here. I'm getting the sling on Monday from a urologist. I was doing another search online looking for recovery information and found this old post I made. Closing the loop that I'm getting it done. I've since talked to so many people that I've had it done and said it's life-changing. I will report back if I remember to.
Anonymous
Post 10/25/2024 07:35     Subject: Re:I pee my pants - what should I ask Dr
If you get the sling, MAKE SURE YOU HAVE IT DONE BY A UROLOGIST. Not a urogynecologist. Trust me on this. Urologists are much better surgeons and far better trained at this. I made the mistake of going to a urogynecologist (who came highly recommended) and have suffered for the last seven years as a result. Urologists are routinely called in to repair botched surgeries by gynecologists.
Anonymous
Post 10/24/2024 23:39     Subject: Re:I pee my pants - what should I ask Dr
You need a bladder sling, with PFPT pre and post surgery. Your leakage is pretty severe, and I’m in a lot of prolapse/prolapse surgery groups. You should get a POP-Q at the urogyn and ask about prolapse repairs too (although I think all of the DC doctors are much too quick to jump to hysterectomies as part of their prolapse repair surgeries in younger women).

Also — it wasn’t the c section recovery that did this to you. It was the vaginal deliveries. If you were leaking after a c section only, Pfpt probably would help, because the root cause would be some scar tissue and tight muscles. But this is from the muscles and fascia that got shredded in the vaginal deliveries. (Yes, we should be warned in advance.)

Anonymous
Post 09/19/2024 02:31     Subject: I pee my pants - what should I ask Dr
Op I had a friend with this problem, and there is a surgery for it. With this level severity they will not recommend kegels.
Anonymous
Post 09/18/2024 22:22     Subject: Re:I pee my pants - what should I ask Dr
I have prolapse. When I run my bladder empties itself.

I wanted to avoid surgery (for now anyway), so I got a pessary. It works great.

I’m single and not having sex (sad) so it doesn’t interfere with my life. I take it out once a week to clean it, but I’m not sure that’s really necessary.
Anonymous
Post 09/18/2024 22:05     Subject: Re:I pee my pants - what should I ask Dr
Anonymous wrote:Okay OP here. A year later, nothing has improved. I have lost 20 lbs and no impact. I go for 2-4 mile walks frequently and soak an entire bladder leak long/heavy flow pad, and sometimes even that can't contain everything. I tried 3-4 PT but I truly saw no path for improvement with cat/cow and basic things she was recommending.

I want to talk to my dr about surgery, and considering taking short term disability / FMLA to do recovery right (unlike a c section where I picked my 1 year old up within 2 days, which is maybe part of the reason why Im here?).

Has anyone had surgery and is HAPPY with the experience? I've read lots of negative things about mesh and slings. Or can someone detail their daily life wit a pessiary? Would just love insight on moving beyond PT into surgery options.

Thanks all.


I can’t speak to surgery but I had severe injuries in childbirth. I used pilates on a reformer, PT, a video called HabIt and yoga. I still have prolapses. But I never leak.
Anonymous
Post 09/18/2024 21:59     Subject: Re:I pee my pants - what should I ask Dr
Anonymous wrote:Okay OP here. A year later, nothing has improved. I have lost 20 lbs and no impact. I go for 2-4 mile walks frequently and soak an entire bladder leak long/heavy flow pad, and sometimes even that can't contain everything. I tried 3-4 PT but I truly saw no path for improvement with cat/cow and basic things she was recommending.

I want to talk to my dr about surgery, and considering taking short term disability / FMLA to do recovery right (unlike a c section where I picked my 1 year old up within 2 days, which is maybe part of the reason why Im here?).

Has anyone had surgery and is HAPPY with the experience? I've read lots of negative things about mesh and slings. Or can someone detail their daily life wit a pessiary? Would just love insight on moving beyond PT into surgery options.

Thanks all.


I tried PT, pessary neither work for me.

I was diagnosed with prolapse, which was related to the leaking, but I guess you can have leaking without the prolapse.

I had a hysterectomy, with additional procedure to fix the prolapse (laparoscopic colposuspension that uses mesh)... recovery was rougher than I expected, i think i got four weeks short term disability, which i had thought it was too much, but it was barely enough. Surgery gave me normal life activities back., no regrets!. Two years so far, feeling great.

Oh, only thing I can't run anymore, no high-impact activities. But my case sound much more severe than yours as the prolapse was severe, on top of the leaking.
Anonymous
Post 09/18/2024 06:18     Subject: I pee my pants - what should I ask Dr
You need pelvic floor pt. You can do this at home.
Anonymous
Post 09/18/2024 00:35     Subject: I pee my pants - what should I ask Dr
Anonymous wrote:Ask for a prescription to Trospium. It really helped me.



+1. There are many drugs available to help with stress incontinence. I started on one after DS was born. He's now 26
Anonymous
Post 09/17/2024 23:38     Subject: I pee my pants - what should I ask Dr
Before you do anything permanent or chemical to your body, definitely book a few sessions with a pelvic floor physical therapist. There’s a great deal that can be done through exercises and PT
Anonymous
Post 09/17/2024 21:29     Subject: I pee my pants - what should I ask Dr
The sling surgery was amazing for me. You won’t need FMLA. It’s a simple procedure and I was comfortable in a day or two. It’s a tiny, tiny slit inside your vagina…nothing like a c section.
Anonymous
Post 09/17/2024 21:25     Subject: Re:I pee my pants - what should I ask Dr
Get a new doctor. Generally patients are referred to PT first and then discuss surgery options if that does not address the issue. But there are things to do...you may be referred directly to a surgeon. It does sound like prolapse.