Anonymous
Post 06/27/2023 15:09     Subject: I cannot believe there are still people out there spanking their children...

Anonymous wrote:I was spanked as a child.
I don’t have sexual fetishes. I don’t have violence issues. Not sure why we are flipping out about a smack on the bottom for discipline purposes.

I find gentle parenting a lot more alarming

I was spanked as a child an ended up in a dating violence situation. I put up with it for 2 years ( and nearly lost my life) because I believed that it was ok for people who love me to hit me like my parents did. I will never hit a kid.
Anonymous
Post 06/27/2023 15:07     Subject: Re:I cannot believe there are still people out there spanking their children...

Anonymous wrote:I cant believe that in this day and age when we know so much about the brain, people are willing to basically give their kids a lifelong sexual fetish by doing this! Why do they think it’s potentially arousing for adults but not children?

Studies show the excitement and fear combined with stimulation in that area potentially triggers aggression, a sexual response and future interest in s&m, even though of course that isn’t the parents’ intention. I’m sure it doesn’t happen the majority of the time but it’s very, very common. Poor kids.



Tf is wrong with you
Anonymous
Post 06/27/2023 15:07     Subject: I cannot believe there are still people out there spanking their children...

Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:Spanking teaches kids that they can get someone to do what they want by hitting them.

It also teaches them that violence is an acceptable way to handle situations. Further, it teaches them that someone can love you and also hit you...aka domestic violence.


+1
Anonymous
Post 06/27/2023 15:05     Subject: I cannot believe there are still people out there spanking their children...

Anonymous wrote:Spanking teaches kids that they can get someone to do what they want by hitting them.

It also teaches them that violence is an acceptable way to handle situations. Further, it teaches them that someone can love you and also hit you...aka domestic violence.
Anonymous
Post 06/27/2023 15:05     Subject: I cannot believe there are still people out there spanking their children...

I was spanked as a child.
I don’t have sexual fetishes. I don’t have violence issues. Not sure why we are flipping out about a smack on the bottom for discipline purposes.

I find gentle parenting a lot more alarming
Anonymous
Post 06/27/2023 15:02     Subject: I cannot believe there are still people out there spanking their children...

Anonymous wrote:I work in an elementary school. It's surprising how many kids say they get spanked. On the other hand, is it really that big of a deal? One of my kids remembers every single "consequence" I ever dished out as if it were a horrible trauma. Oh well.

That particular child needed something else from you which you failed to provide. Your discipline felt like abuse because the child is sensitive and requires a more thoughtful approach.
Anonymous
Post 06/27/2023 15:02     Subject: I cannot believe there are still people out there spanking their children...

Anonymous wrote:
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Anonymous wrote:Spanking teaches kids that they can get someone to do what they want by hitting them.


Taking away a toy, timeout, leaving the playground, revoking TV teaches kids that they can get someone to do what they want by taking their stuff, confining them to a chair or step, taking them from something they want to do, or preventing them from watching a show.


Not the same and you know it.


They’re all punishments.


Some are logical consequences. Hitting is violence. Why can’t another adult hit another adult then for things like knocking over a drink or not listening the first time?


They are no more or less logical than spanking.

Why can’t another adult put me in timeout for not listening?


Tell me you don’t understand child development without telling me you don’t understand child development.


Sorry, but this is not Reddit. You’re going to need to actually formulate a response.
Anonymous
Post 06/27/2023 15:00     Subject: I cannot believe there are still people out there spanking their children...

Anonymous wrote:
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Anonymous wrote:Spanking teaches kids that they can get someone to do what they want by hitting them.


Taking away a toy, timeout, leaving the playground, revoking TV teaches kids that they can get someone to do what they want by taking their stuff, confining them to a chair or step, taking them from something they want to do, or preventing them from watching a show.


Not the same and you know it.


They’re all punishments.


Some are logical consequences. Hitting is violence. Why can’t another adult hit another adult then for things like knocking over a drink or not listening the first time?


They are no more or less logical than spanking.

Why can’t another adult put me in timeout for not listening?


Tell me you don’t understand child development without telling me you don’t understand child development.
Anonymous
Post 06/27/2023 15:00     Subject: I cannot believe there are still people out there spanking their children...

Anonymous wrote:I completely agree with you, OP. It’s a barbaric thing to do and people can no longer claim ignorance, we have the research showing its harm and long term ill effects.


There is no valid, controlled research. There are correlative observations based on self-reported data and gathered by biased researchers.
Anonymous
Post 06/27/2023 15:00     Subject: I cannot believe there are still people out there spanking their children...

I have no issues about how I was spanked. It should be rare
Anonymous
Post 06/27/2023 14:59     Subject: I cannot believe there are still people out there spanking their children...

Anonymous wrote:
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Anonymous wrote:Spanking teaches kids that they can get someone to do what they want by hitting them.


Taking away a toy, timeout, leaving the playground, revoking TV teaches kids that they can get someone to do what they want by taking their stuff, confining them to a chair or step, taking them from something they want to do, or preventing them from watching a show.


Not the same and you know it.


They’re all punishments.


Some are logical consequences. Hitting is violence. Why can’t another adult hit another adult then for things like knocking over a drink or not listening the first time?


They are no more or less logical than spanking.

Why can’t another adult put me in timeout for not listening?
Anonymous
Post 06/27/2023 14:59     Subject: I cannot believe there are still people out there spanking their children...

Anonymous wrote:Me and all my siblings were spanked. We're all okay. We grew up well-behaved too.


Do you and your siblings spank your kids?
Anonymous
Post 06/27/2023 14:57     Subject: I cannot believe there are still people out there spanking their children...

I completely agree with you, OP. It’s a barbaric thing to do and people can no longer claim ignorance, we have the research showing its harm and long term ill effects.
Anonymous
Post 06/27/2023 14:56     Subject: I cannot believe there are still people out there spanking their children...

Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:Spanking teaches kids that they can get someone to do what they want by hitting them.


Taking away a toy, timeout, leaving the playground, revoking TV teaches kids that they can get someone to do what they want by taking their stuff, confining them to a chair or step, taking them from something they want to do, or preventing them from watching a show.


Not the same and you know it.


They’re all punishments.


Some are logical consequences. Hitting is violence. Why can’t another adult hit another adult then for things like knocking over a drink or not listening the first time?
Anonymous
Post 06/27/2023 14:54     Subject: I cannot believe there are still people out there spanking their children...

Me and all my siblings were spanked. We're all okay. We grew up well-behaved too.