Anonymous wrote:I was spanked as a child.
I don’t have sexual fetishes. I don’t have violence issues. Not sure why we are flipping out about a smack on the bottom for discipline purposes.
I find gentle parenting a lot more alarming
Anonymous wrote:I cant believe that in this day and age when we know so much about the brain, people are willing to basically give their kids a lifelong sexual fetish by doing this! Why do they think it’s potentially arousing for adults but not children?
Studies show the excitement and fear combined with stimulation in that area potentially triggers aggression, a sexual response and future interest in s&m, even though of course that isn’t the parents’ intention. I’m sure it doesn’t happen the majority of the time but it’s very, very common. Poor kids.
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Spanking teaches kids that they can get someone to do what they want by hitting them.
It also teaches them that violence is an acceptable way to handle situations. Further, it teaches them that someone can love you and also hit you...aka domestic violence.
Anonymous wrote:Spanking teaches kids that they can get someone to do what they want by hitting them.
Anonymous wrote:I work in an elementary school. It's surprising how many kids say they get spanked. On the other hand, is it really that big of a deal? One of my kids remembers every single "consequence" I ever dished out as if it were a horrible trauma. Oh well.
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Spanking teaches kids that they can get someone to do what they want by hitting them.
Taking away a toy, timeout, leaving the playground, revoking TV teaches kids that they can get someone to do what they want by taking their stuff, confining them to a chair or step, taking them from something they want to do, or preventing them from watching a show.
Not the same and you know it.
They’re all punishments.
Some are logical consequences. Hitting is violence. Why can’t another adult hit another adult then for things like knocking over a drink or not listening the first time?
They are no more or less logical than spanking.
Why can’t another adult put me in timeout for not listening?
Tell me you don’t understand child development without telling me you don’t understand child development.
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Spanking teaches kids that they can get someone to do what they want by hitting them.
Taking away a toy, timeout, leaving the playground, revoking TV teaches kids that they can get someone to do what they want by taking their stuff, confining them to a chair or step, taking them from something they want to do, or preventing them from watching a show.
Not the same and you know it.
They’re all punishments.
Some are logical consequences. Hitting is violence. Why can’t another adult hit another adult then for things like knocking over a drink or not listening the first time?
They are no more or less logical than spanking.
Why can’t another adult put me in timeout for not listening?
Anonymous wrote:I completely agree with you, OP. It’s a barbaric thing to do and people can no longer claim ignorance, we have the research showing its harm and long term ill effects.
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Spanking teaches kids that they can get someone to do what they want by hitting them.
Taking away a toy, timeout, leaving the playground, revoking TV teaches kids that they can get someone to do what they want by taking their stuff, confining them to a chair or step, taking them from something they want to do, or preventing them from watching a show.
Not the same and you know it.
They’re all punishments.
Some are logical consequences. Hitting is violence. Why can’t another adult hit another adult then for things like knocking over a drink or not listening the first time?
Anonymous wrote:Me and all my siblings were spanked. We're all okay. We grew up well-behaved too.
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Spanking teaches kids that they can get someone to do what they want by hitting them.
Taking away a toy, timeout, leaving the playground, revoking TV teaches kids that they can get someone to do what they want by taking their stuff, confining them to a chair or step, taking them from something they want to do, or preventing them from watching a show.
Not the same and you know it.
They’re all punishments.