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Anonymous wrote:How does he know they didn’t take pics of him? Or assault him in some way?
I would totally tell the parents.

He doesn’t know if there are any photos but I wouldn’t be surprised if there were.

They asked him in urgent care questions I assumed were related to a possible assault.

He had no strange marks, cuts or bruises on his body. Just some washable market on his face. He was fully clothed when he woke up.

My heart is just breaking…

I'm so sorry OP. This must be so hard.

Anonymous wrote:Do you know the kids’ parents at all? I would ask them to raise it with their kids ensuring my child doesn’t come across as the one who told. Obviously these kids think drugging someone is funny, so who knows what they would do.

There were 14 boys there. Maybe another was uncomfortable with the whole thing. Maybe they also did it to someone else.

I know all of the parents and have all of their numbers. Am I close to any? No.

I know I’d be very surprised to learn if one of the boys was in on it. He’s a sweet kid and his moms do not mess around. But he had to at least know what was happening, I’m not sure why he didn’t speak up. I guess if it wasn’t my son it would have been him.

I may reach out to them as they’ve been the most approachable.

Anonymous wrote:Melatonin is not dangerous at all.

If taken in small does and you know about it. Many will even disagree with that.

I let one of my teens take a small dose of melatonin before bed. We discuss with his doctor every year and he’s okay with this.

I would be livid if I was OP. You shouldn’t sneak anything with the intention on having someone else take it without their knowledge.

No, I would not tell the parents but I’d encourage my kid to find new friends/team and I would say no to future sleepovers. Telling parents isn’t effective at this age. More often it causes more issues.

OP, I'm sorry this happened to your son.

You need to tell the parents. You need to tell the coach. You need to ditch the soccer team. What happens when next time it's something stronger than melatonin? Because it will; happen again, especially if there are no consequences.

Anonymous wrote:I have socially awkward teen desperate for friends so I understand.

Bare minimum is that he need to get off that soccer team and find another one. He’s not safe around those kids and should never be around them.

If you can do that then I might consider not contacting the other parents.

Ugh…

He has practice tomorrow and has told me he’s going to pretend it didn’t happen. I haven’t gotten a chance to really talk to DH about it but I do think we are done with this soccer team.

He’s played since he was 6 but this is a newer team he started in last year.

Anonymous wrote:How does he know they didn’t take pics of him? Or assault him in some way?
I would totally tell the parents.

He doesn’t know if there are any photos but I wouldn’t be surprised if there were.

They asked him in urgent care questions I assumed were related to a possible assault.

He had no strange marks, cuts or bruises on his body. Just some washable market on his face. He was fully clothed when he woke up.

My heart is just breaking…

Did you see the report recently about all the other crap that’s in melatonin gummies? This was dangerous for so many reasons. You have to exercise your adult judgment here, OP, even if your son doesn’t like it. You have to tell the parents and coach. I’m very sorry this happened.

The parents need to know and hopefully will take action with their sons.

Otherwise, when your son leaves the team, they will do this to the kid they perceive as the “next weakest” and that kid might not be lucky enough to escape serious medical consequences.

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Anonymous wrote:He doesn’t want you to say anything, but his relationship with them is already ruined because he can’t hang out with them anymore. It’s not safe. Those knuckleheads weren’t smart enough to realize drugging him could endanger him. It’s not like he can attend another sleepover even if you don’t say anything. There’s no much to lose by notifying the parents.

This. He can play it different ways socially ("My mom thought I'd been drinking!") but he's not going to hang out with them except soccer and school, and maybe not even soccer. So explain to him the friendship is toast anyway.

And escalate with the other adults, because this was cruel as well as dangerous. I would tell the coach as well as the parents: sportsmanship and team trust are within his sphere, he could justifiably cut them for this (unlikely maybe, but not impossible).

This. OP let yourself be the bad guy who forced him to go to the doctor because you thought he'd been drinking.

Do you know the kids’ parents at all? I would ask them to raise it with their kids ensuring my child doesn’t come across as the one who told. Obviously these kids think drugging someone is funny, so who knows what they would do.

There were 14 boys there. Maybe another was uncomfortable with the whole thing. Maybe they also did it to someone else.

Anonymous wrote:How does he know they didn’t take pics of him? Or assault him in some way?
I would totally tell the parents.

Of course they took pictures. That is why you need to involve the parents. They are not his friends.

Anonymous wrote:He doesn’t want you to say anything, but his relationship with them is already ruined because he can’t hang out with them anymore. It’s not safe. Those knuckleheads weren’t smart enough to realize drugging him could endanger him. It’s not like he can attend another sleepover even if you don’t say anything. There’s no much to lose by notifying the parents.

This. He can play it different ways socially ("My mom thought I'd been drinking!") but he's not going to hang out with them except soccer and school, and maybe not even soccer. So explain to him the friendship is toast anyway.

And escalate with the other adults, because this was cruel as well as dangerous. I would tell the coach as well as the parents: sportsmanship and team trust are within his sphere, he could justifiably cut them for this (unlikely maybe, but not impossible).

To say nothing to the parent is to give tacit approval for this ridiculously stupid behavior. Assuming the most positive intentions, these boys meant no harm and were just playing around. If you say nothing, there’s no adult to help them learn what a stupid stunt this was and that their so-called jokes aren’t really jokes. They will continue to engage in this behavior.

Please send the parents and coach most of what you wrote in your OP.

Horrible! I would absolutely report this to the parents. And the coach.

I'm sorry but I think you have to tell the other parents. This could end badly if you don't they can do this with another drug and another kid.