Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Change my last name and gave the family last name to the kids. I honestly think it’s petulant and trying too hard to do anything else. Flame away.

Huh. Not sure how it's "trying too hard" to NOT change your name. Really, it's the least possible effort, since you do...nothing.

Way to be dense. That's not what "trying too hard" means. The worst are the SAHM's who don't change their name. Too feminist to take their husband's name but not too feminist to be fully financially supported by him. Huge eyeroll.

I'm a sahm with my own last name and your jealousy is both flattering and amusing. PP is right, it is so easy to do because you literally do nothing!

Hyphenated last names and double barrelled last names are such a pain. Ask me how I know. Grown ups can pull it off without looking pretentious, but with kids it looks try-hard wannabe social climber. Even in Latin America where they are standard, the custom is to only use the first of your two last names in social situations. Do your kid a favor and stick with one.

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Change my last name and gave the family last name to the kids. I honestly think it’s petulant and trying too hard to do anything else. Flame away.

Huh. Not sure how it's "trying too hard" to NOT change your name. Really, it's the least possible effort, since you do...nothing.

Way to be dense. That's not what "trying too hard" means. The worst are the SAHM's who don't change their name. Too feminist to take their husband's name but not too feminist to be fully financially supported by him. Huge eyeroll.

Anonymous wrote:Change my last name and gave the family last name to the kids. I honestly think it’s petulant and trying too hard to do anything else. Flame away.

Why would I flame you. I don't care what you do.

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I know a couple where the wife didn’t take the husband’s last name. Their first child was given wife’s last name. Their second child was given husband’s last name.

da fook

I grew up with a family like this. It was confusing at first but then it didn't matter. You just get used to people having different last names. Once you know the members of the family, it's not confusing anymore.

We all share a hyphenated last name. Mine-DH's.

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Anonymous wrote:Asa feminist I felt really guilty taking my husband’s last name, but I’ve always hated mine, and his is really unique and tied to his country of origin. My last name was made up by my grandfather when he immigrated to the US, so it’s both silly and has no familial or historical significance. If I’d liked my name I would have kept it.

What is feminist about preferring your father's name over someone's else?

Aaand this is why I am a feminist! Sexism is everywhere still. It’s MY name. If my husband’s name belongs to him, then my name belongs to me. I’ve had it my whole life. It’s mine.

Anonymous wrote:Change my last name and gave the family last name to the kids. I honestly think it’s petulant and trying too hard to do anything else. Flame away.

Huh. Not sure how it's "trying too hard" to NOT change your name. Really, it's the least possible effort, since you do...nothing.

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Asa feminist I felt really guilty taking my husband’s last name, but I’ve always hated mine, and his is really unique and tied to his country of origin. My last name was made up by my grandfather when he immigrated to the US, so it’s both silly and has no familial or historical significance. If I’d liked my name I would have kept it.

What is feminist about preferring your father's name over someone's else?

Wut

This is a common attitude. Somehow a man owns his own name, even if he got it from his dad, but a woman doesn't. I've had my last name since birth. How isn't it my name as much as my dad's?

Anonymous wrote:An acquaintance traced roots of his last name, it came from his slaveowner his great- great-grand pa was owned by and also found out that his real great-grand pa's best friend was grand pa's real dad. He said his pride and sense of connection to his last name evaporated pretty fast.

Thank god he’s practicing virtue signaling

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Asa feminist I felt really guilty taking my husband’s last name, but I’ve always hated mine, and his is really unique and tied to his country of origin. My last name was made up by my grandfather when he immigrated to the US, so it’s both silly and has no familial or historical significance. If I’d liked my name I would have kept it.

What is feminist about preferring your father's name over someone's else?

Wut

Anonymous wrote:Asa feminist I felt really guilty taking my husband’s last name, but I’ve always hated mine, and his is really unique and tied to his country of origin. My last name was made up by my grandfather when he immigrated to the US, so it’s both silly and has no familial or historical significance. If I’d liked my name I would have kept it.

What is feminist about preferring your father's name over someone's else?

Asa feminist I felt really guilty taking my husband’s last name, but I’ve always hated mine, and his is really unique and tied to his country of origin. My last name was made up by my grandfather when he immigrated to the US, so it’s both silly and has no familial or historical significance. If I’d liked my name I would have kept it.

Change my last name and gave the family last name to the kids. I honestly think it’s petulant and trying too hard to do anything else. Flame away.

Anonymous wrote:I kept my name and gave DD mine as her middle. She likes having both and it’s never been a problem (we’re in DC and about half of kids have this set up or both last names as their last).

That's what we did as well! Our son loves it.