Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:
You made a reasonable request and your father responded defensively. It would have cost him nothing to ask whether your son had other socks.

Other posters are being weird. You did nothing wrong.

13 is not 31. A 13 year should still be helped with stuff.

Maybe the other posters have incapable, grumpy fathers? This issue would not have come up in my family. My father would have asked my son to change his socks, or called me to say had only one pair! And then he would have took it upon himself to wash and dry the one pair so that his grandkid didn’t have to walk about in dirty socks!

A grandfather taking a 13 year old on a sporty active beach vacation hardly sounds incapable or grumpy. OP managing the socks from afar is annoying. Let it go.

Anonymous wrote:
You made a reasonable request and your father responded defensively. It would have cost him nothing to ask whether your son had other socks.

Other posters are being weird. You did nothing wrong.

13 is not 31. A 13 year should still be helped with stuff.

Maybe the other posters have incapable, grumpy fathers? This issue would not have come up in my family. My father would have asked my son to change his socks, or called me to say had only one pair! And then he would have took it upon himself to wash and dry the one pair so that his grandkid didn’t have to walk about in dirty socks!

Anonymous wrote:Yes, it would have been better to send a direct text to your son to change socks. But if my dad responded to me the way your dad did, I would be pissed. That is no way to speak to me or how a normal family should interact.

No way to speak to you? What are you even talking about? We don't know the tone either used. I see nothing offensive at all in the father's response. If you're overly sensitive, that's on you.

What's with wearing socks on the beach vacation? Is this beach in Canada?

They are both sporty (well, for my dad, relatively so for an older guy), so they are doing athletic activities, not just hanging out on the beach. I apologized to my dad, he accepted and determined that the issue was that my son packed socks but could not find them in his bag (I have no idea how this is possible, it is not a large bag). It's all resolved. Thanks.

Sorry I agree with your Dad here. Unnecessary comment, it is socks who cares? This is the type of thing to let go. The important thing is whether he is having fun and building a bond with your dad on this trip, not what socks he is wearing. As others said he isn't going to get gangrene or something.

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:It's socks. Agree with your dad that he doesn't need you micromanaging from home.

You must not have experience with athlete's foot

They are at the beach. There's a very good chance he's not wearing any socks most of the day so the socks are likely only getting worn a few hours at a time. We don't need to conjure up all the things that can go wrong with feet like he's been traipsing around in the Amazon for 5 days with damp socks.

Anonymous wrote:
You made a reasonable request and your father responded defensively. It would have cost him nothing to ask whether your son had other socks.

Other posters are being weird. You did nothing wrong.

13 is not 31. A 13 year should still be helped with stuff.

You are as ridiculous as OP is.
Leave dad and kid the F alone.
They will be fine.

Anonymous wrote:I don’t see anything wrong with what OP did. Kids are gross sometimes and her one question does not reflect in any way on grandpa’s ability as a caretaker. He overreacted.

It's a good way to guarantee grandpa won't make such a generous offer in the future. So what does OP care more about, the ridiculous socks or trusting her son and father enough to travel together? His feet will be fine. OP needs to relax.

Anonymous wrote:OP you're a killjoy. Total killjoy.

Wow you have a low threshold on what will kill your joy!

Anonymous wrote:It's socks. Agree with your dad that he doesn't need you micromanaging from home.

You must not have experience with athlete's foot

You made a reasonable request and your father responded defensively. It would have cost him nothing to ask whether your son had other socks.

Other posters are being weird. You did nothing wrong.

13 is not 31. A 13 year should still be helped with stuff.

Yes, it would have been better to send a direct text to your son to change socks. But if my dad responded to me the way your dad did, I would be pissed. That is no way to speak to me or how a normal family should interact.

OP what you’re learning here is that you think your son is self-reliant, but he’s actually reliant on you observing everything he does and correcting him.

I don’t see anything wrong with what OP did. Kids are gross sometimes and her one question does not reflect in any way on grandpa’s ability as a caretaker. He overreacted.

Your THIRTEEEN year old teenager can't change socks on his own??

This has nothing to do with your dad, and you should apologize to him.