This originated in black culture. Not surprising that white people are now latching on to it, and other white people are now criticizing it.

It’s fake and phony as heck. Knock it off. Makes you look stupid and fake. Ugh.

My black co-workers often use this phrase instead of thanks! in text messages or slack. Maybe they're from the south? Never heard it from a white or asian person (I'm also asian). I like it, it sounds more personable than a generic thanks.

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Anonymous wrote:In DC this has been a thing black people say to each other for a long time. I think it sounds less genuine coming from white people, and I'm not sure why that is.

DH is born and raised in DC and all his friends and family have said this as long as I have known them. 20+ years, so not new to us

Yup born and raised in DC. White people say this too.

I don't really like it either. I would prefer: "I appreciate that you did x for me"; or "I appreciate that you are so kind".

"I appreciate you" just feels a bit throwaway/lazy/insincere.

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Anonymous wrote:I’ve only heard this phrase from black people in the DC area. When I held the door for a guy and he said, “I appreciate you,” I liked the phrase and thought the saying was nice.
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Wouldn’t “I appreciate it” be more accurate? He appreciated your act of opening the door, not you as a person.

I think it’s nicer than appreciate it. It means you are just appreciating the one thing. You shows you appreciate the person. I would not say it to a stranger, but I use it with my family.

But this was a stranger saying it to you.

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Anonymous wrote:I’ve only heard this phrase from black people in the DC area. When I held the door for a guy and he said, “I appreciate you,” I liked the phrase and thought the saying was nice.
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Wouldn’t “I appreciate it” be more accurate? He appreciated your act of opening the door, not you as a person.

I think it’s nicer than appreciate it. It means you are just appreciating the one thing. You shows you appreciate the person. I would not say it to a stranger, but I use it with my family.

Grew up in rural/suburban central Florida. Very common.

Anonymous wrote:I’ve only heard this phrase from black people in the DC area. When I held the door for a guy and he said, “I appreciate you,” I liked the phrase and thought the saying was nice.
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Wouldn’t “I appreciate it” be more accurate? He appreciated your act of opening the door, not you as a person.

I have a coworker who says this and it’s the fakest thing ever. The first few times I thought she was actually trolling me. She’s a pretty mean, backstabbing person in general though. Maybe if it were a kind person it would come off different.

I've lived in DC for 20 years and have heard it and used it forever. Primarily from my Black and Brown friends/family. I have caught people of guard - seemingly in a good way wherein I can tell they've never heard it.

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Anonymous wrote:I like it. Ted Lasso says it .

I often say: "Thank you. I appreciate you." In a world where we've become more disconnected from each other I'm a fan of showing more appreciation and kindness.

+1. Ted Lasso is where I first heard it.

Nah, way before Ted Lasso. Come on.

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Anonymous wrote:In DC this has been a thing black people say to each other for a long time. I think it sounds less genuine coming from white people, and I'm not sure why that is.

I'm white, lived in DC for 30 years. This is something I've always said. I thought it was a DC thing.

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I'm also white and have lived in the NoVA area most of my life. This is not a new phrase. I think a lot of transplants think it's new?

Yes it's clear that some people think this phrase is new just because they didn't grow up hearing it. It's a regional/cultural thing, if it's new to you it just means you only recently started interacting with people who say it (or watched Ted Lasso, I guess).

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Anonymous wrote:In DC this has been a thing black people say to each other for a long time. I think it sounds less genuine coming from white people, and I'm not sure why that is.

I'm white, lived in DC for 30 years. This is something I've always said. I thought it was a DC thing.

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I'm also white and have lived in the NoVA area most of my life. This is not a new phrase. I think a lot of transplants think it's new?

Anonymous wrote:Agree is it a very old phrase in DC, and that Ted Lasso is making it a more broadly common phrase.

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It's a southern phrase. I love the fact that Ted Lasso popularized it.