Anonymous
Post 06/16/2023 20:08     Subject: Re:Sad that I have never experienced healthy romantic love
I am a mentally ill stalker and my husband is ugly.
Anonymous
Post 06/16/2023 19:06     Subject: Re:Sad that I have never experienced healthy romantic love
Anonymous wrote:Divorce now!!! You are still young and have a great chance at an awesome relationship. Hell I'm 44 and although I do have a 14 year old son just last year found a man that I think is the first healthy, stand up guy who treats me right.


+1
Anonymous
Post 06/16/2023 19:05     Subject: Sad that I have never experienced healthy romantic love
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:I'm in the same situation wish I had the guts to leave.

Op here. I am terrified of being alone and being single in my late thirties and childless is basically my nightmare!


You are alone now but tethered to someone who doesn’t want kids. Get out and gov e
yourself a chance at happiness.


Divorce now. Staying will be worse. Believe me.
Anonymous
Post 06/16/2023 10:13     Subject: Sad that I have never experienced healthy romantic love
If you really want to be a mom, I’d divorce asap and use a sperm donor or adopt. You still have time to become a mom. I have friends who did IVF and had babies into their early 40s. It sounds like you have the resources based on your family. But you cannot waste time with this dud anymore. Use it as a lesson going forward and try to find a better partner in the future. Look for other people who married young and then divorced/are looking for a fresh start.
Anonymous
Post 06/16/2023 10:10     Subject: Sad that I have never experienced healthy romantic love
Freeze your eggs and divorce. Do not have kids with this man.

My friend found a wonderful guy at 37. she dumped her fiancé at 35 when she saw some red flags.

when she became ok with being alone, she found a good man to marry and have a kid with.
Anonymous
Post 06/16/2023 10:06     Subject: Sad that I have never experienced healthy romantic love
Anonymous wrote: A 25 year old should be mature enough to judge if a partner has good character and similar goals or not. Most things can change but not core values of a grown person. You weren't 17 and naive.

Now at 35, you still aren't mature enough to either be fully in your marriage or get out of it. Just because you are daddy's princess, doesn't mean your husband would've similar unconditional love. You look down upon him, treat him with contempt and he resents you like one would resent a controlling mom.

You can't just pick someone and hope to mold him into your ideal father.

I'm not trying to be mean, just trying to see things from another possible perspective and get you out of self pity and do something to improve your situation.


Yes, you are trying to be mean and you are cruel. You are a nasty pos.

- DP
Anonymous
Post 06/16/2023 10:01     Subject: Sad that I have never experienced healthy romantic love
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:I'm in the same situation wish I had the guts to leave.

Op here. I am terrified of being alone and being single in my late thirties and childless is basically my nightmare!


But, it’s less nightmare-ish than being married to an unemployed, un-empathetic husband and raising a kid with a bad dad?

OP, right now you only have bad choices in front of you - the least worse one is being single and childless. At least that choice allows for the possibility of a better future. Divorce, get a therapist and work on doing the things that are in your control to make a happy life.
Anonymous
Post 06/16/2023 00:17     Subject: Sad that I have never experienced healthy romantic love
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:I am sorry about your miscarriage.

As a mom, you are in some ways living a life I envy, having the freedom of childlessness.

There are incredible things about it.

What a clueless if not nasty thing to say to someone who wants children.


Okay. Well I once felt kind of like OP when I was dealing with my own fertility issues and I wish I had treasured the good sides of being childless, honestly


True. You can be so focused on one thing that it eclipses everything else. OP has depression and needs treatment, not necessarily romance and babies.



+1 Wherever you go, there you are…
Anonymous
Post 06/16/2023 00:12     Subject: Sad that I have never experienced healthy romantic love
I ended a terrible relationship in my mid-30’s. Granted we weren’t married, but had been together a long time and assumed a future together. When I left, I decided to build my life in a way that I could be happy even if I were to go it alone. It was hard at first, but a year later I was living my best life and felt fully in control of my happiness. I think because I was so comfortable with myself, I met someone in my late 30’s, got married and have 2 great kids now. You just never know where life takes you. You are so young and have so much to look forward to if you take a chance on yourself.
Anonymous
Post 06/15/2023 19:33     Subject: Re:Sad that I have never experienced healthy romantic love
OP, I agree with everyone here. Divorce and start fresh. Terrified of being in your 30s and childless? Of course. But more of what you have going now is a recipe for so much misery.
Anonymous
Post 06/15/2023 14:07     Subject: Sad that I have never experienced healthy romantic love
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:I'm in the same situation wish I had the guts to leave.

Op here. I am terrified of being alone and being single in my late thirties and childless is basically my nightmare!


If you leave at least you have an element of hope. If you stay, you know what you are dealing with.
Anonymous
Post 06/15/2023 13:58     Subject: Re:Sad that I have never experienced healthy romantic love
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:Op here. I’m not rich and neither are my parents anymore.


Well with an unemployed husband, you'd be a lot richer on your own than married.


+1 if you can support a man then why not support a kid instead
Anonymous
Post 06/15/2023 12:13     Subject: Sad that I have never experienced healthy romantic love
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:I am sorry about your miscarriage.

As a mom, you are in some ways living a life I envy, having the freedom of childlessness.

There are incredible things about it.

What a clueless if not nasty thing to say to someone who wants children.


Okay. Well I once felt kind of like OP when I was dealing with my own fertility issues and I wish I had treasured the good sides of being childless, honestly


True. You can be so focused on one thing that it eclipses everything else. OP has depression and needs treatment, not necessarily romance and babies.
Anonymous
Post 06/15/2023 12:11     Subject: Sad that I have never experienced healthy romantic love
I don't doubt her husband's immaturity don't see any maturity in OP herself either.