it is not your place to raise this.

Feed him healthy food when he comes home. Model a good lifestyle (walks, gym whatever).

That is all you can do. He is in charge of his life now.

OP just based on your post, I hope for your son’s sake that he doesn’t talk to you about any of his problems.

Feed him healthy food this summer. He may realize he likes that- feels better again and make different choices going forward. Or not. It's difficult but freeing to know you're not in control at all any for his choices. Your influence is by cooking healthy meals this summer.

Feed him healthy food this summer. He may realize he likes that- feels better again and make different choices going forward. Or not. It's difficult but freeing to know you're not in control at all any for his choices. Your influence can be by cooking healthy meals this summer.

Why do you think he doesn’t know or care? He does know but definitely doesn’t want to talk to you about it.

Poor kid! It would not take much to find out who he is by your giving such personal information about him. MYOB, Mom! You need to lay off on that easily identifiable info.

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Anonymous wrote:At 6'2" and 200 pounds, he probably still needs to put on more weight.

This. He was incredibly underweight at 175 before. He is probably finally done with puberty and needs to fill out.

But what you do about this is NOTHING. ABSOLUTELY NOTHING. He is an adult, his weight is not your problem. Your role in teaching him about food and nutrition is over.

This OMG. My 15 yo is 6’0/180 and his hockey coach told him to shoot for 6’0/200. My other son is 6’3/180 and he definitely needs to gain weight. At 6’2, 200 is probably closer to his correct weight.

What do you think will actually happen if you say something? I can promise you it’ll have zero effect on his weight but it WILL tell him you are watching him and judging him and that he is not good enough in your eyes.

keep it to yourself and start to do do some reading and learning to change your mindset over time

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Anonymous wrote:It doesn't matter how identifiable OP's DS is because this happens to so many college freshman - who cares if you can google his name (which is a creepy thing to do, btw).

OP, there isn't anything you can do. The Freshman 15 is really the Freshman 30. He'll come around in time.

My parents gently approached me about my weight gain in college after I did a study abroad. To be honest, I don't think I realized how much weight I had gained because I had never gained weight before.

It's because someone he knows he doesn't need to google him could read this. And they will know his mommy is very upset about his beer gut.

PP here. Good point. I skimmed over the extreme details when I read the OP. Now, looking back at it, wow, that's a lot of unnecessary detail. Suspiciously so.

So suspiciously so. Potential twist: this is the child’s grandparent posting here so he or she can get responses to shame her daughter- or son-in-law to take action to get this former athletic star back in Facebook brag-worthy shape.

Perhaps I’m paranoid, but my MIL has done similar and worse. I can’t imagine a loving parent giving out the details of the kid’s HS sports and college. There is no reason to do so to get advice. Or it could be a gloating disgruntled acquaintance.

Yikes is all I have to say. OP you say nothing. End of story.

All the people on here talking about how the OP gave out to many details are odd. It would literally take an insane amount of roster searching and cross checking everything to even come remotely close to finding out who this kid is. Even if you did all that it wouldn’t even be guaranteed.

Since he didn’t even go to college for athletics, his weight might not even be listed on the roster. My son is a rising senior at Robinson and his weight is not listed.

OP, you’re right to be concerned. 25lbs from basically September-April (8 months) is not insignificant and is more than the “freshman 15”. Like a PP said, he’ll most likely continue to get bigger if he doesn’t cut back on eating so much.

Don’t know if I would say anything. Try to get him into a better/healthier eating routine this summer. This boils down to him developing bad eating habits.

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Anonymous wrote:I feel like this post is so high on details that, if true, make your son easily identifiable.

Right? How many 6’2” football/baseball players could that one high school have sent to JMU?

Mom, he’s drinking beer and gained some weight freshman year. There’s nothing you can do about it.

To even suggest doing this is creepy and inappropriate. Take a step away and regroup because yikes.

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Anonymous wrote:In my mothers time it was called the freshman 10.. In my time it was more like the freshman. 20. Leave it alone

I’m sure it was never called the “freshman 10.” Freshman 15 exists as a term because it’s alliterative.

I like you, PP.

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Anonymous wrote:At 6'2" and 200 pounds, he probably still needs to put on more weight.

Huh? While I hardly think he's fat, he's on the higher end of a healthy weight range and technically overweight.

Overweight? What are you talking about?

NP if you use a bmi calculator his BMI comes to 25.7 - just in the overweight range. Of course BMI can be crap for muscular athletes - if he still has a lot of muscle mass may not actually be an unhealthy weight at all.

https://www.cdc.gov/healthyweight/assessing/bmi/adult_bmi/english_bmi_calculator/bmi_calculator.html

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Anonymous wrote:At 6'2" and 200 pounds, he probably still needs to put on more weight.

Huh? While I hardly think he's fat, he's on the higher end of a healthy weight range and technically overweight.

Overweight? What are you talking about?