Anonymous
Post 06/13/2023 09:39     Subject: how common is pregnancy doing Freshman year of college?
Never knew anyone pregnant in college nor have either kid told me if any. That said, a lot of morning after pills and several abortions. That’s just between close friends because you generally are not going to hear about it unless you’re very close to the person.
Anonymous
Post 06/13/2023 09:38     Subject: Re:how common is pregnancy doing Freshman year of college?
Anonymous wrote:Depends on the cafeteria menu. Too much MSG, soy, and undercooked meat causes pregnancy, especially with first year students.


Certainly thinking this is the cause of pregnancy leads to pregnancy.
Anonymous
Post 06/13/2023 09:25     Subject: how common is pregnancy doing Freshman year of college?
Anonymous wrote:These are basically first gen, low SES kids who are getting pregnant.

Because they aren’t into abortions?
Anonymous
Post 06/13/2023 09:23     Subject: how common is pregnancy doing Freshman year of college?
She must have some really dumb friends.
Anonymous
Post 06/13/2023 09:23     Subject: Re:how common is pregnancy doing Freshman year of college?
Anonymous wrote:Depends on how common Greek life is at the school.

Good point.
Anonymous
Post 06/13/2023 09:13     Subject: how common is pregnancy doing Freshman year of college?
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:how common is pregnancy doing Freshman year of college?
2 of my DD friends that went to a 4 year school will be having a baby by the end of the year... How common is it?


Uncommon and rare in my DD's group of friends. I have not even heard of one case. Come to think of it, I have not even heard of one person in their HS or college having a baby or being pregnant! Who is your DD hanging out with? What SES, what race, what religion, what state?


You likely only know a small sliver about what happens in your daughter’s school community and friend circle.


I don't think so. I would know a lot about my kids school community and friends circle.
My kids were in STEM magnet program tracks in ES, MS and HS. The academics was quite rigorous and kids were also focused on academics and ECs. Parents provided quite a bit of support to the kids and so there was a lot of supervision of the kids anyways. I am sure there were other problems that these kids faced, but pregnancy or STD were off the table.

In college, these kids were going to Honors college in STEM majors that required a significant amount of studying. Then with internships and research, there was not too much time to scuttle career prospects with getting pregnant. Most of these kids are able to make good decisions and if they had the time to sleep with someone, you can rest assured that they were too precocious to do something as stupid as get pregnant or make someone pregnant. Most would also take care to prevent STDs and not do anything that would impact their lives negatively.


It’s funny how you think that being smart and academically focused keeps kids from getting pregnant. My child went to TJ and a top STEM college and he knew of peers with the same background who faced pregnancies and had to make decisions. Sometimes the young people who are most academically focused are a bit naive when it comes to romantic entanglements.
Anonymous
Post 06/13/2023 09:10     Subject: how common is pregnancy doing Freshman year of college?
I went to a big state U where there was lots of partying, hooking up etc but no one I know had a baby (no idea if anyone got pregnant) and, come to think of it, I never saw a pregnant student on campus. I’m sure it happened but I don’t think it’s common at most schools
Anonymous
Post 06/13/2023 09:05     Subject: how common is pregnancy doing Freshman year of college?
These are basically first gen, low SES kids who are getting pregnant.
Anonymous
Post 06/13/2023 09:02     Subject: how common is pregnancy doing Freshman year of college?
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:how common is pregnancy doing Freshman year of college?
2 of my DD friends that went to a 4 year school will be having a baby by the end of the year... How common is it?


Uncommon and rare in my DD's group of friends. I have not even heard of one case. Come to think of it, I have not even heard of one person in their HS or college having a baby or being pregnant! Who is your DD hanging out with? What SES, what race, what religion, what state?


You likely only know a small sliver about what happens in your daughter’s school community and friend circle.


I don't think so. I would know a lot about my kids school community and friends circle.
My kids were in STEM magnet program tracks in ES, MS and HS. The academics was quite rigorous and kids were also focused on academics and ECs. Parents provided quite a bit of support to the kids and so there was a lot of supervision of the kids anyways. I am sure there were other problems that these kids faced, but pregnancy or STD were off the table.

In college, these kids were going to Honors college in STEM majors that required a significant amount of studying. Then with internships and research, there was not too much time to scuttle career prospects with getting pregnant. Most of these kids are able to make good decisions and if they had the time to sleep with someone, you can rest assured that they were too precocious to do something as stupid as get pregnant or make someone pregnant. Most would also take care to prevent STDs and not do anything that would impact their lives negatively.
Anonymous
Post 06/13/2023 09:02     Subject: how common is pregnancy doing Freshman year of college?
The only friend who ever talked to me about whether or not to have an abortion was when we were in our mid 30s. That said, I am certain there were many others over the years who did. I have had a lot of close friends during my 27 years of being fertile...wanna know how many I talked to about my abortion? 0.

I have several friends who have talked openly about taking the morning after pill.

My point is you have no idea. No one does.
Anonymous
Post 06/13/2023 08:54     Subject: how common is pregnancy doing Freshman year of college?
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:My DH got his girlfriend pregnant their first semester of college. He 17, she 18. Of course they did not have it. Both now with advanced degrees, both college professors, opposite sides of the country. He told me this on our second date.


I would have taken that to my grave, whether I were the male or female in the story. Who needs to know what happened so young? Political litmus test?


Why? It's not shameful, for either party.
Anonymous
Post 06/13/2023 08:53     Subject: how common is pregnancy doing Freshman year of college?
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:My DH got his girlfriend pregnant their first semester of college. He 17, she 18. Of course they did not have it. Both now with advanced degrees, both college professors, opposite sides of the country. He told me this on our second date.


I would have taken that to my grave, whether I were the male or female in the story. Who needs to know what happened so young? Political litmus test?


Why take it to your grave? That’s an important piece of one’s past that a partner should be aware of. It’s part of knowing and having full trust in your partner.
Anonymous
Post 06/13/2023 08:49     Subject: how common is pregnancy doing Freshman year of college?
Anonymous wrote:how common is pregnancy doing Freshman year of college?
2 of my DD friends that went to a 4 year school will be having a baby by the end of the year... How common is it?


Were these girls sexually active before college?
Anonymous
Post 06/13/2023 08:42     Subject: how common is pregnancy doing Freshman year of college?
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:I didn’t know anyone in college who got pregnant.


I knew about 7 girls, all but 2 had abortions.

I suspect I know more than 7 but those are the ones I’m aware of.

You probably are just not aware.


PP who didn’t know anyone. My friend group skewed religious/celibate and lesbian so I think very few of us were having the kind of sex that could result in pregnancy. I would assume some of my straight/bi and sexually active friends did have pregnancies and abortions that I was unaware of. No one had children until well after we graduated (I was the third I think? Maybe half still don’t have kids). So I’m not saying my experience I’d typical but it was my experience. I’m guessing OP’s DD’s friends group skews more straight and less comfortable with birth control and abortion.
Anonymous
Post 06/13/2023 07:57     Subject: how common is pregnancy doing Freshman year of college?
Not that common, but not uncommon. I have at least four or five friends who had abortions in college.

Be careful with the restrictions in certain states. Have very frank conversations with daughters.