So all we’ve got is what OP says and all she’s got is what her cheating DH says. Lots of self-serving “information.” OP, tell the parents but don’t pretend you are doing it for the 29 yr old’s sake. Then you’d be a liar, too.

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

OP is trying to justify her misplaced anger at the AP instead of her husband by claiming that she’d want to know if it was her daughter. AP is practically 30 FFS, not some 21 year old college kid.

She may be practically 30, but she lives with her parents so let's not pretend she is a fully functioning adult.

Of course you can be a fully functioning adult and live with your parents.

Do you know how many families around here bought their kids’ starter homes? That’s no different.

Its VERY different.

HAHA no it isn’t.

She can be pissed at both DH and the AP. DH is by far the worse one here but AP did a shitty thing too. Having an affair with someone who is married is a morally bankrupt thing to do. Period. The fact that it is morally WORSE for the married person to do it doesn’t negate that.

I see no issues with telling the parents.

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Anonymous wrote:OP is trying to justify her misplaced anger at the AP instead of her husband by claiming that she’d want to know if it was her daughter. AP is practically 30 FFS, not some 21 year old college kid.

No, she is holding her husband responsible. She made that clear.

She is saying the right things in this post because she knows what the DCUM response will be. Her post in and of itself betrays that she is primarily seeking retribution for the AP, not the cheating husband.

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

OP is trying to justify her misplaced anger at the AP instead of her husband by claiming that she’d want to know if it was her daughter. AP is practically 30 FFS, not some 21 year old college kid.

She may be practically 30, but she lives with her parents so let's not pretend she is a fully functioning adult.

Of course you can be a fully functioning adult and live with your parents.

Do you know how many families around here bought their kids’ starter homes? That’s no different.

Its VERY different.

She is 29, responsible for her own good and bad deeds. Parents aren't liable, don't direct your rage towards them, direct it towards the guy who repeat cheats on you.

Anonymous wrote:Dump his ass. Then he can openly date their daughter.

+2. Love this! Take control of your own life.

Anonymous wrote:I would look at this as a cry for help, from both of them. And she's not just their "adult daughter", she's a vulnerable adult who is making bad choices and bringing creeps into her parents' house. If she were not having emotional problems and it wasn't their home too, I would feel differently.

+1. I would hope someone would let me know if it were my child, especially since the child had to return home for emotional issues.

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

OP is trying to justify her misplaced anger at the AP instead of her husband by claiming that she’d want to know if it was her daughter. AP is practically 30 FFS, not some 21 year old college kid.

She may be practically 30, but she lives with her parents so let's not pretend she is a fully functioning adult.

Of course you can be a fully functioning adult and live with your parents.

Do you know how many families around here bought their kids’ starter homes? That’s no different.

Sneaking your boyfriend in for sex truly says "fully functioning adult" to me! I'm sure her parents will looooove seeing his naked a** if they cross paths in the way to the bathroom. Nothing dysfunctional here, move along.

Dump his ass. Then he can openly date their daughter.

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OP is trying to justify her misplaced anger at the AP instead of her husband by claiming that she’d want to know if it was her daughter. AP is practically 30 FFS, not some 21 year old college kid.

She may be practically 30, but she lives with her parents so let's not pretend she is a fully functioning adult.

Of course you can be a fully functioning adult and live with your parents.

Do you know how many families around here bought their kids’ starter homes? That’s no different.

OP is trying to justify her misplaced anger at the AP instead of her husband by claiming that she’d want to know if it was her daughter. AP is practically 30 FFS, not some 21 year old college kid.

She may be practically 30, but she lives with her parents so let's not pretend she is a fully functioning adult.

She’s 29. An adult. You don’t tell her mommy on her. C’mon man be serious.

As for the posters who say they’d “want to know” - what if she were 40? 50? Do you tell her parents then? Of course not. Then you don’t tell them at 29 either.

She lives with her parents because she has had emotional issues. She's definitely not an "adult" by definition, even if she is by age. I would want to know if a 50 something man was sneaking in my house at night. And if I was the DW, I would lose this guy very fast.

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Anonymous wrote:OP is trying to justify her misplaced anger at the AP instead of her husband by claiming that she’d want to know if it was her daughter. AP is practically 30 FFS, not some 21 year old college kid.

No, she is holding her husband responsible. She made that clear.

Maybe she should tell his mom, too.

I don’t think affairs are inherently wrong, so no.