Anonymous
Post 05/26/2023 08:55     Subject: Good riddance to high school?
Anonymous wrote:I find it sad that so many kids who really didn't enjoy high school are made to feel pressured to act like they're going to miss what were actually the worst years of their lives. What can those of us adults who get pressured by clueless parents into attending high school grad parties do to be less of a thorn in the side of these kids who could care less about their high school and can't wait to get the hell out of Dodge? Is there an acceptable way to acknowledge this without being rude to the parents? I really think that going away parties make so much more sense for these kids.


From the parties I have attended I see them more like celebrations of "finally done with High School" and "finally done with teen drama".

Graduation is a celebration of your accomplishments and the opportunity to move to bigger and better things. With that said, I have teen boys and they like attending other parties, however neither of them want a Grad party. "it's dumb".
Anonymous
Post 05/25/2023 22:23     Subject: Good riddance to high school?
You’re overly invested, do everyone a favor and decline. I’m sure they’ll spend the entire party thinking about you.
Anonymous
Post 05/25/2023 19:30     Subject: Good riddance to high school?
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:My now junior hate high school and can’t wait to get out. However he’s invited to a Ton of graduation parties because he plays on a sport team and this is what happens. I think he’s be so sad it I didn’t throw him a party. I don’t know where you live, but I’m in a decent nova zip code and these kids rack in so much money. Who doesn’t want that? Plus we are celebrating my sonS hard work. This kid has busted his as academically and we are so so proud of his effort, his accomplishments and the fact that he didn’t need any help at all from us. We aren’t having a sad party. This is a happy part to celebrate a new beginning.

You sound like you are about as fun as a wet blanket. It’s no wonder you raised an eeyore.


I don’t think you’re being honest. Kids who hate it usually do so because it’s boring, or they have no friends or they struggle with learning disabilities.


What a weird response. Kids hate high schools for all kinds of reasons unrelated to what you said. Sometimes even a popular kid can be mismatched in an environment that makes them feel anxious or stressed. They could have a teacher who bullies them. They could feel like they can't be their true selves because the school is very conforming.
Anonymous
Post 05/25/2023 11:40     Subject: Re:Good riddance to high school?
Anonymous wrote:I enjoyed high school, but by the start of Senior year I was SOOOO ready to move on!!

You never want to peak in high school. I see with my older son who is a rising Senior at an all-boys school there are some kids that this is the end-all-be-all and I can really see my son is already looking to the next chapter. I don't think he is going to be sentimental at all when it's time to go.


BUt I want to say HS grad parties for me/us were always about congratulating the 'work' done in HS and celebrating the FUTURE. They weren't about glamorizing or celebrating HS. They also were partly for the parents to close that 18 year chapter and with all the work--the travel sports, activities, growth charts, worries, all-consuming time it takes to raise a kid and get them through infancy-HS graduation. It is a time for parents, grandparents, relatives, siblings to really soak that part of in it and send them off with all the love and hope for a bright future!
Anonymous
Post 05/25/2023 11:37     Subject: Re:Good riddance to high school?
I enjoyed high school, but by the start of Senior year I was SOOOO ready to move on!!

You never want to peak in high school. I see with my older son who is a rising Senior at an all-boys school there are some kids that this is the end-all-be-all and I can really see my son is already looking to the next chapter. I don't think he is going to be sentimental at all when it's time to go.
Anonymous
Post 05/25/2023 11:27     Subject: Re:Good riddance to high school?
Sounds like the kid could benefit from some words of kindness and support. Why not drop by with a card and simple note saying you are excited for her next chapter and wish her the best.