Anonymous wrote:Op here. There are some funny responses, but thanks to those who answered the question. I was asking not because I’m super worried but because her teacher is pretty vague and I can’t seem to get a sense of whether my kid could benefit from some focus on reading to build her confidence. My kid reports that she’s a “bad” reader and I want to help her develop confidence. It’s just good to get a sense from other parents as to what other 1st graders are doing. I don’t want to ask parents I know because it’ll come across as either competitive or insecure when it’s really just curiosity/information gathering.
I totally get it, OP. My kindergartener will often report that she's "bad" at a subject, or that she "hates" it, but I've discovered that it's always a highly subjective opinion and can change quickly. Like a couple months ago she said she "hated" reading because "everyone else is better." But just last week she told me that she's changed her mind, she likes reading and thinks she's good at it. I happen to know that she is in the most advanced reading group in the class, but also that she's probably the weakest reader of that group at the moment. So I think her perception is influenced by comparing herself to the very top readers in class and feeling likes she's struggling by comparison. The teacher's choice to put her in the group indicates that a lot of confidence in her skills, but she's too young to really understand what that means.
(Oh, and for reference -- the kindergartener doesn't read anything independently yet! This was not a humble brag about how she's more advanced than a 1st grader. I was reading this thread for general information.)