This doesn't pass the smell test OP.

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Anonymous wrote:DH and I have been married for one year, and dated for a year before marriage. He received a text message with a selfie from a woman late Friday night. I asked him about since I saw it pop up on his phone, and he said it was someone he dated right before we got together, and she occasionally reaches out via text and he never responds. He said she's "crazy". I looked her up on Instagram and it looks like she's a local single mom around our age and often posting pics of her posing in various outfits.

How would you handle? Would you let it go? I don't have his phone password, for what it's worth.

Why don't you have his password? That's strange.

? DP. My partner and I are adults and trust each other. No passwords wanted or needed.

You never use your partners phone to check something?

Keep your mouth shut. Keep your eyes open.

Good ol' DCUM, encouraging OP to snoop into her DH's phone and violate his privacy.. for no reason at all. He's not meeting up with this woman nor staying out late or doing anything suspicious.. but go ahead, violate that trust!

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Anonymous wrote:OP, probably unpopular opinion here, but you gotta get into his phone and look. Same thing happened to me (twice, sadly) and I let it go until I didn’t, looked, and saw the truth.

This should never be an issue you can read mine I can read yours.

Navigate to "Settings" on your device.
Select "Privacy" from the drop-down menu.
Select "Location Services."
Choose "System Services" which is at the bottom.
Select "Frequent Locations" or "Significant Locations" and you will see your location history.

op: I'd have to get onto his phone to see that right?

Yes, of course, that's not an issue is it. Because if it is, that's a bigger red flag.

+1 If your spouse doesn't want you looking at their phone, it means they are hiding something from. If there are sensitive texts about your marriage, let's say to a friend or sister, then I can understand not wanting your spouse to see that. But, you should never put that kind of sensitive thing in a text to being with because 1. it can be used against you by someone or 2. you could end up texting the wrong person about your marriage. Lots of people end up texting something that was meant for person A to person B.

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Anonymous wrote:OP, probably unpopular opinion here, but you gotta get into his phone and look. Same thing happened to me (twice, sadly) and I let it go until I didn’t, looked, and saw the truth.

This should never be an issue you can read mine I can read yours.

Navigate to "Settings" on your device.
Select "Privacy" from the drop-down menu.
Select "Location Services."
Choose "System Services" which is at the bottom.
Select "Frequent Locations" or "Significant Locations" and you will see your location history.

op: I'd have to get onto his phone to see that right?

Yes, of course, that's not an issue is it. Because if it is, that's a bigger red flag.

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Anonymous wrote:DH and I have been married for one year, and dated for a year before marriage. He received a text message with a selfie from a woman late Friday night. I asked him about since I saw it pop up on his phone, and he said it was someone he dated right before we got together, and she occasionally reaches out via text and he never responds. He said she's "crazy". I looked her up on Instagram and it looks like she's a local single mom around our age and often posting pics of her posing in various outfits.

How would you handle? Would you let it go? I don't have his phone password, for what it's worth.

Why don't you have his password? That's strange.

? DP. My partner and I are adults and trust each other. No passwords wanted or needed.

My husband and I trust each other and we don't have passwords on our phones.

You don't have passwords on your phones? For reals?

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Anonymous wrote:DH and I have been married for one year, and dated for a year before marriage. He received a text message with a selfie from a woman late Friday night. I asked him about since I saw it pop up on his phone, and he said it was someone he dated right before we got together, and she occasionally reaches out via text and he never responds. He said she's "crazy". I looked her up on Instagram and it looks like she's a local single mom around our age and often posting pics of her posing in various outfits.

How would you handle? Would you let it go? I don't have his phone password, for what it's worth.

Why don't you have his password? That's strange.

? DP. My partner and I are adults and trust each other. No passwords wanted or needed.

My husband and I trust each other and we don't have passwords on our phones.

my DH and I have nothing to hide, and so we know each others pwd because there have been instances when I needed to check his phone because he was not available to do it. And vice versa.

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Anonymous wrote:Send back a picture of him and you in your wedding attire’s

ha.

Why wouldn't he block her if he never responds? I would be suspicious, too.

op: I asked him why he didn't block her. He said he just chooses to ignore her and everyone else he doesn't pay attention to. I find it odd that a woman would send an unsolicited selfie to someone who never responds.

That's because it is odd. I'd be very suspicious if I were you.

+1 how do you know he's not responding? Have you looked at the text history? But even then, there are apps where they text history deletes automatically.

op: I don't know if he's actually not responding, but that's what he told me.

er.. what else would he say if he is responding?

It's one thing to be friendly and text with an ex, but another if the said ex is sending pictures of herself dressed up in the bathroom. That is highly suspicious.

If an ex of DH was doing that, he'd block her because she is starting to cross the line that he doesn't want to cross.

If your DH is not blocking her it means he still likes to get those pix of her, and he is more than likely still texting/meeting her.

Don't be a fool, op. Trust but verify.

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Anonymous wrote:DH and I have been married for one year, and dated for a year before marriage. He received a text message with a selfie from a woman late Friday night. I asked him about since I saw it pop up on his phone, and he said it was someone he dated right before we got together, and she occasionally reaches out via text and he never responds. He said she's "crazy". I looked her up on Instagram and it looks like she's a local single mom around our age and often posting pics of her posing in various outfits.

How would you handle? Would you let it go? I don't have his phone password, for what it's worth.

Why don't you have his password? That's strange.

? DP. My partner and I are adults and trust each other. No passwords wanted or needed.

My husband and I trust each other and we don't have passwords on our phones.

Anonymous wrote:you are a fool if you believe your DH's answer

- guy

You're doing the Lord's work here. Thank you.

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Anonymous wrote:DH and I have been married for one year, and dated for a year before marriage. He received a text message with a selfie from a woman late Friday night. I asked him about since I saw it pop up on his phone, and he said it was someone he dated right before we got together, and she occasionally reaches out via text and he never responds. He said she's "crazy". I looked her up on Instagram and it looks like she's a local single mom around our age and often posting pics of her posing in various outfits.

How would you handle? Would you let it go? I don't have his phone password, for what it's worth.

Why don't you have his password? That's strange.

? DP. My partner and I are adults and trust each other. No passwords wanted or needed.

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Anonymous wrote:OP, probably unpopular opinion here, but you gotta get into his phone and look. Same thing happened to me (twice, sadly) and I let it go until I didn’t, looked, and saw the truth.

op: oh no, what did you find? Not sure how I get into his phone since I don't have his password. Do you think I should just ask him to let me see the text thread with her? I will say, he is always home so I can't imagine when he'd see her, unless at work or something.

Oh god OP- I'm sorry I understand you are new at this, but you gotta get your head outta your behind. He is your HUSBAND. Tell him it's still not sitting right with you and ask to see his phone on the spot. Look at his deleted messages, any hidden photo albums, call logs, social media chats. Pull your phone bill and check the call/text logs (we have Verizon and it notes which are picture messages). They could be meeting on their lunch every day, before work, before he comes home, anytime he says he's running an errand, they could sext daily, he could put fake stuff on his work or personal calendars to see her.

-also BTDT

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Anonymous wrote:Send back a picture of him and you in your wedding attire’s

ha.

Why wouldn't he block her if he never responds? I would be suspicious, too.

op: I asked him why he didn't block her. He said he just chooses to ignore her and everyone else he doesn't pay attention to. I find it odd that a woman would send an unsolicited selfie to someone who never responds.

That's because it is odd. I'd be very suspicious if I were you.

+1 how do you know he's not responding? Have you looked at the text history? But even then, there are apps where they text history deletes automatically.

op: I don't know if he's actually not responding, but that's what he told me.

Agree with PPs that the "crazy" comment is a big red flag. If she is so crazy, why isn't he rolling his eyes and blocking her?

I have guy friends who I text with but I'd NEVER send them a selfie out of the blue.