I never buy my kid a drink. Every once in a blue moon, I'll buy him a spinach feta wrap. My other kid never wants anything.

Anonymous wrote:Yes, and that goes for anywhere we get food or drink. To do otherwise would be rude. But it’s never happened at Starbucks. My teens are not interested in that place.

Me again. Like others have said, we limit sugar and fat. We're not a family who buys a lot of drinks or take-out. So in that context of frugality, it would be rude for me to get something and deny them the same. I get an Earl Grey, they can get tea as well. We've never bought ridiculous oversugared drinks or pastries there, because they're entirely gross.

Children are not second-class citizens in my house, they are responsible, intelligent human beings, and over their course of their lives have not shown themselves to be lazy or entitled. Maybe that's because I both respect them AND have clear behavioral expectations.

I think it’s weird if you’re dragging them into a Starbucks to treat yourself and making them stand in line and then telling them to lump it if they are hungry or thirsty. And yes, it’s a treat even if it’s black coffee because you can make that easily and cheaper at home.

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Anonymous wrote:Ouch. You treat yourself but not your kids because you do not want to spend that much? Then don’t get yourself one. Pretty sad to be honest with you.

Very bizarre rationalizing.

When you get a pedicure, do you always get one for your kids?

Our kids get the lions share of our disposal income, and I do not feel bad for treating myself.

More importantly, I get an iced coffee. The kids like drinks with sugar. So I have no problem saying no. I treat them once a week, that’s plenty. Some things are for adults.

If my daughter is with me, I’ve paid for her pedicure too. Otherwise I don’t bring her when I go.

This. If I’m out running errands with my DD and want a pedicure of course I’m going to get her one instead of making her just sit there at the salon. There are also plenty of times when I run out by myself to get my nails done. I think the distinction in this scenario is whether your kid is with you when you want to treat yourself to something. In that scenario I wouldn’t just leave my kid with nothing.

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Anonymous wrote:I have two teen boys. There is nothing at Starbucks that they want.

Your teens don’t like cake pops, hot chocolate, frappachinos, water, cookies, muffins, a bagel or hard boiled eggs? Nothing at Starbucks?

Water? I don’t need to buy water at Starbucks. And no, they don’t want any of that other stuff. We never made Starbucks a habit when they were younger and I guess it has stuck with them.

I don’t like Starbucks coffee so I never go there and have never brought my kids. My 15 year old asked me recently if we could go because his friends were talking about it. I took him and his 13 year old brother as a treat and funnily enough, although it was their first time there, there was plenty they were interested in.

That is sooo funny that teens might think it’s acceptable.

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Anonymous wrote:I have two teen boys. There is nothing at Starbucks that they want.

Your teens don’t like cake pops, hot chocolate, frappachinos, water, cookies, muffins, a bagel or hard boiled eggs? Nothing at Starbucks?

Water? I don’t need to buy water at Starbucks. And no, they don’t want any of that other stuff. We never made Starbucks a habit when they were younger and I guess it has stuck with them.

I don’t like Starbucks coffee so I never go there and have never brought my kids. My 15 year old asked me recently if we could go because his friends were talking about it. I took him and his 13 year old brother as a treat and funnily enough, although it was their first time there, there was plenty they were interested in.

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Anonymous wrote:It depends. Me stopping to get black coffee
isnt some kind of treat. I’m trying to make it through the day. So no, if I’m getting regular coffee it isn’t a free for all for my kids to order frappichinos, cake pops, or whatever other junk Starbucks has. They can get a tea or something else that isn’t utter sugar filled garbage

I don’t drink coffee, so I don’t have that excuse, but I could see taking my young kids and getting a black coffee and giving my kids a choice of milk or water. Or splitting a treat and two waters. But I can’t see not getting them anything.

But don't they already have water bottles? I don't see the point of buying them something just so they can consume some extra plastic. I'm not going to go to the ice cream shop and only get something for myself, but I think it's fine for the coffee shop to be primarily for adults. I may be biased because I worked at starbucks back in the day and had to wait as parents tried to make their bored and over-treated kids choose between a croissant and a brownie.

Don't you already have an insulated cup that can hold coffee? If you want something that tastes different than your water, perhaps they do too. The fact that I let my kids have the free water at Starbucks does not make them over-treated.

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Anonymous wrote:I have two teen boys. There is nothing at Starbucks that they want.

Your teens don’t like cake pops, hot chocolate, frappachinos, water, cookies, muffins, a bagel or hard boiled eggs? Nothing at Starbucks?

Water? I don’t need to buy water at Starbucks. And no, they don’t want any of that other stuff. We never made Starbucks a habit when they were younger and I guess it has stuck with them.

My kids have been on their own for their chipotle or whatever since mid teens. But if they are with me and I’m buying something for myself, of course I would buy something for them too. Really kinda rude otherwise.

Anonymous wrote:I have two teen boys. There is nothing at Starbucks that they want.

Your teens don’t like cake pops, hot chocolate, frappachinos, water, cookies, muffins, a bagel or hard boiled eggs? Nothing at Starbucks?

Yes, and that goes for anywhere we get food or drink. To do otherwise would be rude. But it’s never happened at Starbucks. My teens are not interested in that place.

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Anonymous wrote:It depends. Me stopping to get black coffee
isnt some kind of treat. I’m trying to make it through the day. So no, if I’m getting regular coffee it isn’t a free for all for my kids to order frappichinos, cake pops, or whatever other junk Starbucks has. They can get a tea or something else that isn’t utter sugar filled garbage

I don’t drink coffee, so I don’t have that excuse, but I could see taking my young kids and getting a black coffee and giving my kids a choice of milk or water. Or splitting a treat and two waters. But I can’t see not getting them anything.

But don't they already have water bottles? I don't see the point of buying them something just so they can consume some extra plastic. I'm not going to go to the ice cream shop and only get something for myself, but I think it's fine for the coffee shop to be primarily for adults. I may be biased because I worked at starbucks back in the day and had to wait as parents tried to make their bored and over-treated kids choose between a croissant and a brownie.

99% of the time, I'm getting myself a small coffee. I will often let my kid get something, but I don't feel bad to say no. I'm always happy to treat her to a small coffee

If I'm going as a treat I get them something too. If I'm stopping, for example, on a road trip because I need the caffeine, no - just because I need caffeine doesn't mean they need sugar.

Lol, of course not!