A former friend's mom has an MD. Her dad was making $10 an hour. Not sure if they're still together, but it sounded like the marriage was a disaster for many reasons.

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Blue collar men are hot. A man that works with his hands and gets sh!t done is SO much more attractive than some guy who goes into the office just to do overpaid busywork on a computer.

- professional woman

That would be skilled trades and not what the question was about.

Are skilled tradespeople not blue-collar? That is actually who I think of - plumbers, welders, car mechanics, etc.

The original question was about the combo low skill/low pay, not just any blue collar.

I am a lawyer and wish I would have married a cop. Or a fireman.

My highly educated friend married a high school drop out. Now divorced.

Op, you are not talking about blue collar. You are talking about unskilled which is different.

I was resentful. We divorced. I had to pay him alimony. No kids.

And when we started dating I was still in college and he was four years older and working a "real" job. From that job it was basically downhill to random other jobs with no career path and no upward mobility. I wanted more. I sincerely hope he married someone who appreciated him for who he is because he wasn't a bad guy but he definitely led me on and tried to convince me he was someone else.

This is more common, I think, when the husband is in the skilled trades as others have mentioned and also, way more common outside D.C. My DH is in the skilled trades, has an AA, and I have a PhD and he makes more than me and I do fine. We've lived in Chicago and on West Coast, and the white-collar status thing was much less pronounced than around DC and no one really cared about our differences in educational background.

Anonymous wrote:How is the sex?

LOL

I have a MS and am dating a guy who is a bartender. I keep him around because he is sweet and good in bed and makes me laugh. I am not looking to get married again, so no need to worry about any financial liabilities on his part.

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Blue collar men are hot. A man that works with his hands and gets sh!t done is SO much more attractive than some guy who goes into the office just to do overpaid busywork on a computer.

- professional woman

That would be skilled trades and not what the question was about.

Are skilled tradespeople not blue-collar? That is actually who I think of - plumbers, welders, car mechanics, etc.

I am a lawyer and I have one female lawyer friend who is married to a welder. They met as teenagers working the same summer job, dated off and on for years, and finally reunited and got married after she graduated law school. Her hours are longer than his so he does pick up a lot of childcare responsibilities, although he also works weekends sometimes. I would say he sort of fits the blue-collar stereotype of being a more masculine "macho" type, but he also appears to be a great father and doesn't seem to have a problem with his household responsibilities.

They are the only couple I know like this but they seem like a good team and their relationship seems happy and healthy (at least from the outside).

Anonymous wrote:Sorry OP, your title and content is confusing. Blue collar usually signifies a trade - like a mechanic or plumber or electrician. Those trades make very good money and require a college education. My husband is a journeyman and makes more money than I do.

What’s your issue? A man who is not educated or in a specialized trade and is low income?

not educated, low income, works unskilled jobs.

Sorry OP, your title and content is confusing. Blue collar usually signifies a trade - like a mechanic or plumber or electrician. Those trades make very good money and require a college education. My husband is a journeyman and makes more money than I do.

What’s your issue? A man who is not educated or in a specialized trade and is low income?

Anonymous wrote:Blue collar men are hot. A man that works with his hands and gets sh!t done is SO much more attractive than some guy who goes into the office just to do overpaid busywork on a computer.

- professional woman

That would be skilled trades and not what the question was about.

Anonymous wrote:Blue collar men are hot. A man that works with his hands and gets sh!t done is SO much more attractive than some guy who goes into the office just to do overpaid busywork on a computer.

- professional woman

Agreed! I prefer blue collar men. They're in good shape without having to go to the gym and they tend to be a lot happier which translates into treating me better. The ones who do seasonal work, like landscaping, spend their off-time doing things that make them smarter and more interesting. Most of the blue collar men I've dated are immigrants, so they're multilingual and own property in their home country.

I have a coworker who is you OP to a tee - including off loading kids on his mother who is in her 70s when he is not working so he can play video games. If you're asking does this drive you insane, my answer is yes and the DH needs to step the eff up.