Anonymous
05/12/2023 10:52
Subject: Allowing 12yo to celebrate with small glass of champagne?
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:
We're French and our kids have had sips ever since they were little.
However:
1. Never a glass, or even a small glass. Alcohol is not good for anyone's health.
2. Now they're teens and our oldest is allowed to drink for real in France (not here, because he's not 21 yet), they don't drink. They've tasted lots of things, they didn't like it, so they politely refuse.
I don't quite understand the intense debates this generates on DCUM. I hope real world Americans don't care that much. It's like the intense debate around prepping for the Cogat on the AAP thread. DCUM parents are very high-strung about certain topics!
This is the USA, not France. You’d never find me on a French chat board criticizing the French. And I bet if I did the French wouldn’t like it one bit and would be sure to let me know.
Right. And in the USA we are a melting pot of different cultures and customs. YOURS is yours. Mine is mine. And we'd allow this as we always have going back to when I was little.
I think you're just being defensive about being called high-strung. But if the shoe fits . . . maybe a drink would calm you down. But not a little one in your case.
Anonymous
05/12/2023 10:50
Subject: Allowing 12yo to celebrate with small glass of champagne?
Anonymous wrote:We are leaving the country for a very special vacation. The hotel provides a bottle of sparkling wine and we are considering allowing DD12 a small half glass to toast with us. Is this in poor taste? [/quote
LOL. Poor taste? It's a personal decision and we'd be fine with a small glass to cheers and taste. But it is common in my family to allow this, as it is is lots of countries (including where my grandparents were from).
I don't understand people who get riled up over this. You're not letting the kid do a keg stand.
Anonymous
05/12/2023 10:48
Subject: Allowing 12yo to celebrate with small glass of champagne?
Mango lassi.
Mocktail PinaColada
Orange Dreamsicle (Vanilla Icecream and orange soda)
Ginger Kombucha
Sprite with icecream, and a cherry.
There are drinks a plenty for your kid. In a pinch, Sprite!
Mocktail PinaColada
Orange Dreamsicle (Vanilla Icecream and orange soda)
Ginger Kombucha
Sprite with icecream, and a cherry.
There are drinks a plenty for your kid. In a pinch, Sprite!
Anonymous
05/12/2023 10:39
Subject: Allowing 12yo to celebrate with small glass of champagne?
No. May be smoke some weed, that's okay going by another thread.
Anonymous
05/12/2023 10:33
Subject: Allowing 12yo to celebrate with small glass of champagne?
Anonymous wrote:Just...why? What possible benefit does this give anyone?
This. Why? I can’t think of any good reason to give a 12 year old a small glass of champagne. Not one.
Anonymous
05/12/2023 09:59
Subject: Allowing 12yo to celebrate with small glass of champagne?
Anonymous wrote:12? That's way too young. Just no
What will happen?
Anonymous
05/12/2023 09:55
Subject: Allowing 12yo to celebrate with small glass of champagne?
Meh I'd pour a tiny bit. I doubt the 12 year old will think champagne tastes good and I wouldn't want the champagne to go to waste.
Anonymous
05/12/2023 09:55
Subject: Allowing 12yo to celebrate with small glass of champagne?
I wouldn't.
I'm the oldest and my parents were very strict about alcohol with me. I have no issues.
My brother, the youngest, didn't have a strict upbringing as I did. My parents allowed him to drink as long as he called for a ride or stayed where he was starting at 15. He's now an alcoholic 34 year old with two DUIs.
I'm the oldest and my parents were very strict about alcohol with me. I have no issues.
My brother, the youngest, didn't have a strict upbringing as I did. My parents allowed him to drink as long as he called for a ride or stayed where he was starting at 15. He's now an alcoholic 34 year old with two DUIs.
Anonymous
05/12/2023 09:51
Subject: Allowing 12yo to celebrate with small glass of champagne?
I grew up in an Italian household and we were allowed to have sips of wine with our Sunday dinners. Never enough to feel anything and it was fine.
Anonymous
05/12/2023 09:47
Subject: Allowing 12yo to celebrate with small glass of champagne?
1. This is totally fine and I would absolutely pour my kid a small glass of champagne for a special celebration.
2. When I was 12, my parents poured me a small glass of champagne to celebrate my uncle's marriage. We all came down with norovirus immediately thereafter ( within 3 hours). I still have the association of celebration champagne/sickness.
2. When I was 12, my parents poured me a small glass of champagne to celebrate my uncle's marriage. We all came down with norovirus immediately thereafter ( within 3 hours). I still have the association of celebration champagne/sickness.
Anonymous
05/12/2023 09:41
Subject: Allowing 12yo to celebrate with small glass of champagne?
Just pour a sips worth in the glass, she gets a taste, everyone toasts!
Anonymous
05/12/2023 09:35
Subject: Allowing 12yo to celebrate with small glass of champagne?
OP sparkling wine creates a buzz more quickly than normal wine. Given that you're talking about champagne, I would go with either:
1. you give her a sip
2. you get a non-alcoholic sparkling drink so she can have an entire glass
1. you give her a sip
2. you get a non-alcoholic sparkling drink so she can have an entire glass
Anonymous
05/12/2023 09:34
Subject: Re:Allowing 12yo to celebrate with small glass of champagne?
I would. Odds are they will take one sip and hate it. They may even smell it and not even try.
I have older teens and we’ve done this and they didn’t even try. The smell turned them off.
I have older teens and we’ve done this and they didn’t even try. The smell turned them off.
Anonymous
05/12/2023 09:29
Subject: Allowing 12yo to celebrate with small glass of champagne?
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:
We're French and our kids have had sips ever since they were little.
However:
1. Never a glass, or even a small glass. Alcohol is not good for anyone's health.
2. Now they're teens and our oldest is allowed to drink for real in France (not here, because he's not 21 yet), they don't drink. They've tasted lots of things, they didn't like it, so they politely refuse.
I don't quite understand the intense debates this generates on DCUM. I hope real world Americans don't care that much. It's like the intense debate around prepping for the Cogat on the AAP thread. DCUM parents are very high-strung about certain topics!
This is the USA, not France. You’d never find me on a French chat board criticizing the French. And I bet if I did the French wouldn’t like it one bit and would be sure to let me know.
Where did I criticize Americans? You realize DCUM has many internationals?
But you sure are proving my point that some posters are high-strung and take offense even when none is written
Anonymous
05/12/2023 09:29
Subject: Allowing 12yo to celebrate with small glass of champagne?
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:A very small glass - it’s fine. I started having a tiny glass of sparkling wine at Christmas and
thanksgiving with my family around that age. I’m a productive, responsible mom of 2 with a good job, good marriage and no issues with alcohol.
Also a productive, gainfully employed, decent human whose mother would sneak her a wine cooler (remember those!) in a hotel glass filled to the brim with ice. I have a healthy relationship with alcohol, I assure you, it didn’t taint me.
Everything that you just said may be true, but it’s also true that that is not the behavior of a good mother.
That’s your opinion. I’m sure there’s one single thing you do that I wouldn’t agree with, so I guess that makes you a bad mother as well.
+1. That PP is a sanctimonious a$$.