Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I think it’s legal, and stupid. I was at a niche type store making a similarly large purchase when my then-4yo said he had to go #2 NOW! I asked and they said they couldn’t accommodate. It all happened so fast and before we could get out the door to the car he let it all out all over the carpet. I had a boy covered in excrement and they still wouldn’t let me use the restroom. So not only did they lose out on the sale, they had a crappy mess to clean on the carpet.

It sounds like your son was sick. If he had so little control over his bowels, it's very likely he would have crapped all over their bathroom, too. At least in this case, he had clothes on which likely captured most of it.

Be honest: if your son had crapped on the floor of the their bathroom, how much effort would you have put into cleaning it up? Or would you have thought, "eh, I'm sure they pay someone to clean this" and left?

It's an unfortunate anecdote but actually doesn't change the equation for most businesses at all. There is little to no benefit to providing a bathroom and there are huge downsides.

THIS THIS THIS. Would you have been happy if you'd been met leaving the bathroom with an employee handing you cleaning supplies and requesting you to clean up after your son? I bet not. But it isn't their job to clean up your kid's shit.

Anonymous wrote:The grocery store nearest to us recently started locking their restroom so you have to find an employee to unlock it for you. I’ll be shopping at the other grocery store a little further away a lot more now because of this.

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I think it’s legal, and stupid. I was at a niche type store making a similarly large purchase when my then-4yo said he had to go #2 NOW! I asked and they said they couldn’t accommodate. It all happened so fast and before we could get out the door to the car he let it all out all over the carpet. I had a boy covered in excrement and they still wouldn’t let me use the restroom. So not only did they lose out on the sale, they had a crappy mess to clean on the carpet.

It sounds like your son was sick. If he had so little control over his bowels, it's very likely he would have crapped all over their bathroom, too. At least in this case, he had clothes on which likely captured most of it.

Be honest: if your son had crapped on the floor of the their bathroom, how much effort would you have put into cleaning it up? Or would you have thought, "eh, I'm sure they pay someone to clean this" and left?

It's an unfortunate anecdote but actually doesn't change the equation for most businesses at all. There is little to no benefit to providing a bathroom and there are huge downsides.

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I hear you. I have family members with IBS and have been part of many family dramas when people who needed bathrooms urgently couldn't get them in a timely manner while running errands.

Also, state of Maryland, people driving on rural roads to your Civil War battlefields might need bathrooms if theyre little kids, elderly, or have IBS!!! Thanks for nothing for an especially traumatic road trip years ago when we discovered MD gas stations don't usually keep bathrooms public and have absolutely no mercy.

It shouldn't be on individual businesses to shoulder the burden, though. It's a public good. The expectation that all small businesses should maintain a restroom for public use, keep that restroom clean and in working order no matter how many people might stop to use it, is unreasonable.

There is a lot of technology now that would enable municipalities and counties to serve this public need by maintaining portable bathrooms for public use. It could even create jobs and businesses if governments invested in this, because you would need to hire people to maintain them and also more companies would go into the business if it they knew they had a customer for it. The technology would improve further (as it is, the technological advancements are largely driven by government investments in Asia and Europe, where this is viewed as a public health and sanitation issue).

But getting mad because some tiny gas station in the middle of nowhere isn't maintaining a bathroom for you doesn't make sense. I say that as a parent who has had to stop many times and been rejected from place even as my toddler literally peed on himself. It sucks. But it's not the fault of the business (nor the employee who is just following company policy).

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Some states have Ally's law for certain medical conditions. But generally no restrooms in public establishments unless they serve food. Even then they can say customers only.

I do wonder how you got this far in life without knowing this.

I don’t know where you live, but here in the DMV I shop at garden centers and other businesses where customers have access to restrooms. This GC/nursery in Alexandria sells plants at high prices and can afford maintaining one or two restrooms. Maybe the employees are not flushing the toilets and don’t want customers to complain.

Uh, no, much more likely that entitled customers like you are hovering, not cleaning up after yourself, and the staff have revolted.

Anonymous wrote:I was recently a Potbelly that was off the lobby of a large office building. While I was there, I noticed a steady stream (pun intended) of men (only men) coming into the Potbelly from the lobby to use a bathroom that was right next to that entrance, and then leave. None of these men patronized the business. I am sure they are using it because they don't want to deal with the consequences of befouling the bathroom in their office. Like I'm sure these men have access to a bathroom at work, but they wanted the anonymity of using a public restroom where they could leave the scene of the crime and no one would know.

Aaaaand I will never patronize that Potbelly again, and feel bad for whatever employee has to clean that bathroom at the end of the day.

This is why we can't have nice things. For every toddler who can't hold it or person who has IBS, there's some ahole nursing a hangover who drank 4 cups of coffee this morning and he's just looking for somewhere anonymous to reveal things about himself that he should really be telling a doctor or nutritionist. Thanks guys.

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I was recently a Potbelly that was off the lobby of a large office building. While I was there, I noticed a steady stream (pun intended) of men (only men) coming into the Potbelly from the lobby to use a bathroom that was right next to that entrance, and then leave. None of these men patronized the business. I am sure they are using it because they don't want to deal with the consequences of befouling the bathroom in their office. Like I'm sure these men have access to a bathroom at work, but they wanted the anonymity of using a public restroom where they could leave the scene of the crime and no one would know.

Aaaaand I will never patronize that Potbelly again, and feel bad for whatever employee has to clean that bathroom at the end of the day.

This is why we can't have nice things. For every toddler who can't hold it or person who has IBS, there's some ahole nursing a hangover who drank 4 cups of coffee this morning and he's just looking for somewhere anonymous to reveal things about himself that he should really be telling a doctor or nutritionist. Thanks guys.

I mean, I definitely go to the far-off, secluded bathroom to drop a bomb. Who’s doing that in the main bathroom? And what’s the alternative, holding it?

PP here. It wasn't a "secluded bathroom." It was a very busy Potbelly during lunch rush -- every seat filled and a line out the door. The appeal for these guys was that it was simply not in their actual offices. They didn't know the people in the sandwich shop, and had an easy escape route, so they felt free to befoul that bathroom.

And since you asked: the alternative is to talk to a doctor about your toxic excrement and make the necessary dietary and lifestyle choices to improve that situation. If you poo smells so bad that you regularly need to use isolated bathrooms to avoid social repercussions, then my guess is that your diet is disgusting and this is largely your fault.

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I think it’s legal, and stupid. I was at a niche type store making a similarly large purchase when my then-4yo said he had to go #2 NOW! I asked and they said they couldn’t accommodate. It all happened so fast and before we could get out the door to the car he let it all out all over the carpet. I had a boy covered in excrement and they still wouldn’t let me use the restroom. So not only did they lose out on the sale, they had a crappy mess to clean on the carpet.

It sounds like your son was sick. If he had so little control over his bowels, it's very likely he would have crapped all over their bathroom, too. At least in this case, he had clothes on which likely captured most of it.

Be honest: if your son had crapped on the floor of the their bathroom, how much effort would you have put into cleaning it up? Or would you have thought, "eh, I'm sure they pay someone to clean this" and left?

It's an unfortunate anecdote but actually doesn't change the equation for most businesses at all. There is little to no benefit to providing a bathroom and there are huge downsides.

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I was recently a Potbelly that was off the lobby of a large office building. While I was there, I noticed a steady stream (pun intended) of men (only men) coming into the Potbelly from the lobby to use a bathroom that was right next to that entrance, and then leave. None of these men patronized the business. I am sure they are using it because they don't want to deal with the consequences of befouling the bathroom in their office. Like I'm sure these men have access to a bathroom at work, but they wanted the anonymity of using a public restroom where they could leave the scene of the crime and no one would know.

Aaaaand I will never patronize that Potbelly again, and feel bad for whatever employee has to clean that bathroom at the end of the day.

This is why we can't have nice things. For every toddler who can't hold it or person who has IBS, there's some ahole nursing a hangover who drank 4 cups of coffee this morning and he's just looking for somewhere anonymous to reveal things about himself that he should really be telling a doctor or nutritionist. Thanks guys.

I mean, I definitely go to the far-off, secluded bathroom to drop a bomb. Who’s doing that in the main bathroom? And what’s the alternative, holding it?

Anonymous wrote:I think it’s legal, and stupid. I was at a niche type store making a similarly large purchase when my then-4yo said he had to go #2 NOW! I asked and they said they couldn’t accommodate. It all happened so fast and before we could get out the door to the car he let it all out all over the carpet. I had a boy covered in excrement and they still wouldn’t let me use the restroom. So not only did they lose out on the sale, they had a crappy mess to clean on the carpet.

Anonymous wrote:I was recently a Potbelly that was off the lobby of a large office building. While I was there, I noticed a steady stream (pun intended) of men (only men) coming into the Potbelly from the lobby to use a bathroom that was right next to that entrance, and then leave. None of these men patronized the business. I am sure they are using it because they don't want to deal with the consequences of befouling the bathroom in their office. Like I'm sure these men have access to a bathroom at work, but they wanted the anonymity of using a public restroom where they could leave the scene of the crime and no one would know.

Aaaaand I will never patronize that Potbelly again, and feel bad for whatever employee has to clean that bathroom at the end of the day.

This is why we can't have nice things. For every toddler who can't hold it or person who has IBS, there's some ahole nursing a hangover who drank 4 cups of coffee this morning and he's just looking for somewhere anonymous to reveal things about himself that he should really be telling a doctor or nutritionist. Thanks guys.

Anonymous wrote:My aunt owned a small book and gift shop and I worked there in the summers. She eventually had to stop allowing customers to use the restroom because they would leave it a disgusting mess. I mean, really revolting--as if they had never been in an indoor restroom in their lives. Pee on the floor, clogged toilets, water left running, excrement on merchandise and walls. And this was a quiet little shop with a generally upscale and middle-aged clientele. I can't even imagine what a larger business would have to deal with.

Anonymous wrote:I hear you. I have family members with IBS and have been part of many family dramas when people who needed bathrooms urgently couldn't get them in a timely manner while running errands.

Also, state of Maryland, people driving on rural roads to your Civil War battlefields might need bathrooms if theyre little kids, elderly, or have IBS!!! Thanks for nothing for an especially traumatic road trip years ago when we discovered MD gas stations don't usually keep bathrooms public and have absolutely no mercy.