This is OP. I wasn’t the person who wrote about snowflakes, but I think it’s wrong to single out one child without warning for using a word they all use. I was especially upset, because rather than eating, my kid was asked to watch a video about people with intellectual disabilities and write a reflection. And yes, this is Bethesda.

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i don't know anyone who uses the r-word.

It's used in the trucking industry (a variant of the word ending in -er) as it refers to a braking device used on heavy trucks that have friction-based braking systems subjetc to overheating.

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Anonymous wrote:The response seems extreme, especially given the circumstance. A warning should have been given instead, or even an RJ chat. People are just over the top sensitive about words in certain areas, creating such delicate snowflakes.

Would you feel the same if it was the N word? How about the K word? The R word is the most demeaning word you can say around special need children and it shouldn't be said at all.

Calling someone "special need" as an adjective is pretty demeaning too.

And if someone is developmentally delayed, which is a technical synonym for mentally r-word, it's correct and fine to say it, if it's being used in a clinically appropriate way and not as an insult.

Omg now you are taking this too far. It’s literally called the special Olympics

yes, this is what makes people get annoyed. there's too much policing of language.

i don't know anyone who uses the r-word. we, as a society, have agreed that it is unacceptable language. but when did special needs become offensive? i literally see tons of posts in the Recent Topics section from parents talking about their SN kids.

Look, just because a member of the MCPS Board of Education uses it, doesn't mean your DC can!

https://www.washingtonpost.com/local/education/md-school-official-apologizes-for-reference-to-people-with-intellectual-disabilities/2017/11/14/a67427dc-c96f-11e7-b0cf-7689a9f2d84e_story.html

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I can think of a lot worse but yes - chalk this up to a learning experience for your child.



+1

I am from a different era where the R word was used all the time so personally, I would not give detention for that, just talking to but it is a lesson learned. There are so many worse things that kids are doing so it seems silly for detention for this.

Silly? You are a total a**hole. No wonder your kid turned out so poorly.

Ok, so R word is off limits but A word is fine. Typical snowflake hypocrisy.

The R word is a targeted, derogatory word. Everyone has an a**hole. But you be you.

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I can think of a lot worse but yes - chalk this up to a learning experience for your child.



+1

I am from a different era where the R word was used all the time so personally, I would not give detention for that, just talking to but it is a lesson learned. There are so many worse things that kids are doing so it seems silly for detention for this.

Silly? You are a total a**hole. No wonder your kid turned out so poorly.

Ok, so R word is off limits but A word is fine. Typical snowflake hypocrisy.

Anonymous wrote:Are teachers allowed to give lunch detentions in MS? My child was assigned lunch detention for calling a friend what the teacher referred to as "the r word" in the hallway. The friend wasn't upset by it and the teacher isn't even his. From what I hear on here, there are a lot worse things being said in the hallway all the time.

No. Lunch detentions are not permitted.

Why can't a student use a word that Board members use at public meetings? No detention for Board of Education members.

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Anonymous wrote:The response seems extreme, especially given the circumstance. A warning should have been given instead, or even an RJ chat. People are just over the top sensitive about words in certain areas, creating such delicate snowflakes.

Would you feel the same if it was the N word? How about the K word? The R word is the most demeaning word you can say around special need children and it shouldn't be said at all.

Calling someone "special need" as an adjective is pretty demeaning too.

And if someone is developmentally delayed, which is a technical synonym for mentally r-word, it's correct and fine to say it, if it's being used in a clinically appropriate way and not as an insult.

Omg now you are taking this too far. It’s literally called the special Olympics

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Anonymous wrote:The response seems extreme, especially given the circumstance. A warning should have been given instead, or even an RJ chat. People are just over the top sensitive about words in certain areas, creating such delicate snowflakes.

Would you feel the same if it was the N word? How about the K word? The R word is the most demeaning word you can say around special need children and it shouldn't be said at all.

Calling someone "special need" as an adjective is pretty demeaning too.

And if someone is developmentally delayed, which is a technical synonym for mentally r-word, it's correct and fine to say it, if it's being used in a clinically appropriate way and not as an insult.

If its Bethesda there is usually no accountability for this kind of thing, that's why the OP is shocked.

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I can think of a lot worse but yes - chalk this up to a learning experience for your child.



+1

I am from a different era where the R word was used all the time so personally, I would not give detention for that, just talking to but it is a lesson learned. There are so many worse things that kids are doing so it seems silly for detention for this.

Silly? You are a total a**hole. No wonder your kid turned out so poorly.

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Anonymous wrote:You're first reaction is to rebuke the punishment instead of talking with your child about how horrible that word is? I really feel for teachers with these kinds of parents.

Exactly what I am thinking. I would be disgusted my child said this and he would would have a lot more punishment at home than one single detention.

+1. That’s worthy of a pretty harsh punishment in our home.

I personally don’t like lunch detention. However if I found out my child said this to anyone I would be mortified. I’d rather she said the F word I think.
The N word and R word are a huge no.

Jesus, lady. I’m pretty lax with swearing and not remotely a snowflake SJW, but you’re an absolute moron.

You honestly think your kid can get by saying the R word in 2023? This isn’t 80s. I almost think this must be a troll.

Anyway, while kids today are arguably worse than any prior generation almost across the board, one massive exception to that is how they treat peers with special needs. It is a million times better than when I was in school, and such a kinder, gentler and more empathetic culture. So gratifying to see.

Alas, there’s your troglodyte loser standing athwart history just trying to be an ass. You must be proud.

People reading this thread have collectively wasted more time than OP's kid lost to the lunch detention, which isn't even extra time stuck at school.

But I agree it's not a good punishment, unless the time was spent writing a reflection on low-creativity name-calling.