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Anonymous wrote:My 49 yr old unmarried sister is due to start fertility treatments. She is has severe anxiety and depression. Her 30 yr old boyfriend is a terrible father but she can’t see it. He has two kids from different women. She is a professional, earns well, and has everything she needs to take care of herself but she is so stuck on having this baby. I don’t think it’s going to
happen for her but want to be supportive and at the same time I’m also annoyed at her not being able to see what’s in front of her .

OP, what does "due to start fertility treatments" mean? I agree with the PPs who say that no ethical RE would do this. Are you sure she actually has scheduled plans to start medication, etc, or is she just talking about it?

What are you talking about? Do you realize how many women in their late 40s have babies through fertility treatments? Just look at all the celebrities who had babies in their late 40s.

Mostly with donor eggs, which they will not tell. I was a woman in her 40's trying to get pregnant, so I am well aware of this misconception.

Yes, donor egg and/or surrogate. Like Naomi Campbell, who obnoxiously said that her daughter is "not adopted" and is "her child" (as if adopted children aren't their parents' children), but also refused to admit she used a surrogate. She was on the runway 5 weeks before the baby announcement with no bump, so it's pretty obvious, but still.

I can understand saying it's no one's business how your baby was born, but at the same time, if you're going to appear with the baby on the cover of Vogue and tell everyone she's not adopted, it's pretty clear that you want people to think you got pregnant and gave birth at 51. And that makes women think that late-40s babies are common and NBD, which is cruel

I agree. That is cruel.

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Anonymous wrote:My 49 yr old unmarried sister is due to start fertility treatments. She is has severe anxiety and depression. Her 30 yr old boyfriend is a terrible father but she can’t see it. He has two kids from different women. She is a professional, earns well, and has everything she needs to take care of herself but she is so stuck on having this baby. I don’t think it’s going to
happen for her but want to be supportive and at the same time I’m also annoyed at her not being able to see what’s in front of her .

Think back to Elizabeth Edwards who had fertility treatments after age 59 and got breast cancer and died. Your sister needs professional mental healthy counselling. She is much too old to be having a child and whoever is giving her fertility treatments should be reported fir medical malpractice.

Elizabeth Edwards had children at age 48 and 50. Not 59. I agree it's quite possible the older pregnancy caused her breast cancer, but none of us know if that's true. Maybe she would have gotten cancer regardless.

Really? Wow I did not know that about her.

After her 16-year-old son died in a car crash.

Parenting a teenager in your 60s is no picnic either.

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Anonymous wrote:My 49 yr old unmarried sister is due to start fertility treatments. She is has severe anxiety and depression. Her 30 yr old boyfriend is a terrible father but she can’t see it. He has two kids from different women. She is a professional, earns well, and has everything she needs to take care of herself but she is so stuck on having this baby. I don’t think it’s going to
happen for her but want to be supportive and at the same time I’m also annoyed at her not being able to see what’s in front of her .

OP, what does "due to start fertility treatments" mean? I agree with the PPs who say that no ethical RE would do this. Are you sure she actually has scheduled plans to start medication, etc, or is she just talking about it?

What are you talking about? Do you realize how many women in their late 40s have babies through fertility treatments? Just look at all the celebrities who had babies in their late 40s.

Mostly with donor eggs, which they will not tell. I was a woman in her 40's trying to get pregnant, so I am well aware of this misconception.

Yes, donor egg and/or surrogate. Like Naomi Campbell, who obnoxiously said that her daughter is "not adopted" and is "her child" (as if adopted children aren't their parents' children), but also refused to admit she used a surrogate. She was on the runway 5 weeks before the baby announcement with no bump, so it's pretty obvious, but still.

I can understand saying it's no one's business how your baby was born, but at the same time, if you're going to appear with the baby on the cover of Vogue and tell everyone she's not adopted, it's pretty clear that you want people to think you got pregnant and gave birth at 51. And that makes women think that late-40s babies are common and NBD, which is cruel

I know someone who got pregnant at 50 with her first. She got married very late. I know they used fertility treatments but don't know if they used donor eggs. It can happen, especially if the woman is determined. Baby is now 5 years old and doing great. All you can do OP is be supportive and be there for any potential niece/nephew.

I know 2 women who had babies at age 50. One was a whoopsie. The other was planned.
No problems either.

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Anonymous wrote:My 49 yr old unmarried sister is due to start fertility treatments. She is has severe anxiety and depression. Her 30 yr old boyfriend is a terrible father but she can’t see it. He has two kids from different women. She is a professional, earns well, and has everything she needs to take care of herself but she is so stuck on having this baby. I don’t think it’s going to
happen for her but want to be supportive and at the same time I’m also annoyed at her not being able to see what’s in front of her .

OP, what does "due to start fertility treatments" mean? I agree with the PPs who say that no ethical RE would do this. Are you sure she actually has scheduled plans to start medication, etc, or is she just talking about it?

What are you talking about? Do you realize how many women in their late 40s have babies through fertility treatments? Just look at all the celebrities who had babies in their late 40s.

A lot of these celebrities are telling half truths. They use a surrogate and/or donor eggs, but don't announce that part.

Honestly it's messed up because so many people just see the headline "Jane Superstar a new Mom at age 49!" without realizing a surrogate/donor egg was used and then build of the impression that successful pregnancy at age 49 happens much more often than it really does.

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Anonymous wrote:My 49 yr old unmarried sister is due to start fertility treatments. She is has severe anxiety and depression. Her 30 yr old boyfriend is a terrible father but she can’t see it. He has two kids from different women. She is a professional, earns well, and has everything she needs to take care of herself but she is so stuck on having this baby. I don’t think it’s going to
happen for her but want to be supportive and at the same time I’m also annoyed at her not being able to see what’s in front of her .

OP, what does "due to start fertility treatments" mean? I agree with the PPs who say that no ethical RE would do this. Are you sure she actually has scheduled plans to start medication, etc, or is she just talking about it?

What are you talking about? Do you realize how many women in their late 40s have babies through fertility treatments? Just look at all the celebrities who had babies in their late 40s.

Mostly with donor eggs, which they will not tell. I was a woman in her 40's trying to get pregnant, so I am well aware of this misconception.