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Anonymous wrote:Abortion which to this day I regret - 25 years later.

Oh please, 25% of the women you know have had an abortion. Most of them don't regret it. Get over yourself.

I'm a pro-choice liberal who is disgusted by the conservatives limiting of women's rights by banning abortion.

However if I had ever been in the situation to have one, I may have regretted it too. Just because a lot of women do it with no regret doesn't mean nobody has regret. Have a little sympathy please! Her regret is not a judgment on you or your rights.

Anonymous wrote:I’m not the age that our friends think I am.

Intentional or it just didn’t come up? I became friends with someone through a hobby when I was 24. I thought my friend was maybe 30? 35 at the oldest? I’m pretty sure she thought I was 30-something. Then one day we were filling out paperwork that included our birthdays and ages and we were both kind of mutually shocked to discover I was 24 and she was 43.

I am estranged from my family of origin. My mother wasn't speaking to her mother or family of origin when she died. My father stopped speaking to me and my sister, and he remarried five years after my mother died without telling me or my sister. My sister stopped speaking to me. I still communicate with her husband via FB. My sister cleaned out my parents house. She took everything including my personal belongings from my childhood still at my mother's. I have no pictures of my childhood.

When my mother died in the hospital, my sister threw shoes at me across the room. When I called or visited my mother in the hospital, my sister would hang up the phone or interfere. She denies any of this. She tells people the nurses at the hospital didn't know she had a sister. There is a history of physical, emotional, and verbal abuse and violence among the women in my family of origin.

I am secretly ready for my father to die. He is mostly independent and not mean in any way but I am tired having to be responsible for him in general

That I was sexually molested as a child. So painful even all these years later.

That I have a lot of sadness and fear in me… they think I am so optimistic and resilient but alas, not anymore, not after all the disappointments and getting old

I left my first husband for my second husband. We’ve been married for 15 years and have lives in a totally different part of the country for 10 of them. The way our relationship started hasn’t come up in years.

Had an affair with much older married prof when in grad school. He harassed me, I was petrified - saw him as father figure - but didn’t report bc I didn’t want to be responsible for him getting fired. Ended up lasting a year. It was awful.

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Abortion which to this day I regret - 25 years later.

Oh please, 25% of the women you know have had an abortion. Most of them don't regret it. Get over yourself.

Well, that's empathetic. --new poster

PP, I am sorry you have been struggling with that for 25 years. Maybe it's time to let it go. Wishing you peace.

cheated on my ex- husband with 4 different men for almost our entire 16 year marriage. we divorced because I caught him cheating on me so he took the fall.

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:My parents are 1st cousins.

hmmm...that's a contender for top secret.

Not in Virginia. My first cousins married each other too.

Anonymous wrote:Abortion which to this day I regret - 25 years later.

Oh please, 25% of the women you know have had an abortion. Most of them don't regret it. Get over yourself.

Anonymous wrote:I’ll start: I had a brief, 3-year marriage in my 20s.

three years is not brief

Anonymous wrote:I think about a traumatic event from my past, like over a decade old, multiple times a day, every day.

Same, but more that 25 years ago.

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I’ll start: I had a brief, 3-year marriage in my 20s.

I also had a brief marriage in my 20s that almost no one knows about

I’ve had more than one abortion

I was sexually abused as a child, by multiple people

I am a survivor of domestic abuse

I was marginally homeless for about a year in my 20s


I am now in a very happy marriage, have three beautiful kids, have a very comfortable HHI, and have a stable, boring job. Most people would be shocked to learn these things about me.

Have you had therapy?

Does your spouse know?

Do you think there are emotional scars that influence how you I aren’t?

I am in therapy and have been on and off since I was 20 (I’m in my late 30s). Despite the deep dysfunction of my past I have always had a sense of what to do to progress forward and to improve.

My spouse knows some things, but not everything.

Of course I have emotional scars from these experiences. I am not defined by them anymore, though, and I have come to peace with my past.