What do groups of gays talk about? What do groups of lesbians talk about?

I've found that this type of stereotypical segregation and topic of discussion happens more often if the "party" or social event is bringing together a mix of people who typically don't associate with each other. Like a kids' birthday party where both sides of the family (who normally don't get together) and the kid's friends' parents are all coming together in a social setting where no one really knows each other all that well. Im straight and I hate these types of events because I hate small talk. The topics you're describing are small talk things that people can superficially feel comfortable talking about. When Im at a gathering of good friends and family, the conversations are not divided along gender lines and we all talk more about topics with more depth because we all feel comfortable with each other, I would imagine. I have gay family members and friends and I assure you this is not a gay/straight thing. That being said, my husband hates sports and will tend to hang out with the women and talk about kids' stuff because he takes care of a lot of the kids' stuff, and that's what he knows. No one thinks its odd or anything, that's just the way it is.

Anonymous wrote:Why does this bother so many gay people. No one is being forced to choose a side. If as a woman you join the man group or as a man, you join the woman group-- most people won't care. It comes down to similar hobbies and topics on interest.

Men talk about hobbies and sports more and women talk more about relationships.

People literally do care IME. They act incredibly weird.

Why does this bother so many gay people. No one is being forced to choose a side. If as a woman you join the man group or as a man, you join the woman group-- most people won't care. It comes down to similar hobbies and topics on interest.

Men talk about hobbies and sports more and women talk more about relationships.

1) I haven't been to a party like that. Our parties usually were more mixed. Though sometimes a group might splinter off and talk about beer or sports or politics or the phantom of the opera.
2) I've never been involved in conversations that were so limited by gender, though.
3) Yes, women talk about the kids. But ... so do the men! To those of you saying women's conversations are dull, I'm sorry to hear that you don't like to hear about families. But then, most men don't actually have their own friends. Perhaps you could spend some time listening to the concerns and engaging in personal talk with some people rather than relying on your wife for your friends.
4) Sports and beer? For sure, a little talk about that, men and women. But I avoid those conversations because I'm not s a fan of either. But if you find sports and beer interseting, why not talk about them?
5) To those of you, women included, saying "women's" conversations are dull, I'm sorry you don't like or respect women or their typical strengths. Let's not forget that oftentimesmen don't have close friendships with other men, and rely on their wives or girlfriends for their socializing and emotional intimacy. Emotional intimacy comes from sharing challenges and problems, opening up up and admitting weaknesses (oftentimes about kids or other personal subjects) not about beer or sports (unless you are an alcoholic who has a sports gambling problem). Conversing about the small, the intimate, and the personal is how you become close with a person. Please don't belittle it.
6) Parties in general are about small talk and drinking and catching up, not about getting very in depth with other person. That's more of a one-on-one thing.

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Anonymous wrote:Like when we're at a neighborhood party, why do the men cluster and talk about beer and sports, and the women cluster and talk about kids? It's a different dynamic (with less obvious gender conformity) when it's not a large group/ party, but the party setting seems to really play up gender dynamics? And in parties guys dominate mixed gender conversations. Anyone else notice something similar? We're in a pretty liberal area.

Bad try at trolling. Amateur to the max. Men rarely talk about beer. Ever.
Sports maybe especially the politics of their children's travel sports.
Getting together with mutual friends & update of what everyone is up to is a subject.
Or.occasionally golf or golf trips.
Women talk about kids, but more about schools or planned activities and family vacations.
Try harder.

Agree. I have never heard anyone discussing beer. Not since high school

Straight lady here. In my 20’s in nyc I had mixed male and female friend circles and no one grouped off by gender. I first noticed it with my husband’s friend circle from his hometown. Actually at first I didn’t notice it and socialized with everyone equally until I got the evil eye from some of the wives and realized there’s an element of jealousy there - they think you’re trying to flirt with their husbands (I wasn’t, totally just having a regular conversation.) But once I figured it out I stuck with the (more boring) women’s convos. Since moving out of the city to the burbs, gender separation has been the norm and I feel like it’s super weird and lame, but I go with the flow on it.

Well, life is like a forum, some people like to read real estate and travel forum, others find relationship topics more interesting. Obviously centuries of conditioning plays a role too. Historically, women've doing more child raising and men more home improving so it comes naturally in their conversations.

Skimmed the thread. Straight married woman with no kids. I usually wind up talking travel with anyone, office politics with anyone who works, fashion with the women, and extended family dynamics with anyone who gets into that, and personal sports stories (tell me about your cross fit and I'll tell you about my tennis and running and let's not bore anyone else with this nonsense) with anyone who is looking to chat on that. So kind of the outer circle of both groups, which do 100% exist.

Because as a straight man we don’t really care about hearing about your problems and politics, race, religion are taboo subjects. Other than cars, weather, vacations and sports we have nothing we are allowed to talk about.

Cancel culture makes me too scared to talk outside certain topics

Women complain about kids and irs super annoying

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Anonymous wrote:Like when we're at a neighborhood party, why do the men cluster and talk about beer and sports, and the women cluster and talk about kids? It's a different dynamic (with less obvious gender conformity) when it's not a large group/ party, but the party setting seems to really play up gender dynamics? And in parties guys dominate mixed gender conversations. Anyone else notice something similar? We're in a pretty liberal area.

Bad try at trolling. Amateur to the max. Men rarely talk about beer. Ever.
Sports maybe especially the politics of their children's travel sports.
Getting together with mutual friends & update of what everyone is up to is a subject.
Or.occasionally golf or golf trips.
Women talk about kids, but more about schools or planned activities and family vacations.
Try harder.

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