Anonymous
04/21/2023 15:18
Subject: Re:Seems like many are disappointed
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Do parent’s consider themselves stalkers when they look up neighbors, co-workers, or other professionals on LinkedIn? I didn’t think so.
Um, I think it's creepy and kind of stalk-y to look up a neighbor's linked in. Or at least nosy. If you interact with someone professionally--or are looking for a particular professional, it's fine to look at their accounts as that's what they are there for.
Nobody cares if you think that’s “nosy” or not. It’s all public info. So are addresses & phone numbers. Privatize that stuff if you don’t like it. My LinkedIn page has strong privacy settings.
The prior poster asked if we thought that was considered stalking and I expressed that I kind of did. So since they asked, I guess they at least cared what people think. Sure, it's all public information, doesn't mean tracking it down isn't creepy. Do you tell your neighbors you looked up this stuff about them? Probably not because you know it's kind of creepy.
I do use privacy controls.
This isn’t about the kids’ Instagram accounts. There’s an account at most schools like “big Meadow HS commitments 2023.” I follow the one for my kids’ school even though they are younger. It’s interesting and another data point. But I think the OP is weirdly conflating a lack of posts from a school for disappointment. . It may just not be thing at that school to post on the IG page, maybe not well publicized, whatever.
The School's Instagram are run by the school but is voluntary. Students are not required to put up anything and the information all comes from the students (photos, approval etc).
Anonymous
04/21/2023 15:16
Subject: Re:Seems like many are disappointed
Anonymous wrote:My DD and her friends have all decided and are all happy with their choices (range from highly selective privates, selective in-state public, mid-range privates) but didn't share on the school's Instagram decisions. They just don't care to do that.
^^^ this is the case for my son and his friends. He says only the people who want to make other people feel bad put stuff on Instagram.
Anonymous
04/21/2023 15:15
Subject: Seems like many are disappointed
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Judging from the slow uptake on high school college decision Instagram accounts, it seems like a lot of kids don’t want to say where they’re going next year. TJ, in particular, is a no-show. A lot of publics and privates have one-third to half or more seniors reporting. TJ is 5 percen. Something busted this year.
There are also kids that are just not that into social media. At all.
I hear TJ college acceptances are somewhat better than last year. At least 8 for Harvard.
Anonymous
04/21/2023 15:13
Subject: Re:Seems like many are disappointed
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Do parent’s consider themselves stalkers when they look up neighbors, co-workers, or other professionals on LinkedIn? I didn’t think so.
Um, I think it's creepy and kind of stalk-y to look up a neighbor's linked in. Or at least nosy. If you interact with someone professionally--or are looking for a particular professional, it's fine to look at their accounts as that's what they are there for.
Nobody cares if you think that’s “nosy” or not. It’s all public info. So are addresses & phone numbers. Privatize that stuff if you don’t like it. My LinkedIn page has strong privacy settings.
The prior poster asked if we thought that was considered stalking and I expressed that I kind of did. So since they asked, I guess they at least cared what people think. Sure, it's all public information, doesn't mean tracking it down isn't creepy. Do you tell your neighbors you looked up this stuff about them? Probably not because you know it's kind of creepy.
I do use privacy controls.
This isn’t about the kids’ Instagram accounts. There’s an account at most schools like “big Meadow HS commitments 2023.” I follow the one for my kids’ school even though they are younger. It’s interesting and another data point. But I think the OP is weirdly conflating a lack of posts from a school for disappointment. . It may just not be thing at that school to post on the IG page, maybe not well publicized, whatever.
Anonymous
04/21/2023 14:54
Subject: Re:Seems like many are disappointed
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Do parent’s consider themselves stalkers when they look up neighbors, co-workers, or other professionals on LinkedIn? I didn’t think so.
Um, I think it's creepy and kind of stalk-y to look up a neighbor's linked in. Or at least nosy. If you interact with someone professionally--or are looking for a particular professional, it's fine to look at their accounts as that's what they are there for.
Nobody cares if you think that’s “nosy” or not. It’s all public info. So are addresses & phone numbers. Privatize that stuff if you don’t like it. My LinkedIn page has strong privacy settings.
The prior poster asked if we thought that was considered stalking and I expressed that I kind of did. So since they asked, I guess they at least cared what people think. Sure, it's all public information, doesn't mean tracking it down isn't creepy. Do you tell your neighbors you looked up this stuff about them? Probably not because you know it's kind of creepy.
I do use privacy controls.
Anonymous
04/21/2023 14:37
Subject: Seems like many are disappointed
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:That's on the parents who are clearly disappointed with their kids.
I'm floored by the parents on here who are all bummed that their kid has to attend Case or William & Mary or Northeastern or Tulane or some other school "ranked 40+."
They may think that they're keeping it to themselves but I'm 100% sure it comes out to their kid(s).
My colleague’s son got early acceptance to William and Mary. He’s been in honors classes since 3rd grade and got within the 1400-1500 range on his SATs. They are thrilled. Not seeing how someone would be upset unless they thought their kid was Ivy-bound.
My kid wanted Ivy but I was praying for W&M. Thank god it worked out (for me).
Anonymous
04/21/2023 11:31
Subject: Seems like many are disappointed
Younger kids are more and more concerned about privacy. And this thread is proving them right!
Anonymous
04/21/2023 11:31
Subject: Re:Seems like many are disappointed
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Do parent’s consider themselves stalkers when they look up neighbors, co-workers, or other professionals on LinkedIn? I didn’t think so.
Um, I think it's creepy and kind of stalk-y to look up a neighbor's linked in. Or at least nosy. If you interact with someone professionally--or are looking for a particular professional, it's fine to look at their accounts as that's what they are there for.
Nobody cares if you think that’s “nosy” or not. It’s all public info. So are addresses & phone numbers. Privatize that stuff if you don’t like it. My LinkedIn page has strong privacy settings.
Anonymous
04/21/2023 11:30
Subject: Re:Seems like many are disappointed
Anonymous wrote:For all those saying that posting is a dying thing, that doesn’t explain the vast differences by school. Posting behavior makes clear this is not a public vs. private thing or a selective high school vs. public thing; it’s school specific. TJ is an anomaly, in a bad way.
I think you're grasping at straws here.
Anonymous
04/21/2023 11:28
Subject: Re:Seems like many are disappointed
Anonymous wrote:Do parent’s consider themselves stalkers when they look up neighbors, co-workers, or other professionals on LinkedIn? I didn’t think so.
Um, I think it's creepy and kind of stalk-y to look up a neighbor's linked in. Or at least nosy. If you interact with someone professionally--or are looking for a particular professional, it's fine to look at their accounts as that's what they are there for.
Anonymous
04/21/2023 11:25
Subject: Re:Seems like many are disappointed
Do parent’s consider themselves stalkers when they look up neighbors, co-workers, or other professionals on LinkedIn? I didn’t think so.
Anonymous
04/21/2023 11:23
Subject: Seems like many are disappointed
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Judging from the slow uptake on high school college decision Instagram accounts, it seems like a lot of kids don’t want to say where they’re going next year. TJ, in particular, is a no-show. A lot of publics and privates have one-third to half or more seniors reporting. TJ is 5 percen. Something busted this year.
and you're looking at Instagram for accurate information??? OMG, LOL.
+1
OP, why are you stalking kids' Instagrams? That does not seem particularly "off" to you? My word.
If the accounts are public…
Yes, but it is still stalking kids' Instagrams, no matter what you prefer to call it. Gross.
This is so bizarre and defensive. Look at who follows these accounts. It’s the kids at the school, kids from nearby high schools, and neighborhood parents of kids who attend and those who sent their kids to nearby privates. Sure, there is some curiosity, and perhaps some competitiveness, but it’s far from “stalking.” No one is bullying anyone about their choice. And, these decisions will be posted someday on LinkedIn or another site. It just isn’t a big deal.
Anonymous
04/21/2023 11:02
Subject: Seems like many are disappointed
+1 about 1/3 of our HS posts now. I've been warning my junior not to get hung up on looking at the HS insta commits. We have set a budget and DC needs to pick what works best for them.Anonymous wrote:I’ve had the same thought as OP, but there are a lot of confounding factors. Mostly I think these accounts are a fad that’s past its peak (like Instagram itself, really).
Anonymous
04/21/2023 11:00
Subject: Seems like many are disappointed
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Judging from the slow uptake on high school college decision Instagram accounts, it seems like a lot of kids don’t want to say where they’re going next year. TJ, in particular, is a no-show. A lot of publics and privates have one-third to half or more seniors reporting. TJ is 5 percen. Something busted this year.
and you're looking at Instagram for accurate information??? OMG, LOL.
+1
OP, why are you stalking kids' Instagrams? That does not seem particularly "off" to you? My word.
If the accounts are public…
Yes, but it is still stalking kids' Instagrams, no matter what you prefer to call it. Gross.
Anonymous
04/21/2023 10:59
Subject: Seems like many are disappointed
Anonymous wrote:Judging from the slow uptake on high school college decision Instagram accounts, it seems like a lot of kids don’t want to say where they’re going next year. TJ, in particular, is a no-show. A lot of publics and privates have one-third to half or more seniors reporting. TJ is 5 percen. Something busted this year.
Are you disappointed, OP?