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Anonymous wrote:People in my UMC circle seem to start procreating in their early thirties. Do we still have first time moms at 35+?

Good for them. Sounds like they’re learning from older millennials & Gen X’ers that waiting until 35+ usually results in having to pay for expensive fertility treatments & harder postpartum recovery.

+1 and greater chances of giving birth to a child with special needs, which some parents find challenging

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:People in my UMC circle seem to start procreating in their early thirties. Do we still have first time moms at 35+?

I think for normal people, having your first after 35/36 is odd. But do know of people having a second or third at 35/36

"normal people"??

People who make <$100k/year and are bachelor’s degree educated or lower

Only 30% of the US population has a BA or more

Anonymous wrote:People in my UMC circle seem to start procreating in their early thirties. Do we still have first time moms at 35+?

This question is not even about fertility or parenting. It's about a relentless voice in your head that demands you compare the minutiae of your circumstances and choices to everyone around you. Have you told it to be quiet and to let you live your life in peace?

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:People in my UMC circle seem to start procreating in their early thirties. Do we still have first time moms at 35+?

Good for them. Sounds like they’re learning from older millennials & Gen X’ers that waiting until 35+ usually results in having to pay for expensive fertility treatments & harder postpartum recovery.

Usually? Not in my friends group. I got pregnant first month of TTC at age 36 without any of what you describe.

Yes, usually. The plural of anecdote is not data.

Source?

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:People in my UMC circle seem to start procreating in their early thirties. Do we still have first time moms at 35+?

I think for normal people, having your first after 35/36 is odd. But do know of people having a second or third at 35/36

"normal people"??

When my oldest was born, I had just turned 30 and we lived in the DMV. I was always the youngest mom in any social group setting. Now we live in the Midwest and in most social group settings, there are usually a few older parents and a few younger parents but most are right around my age so I feel that I had kids at a pretty average age for this area. But I am from the deep South and there, I am one of the oldest parents in any group setting! I think this would hold true if you look at actual statistics about this: people in the south still tend to get married younger and have babies younger than in other parts of the country.

Before birth control existed lots of women had children after 35.

Anonymous wrote:There was a mom in my PACE group who was like 27. She was such a baby compared to everyone else!

Yes, having children when in your biological prime is just bizarre

Anonymous wrote:People in my UMC circle seem to start procreating in their early thirties. Do we still have first time moms at 35+?

I think for normal people, having your first after 35/36 is odd. But do know of people having a second or third at 35/36

Anonymous wrote:People in my UMC circle seem to start procreating in their early thirties. Do we still have first time moms at 35+?

No. They send them to a special island of shame now.

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Anonymous wrote:I had my first at 31 and am having my third at 35. I live in New York and have always been the youngest or second youngest mom in my kids' classes. My oldest is going into preK next year and most parents are in their early 40s. Sometimes I wonder what it would have been like if I'd waited a few more years to have my first. But to answer your question, yes, plenty of 35+ first time moms in NYC. Actually, more like 37, 38, and 39!

I had my oldest at 27. As far as I know I’m the youngest mom in her grade by 5 years. It’s actually kind of crappy in that I’ve struggled to make friends.

Been there!

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Anonymous wrote:I have a good friend that had a baby at 47, but she used a surrogate. She married late and always wanted children.

Yes, you can always rent a womb.

But you have to buy the eggs!

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:People in my UMC circle seem to start procreating in their early thirties. Do we still have first time moms at 35+?

Good for them. Sounds like they’re learning from older millennials & Gen X’ers that waiting until 35+ usually results in having to pay for expensive fertility treatments & harder postpartum recovery.

Usually? Not in my friends group. I got pregnant first month of TTC at age 36 without any of what you describe.

Yes, usually. The plural of anecdote is not data.

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:People in my UMC circle seem to start procreating in their early thirties. Do we still have first time moms at 35+?

Good for them. Sounds like they’re learning from older millennials & Gen X’ers that waiting until 35+ usually results in having to pay for expensive fertility treatments & harder postpartum recovery.

Usually? Not in my friends group. I got pregnant first month of TTC at age 36 without any of what you describe.

I am from PA, in the area I grew up people have their first kid around age 21/22. Some would be too ostracized if they tried that around here.