Anonymous
Post 04/14/2023 20:28     Subject: Re:Send kid in pajamas to daycare
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:Why not get comfy play clothes and use them as PJs?

I have heard teachers discuss how well groomed some kids are and even what they bring in their lunch boxes in daycare situations. They comment on whose parents are perpetually late in picking them up. Yes, they are human and they draw conclusions about parents and kids based on that. Also, the drop-off and pick-up arrangements of divorced parents are also discussed.

How did it change my own behavior. I made sure that my kid was clean, well groomed, smelled good and wore freshly laundered and ironed clothes. I also used to rub her clothing with a sheet of fabric softener to reduce static and make her clothes smell extra nice.

You rubbed perfume all over your kid so she smelled "nice"? Sorry, that's nuts. A kid in clean clothes who bathes regularly smells just fine, and doesn't need fake scent.


Yes, dryer sheets are gross and full of chemicals. PP probably also sprays her dog with Febreze


Oh my gosh yes they smell disgusting. I wouldn’t be able to stand that in my class. I’ll take stinky kids over fake scents any day. Plus stop sending your neurotoxins into where young children play eat and sleep!!
Anonymous
Post 04/14/2023 19:11     Subject: Send kid in pajamas to daycare
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:I’ll admit I side eye kids who are over age 1 in pajamas. It makes the parents look sloppy and lazy, like they don’t care well enough for the child. I also assume if you are cool with your children wearing rumpled pajamas they likely wore the night before put on public that you also likely have a messy, disorganized home and life. Appearances matter in this world, like it or not. If you truly don’t GAF what your kids wear and don’t care what the teachers and fellow classmates think that’s totally good for you! Just know you and the kids may get extra attention that’s not positive for it. Whether you care or not is up to you. And whether you want others to think you care or not is also up to you.


Yeah I would say definitely no one should care about the opinion of someone who’d judge this!!


Here’s the thing … a lot of people here, including daycare workers and teachers, are saying they do judge it. That may not matter to you, which is evident since you don’t care a lot about appearances. No biggie for you, and you can roll your eyes all you want, but it’s the truth that others are looking at your kid and judging your parenting decisions. Whether you think they should or not. Welcome to the real world!


So they judge it. So what? Why would I spend time worrying about what people think of my parenting choices?


Sure, Jan. You don’t care. We believe you.
Anonymous
Post 04/14/2023 18:34     Subject: Send kid in pajamas to daycare
Our daycare expected kids to be dressed in clothes. Joggers and a t-shirt worked fine.

If you don't care and neither does the daycare, send your kid in pajamas.
Anonymous
Post 04/14/2023 18:09     Subject: Send kid in pajamas to daycare
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:I’ll admit I side eye kids who are over age 1 in pajamas. It makes the parents look sloppy and lazy, like they don’t care well enough for the child. I also assume if you are cool with your children wearing rumpled pajamas they likely wore the night before put on public that you also likely have a messy, disorganized home and life. Appearances matter in this world, like it or not. If you truly don’t GAF what your kids wear and don’t care what the teachers and fellow classmates think that’s totally good for you! Just know you and the kids may get extra attention that’s not positive for it. Whether you care or not is up to you. And whether you want others to think you care or not is also up to you.


Yeah I would say definitely no one should care about the opinion of someone who’d judge this!!


Here’s the thing … a lot of people here, including daycare workers and teachers, are saying they do judge it. That may not matter to you, which is evident since you don’t care a lot about appearances. No biggie for you, and you can roll your eyes all you want, but it’s the truth that others are looking at your kid and judging your parenting decisions. Whether you think they should or not. Welcome to the real world!


So they judge it. So what? Why would I spend time worrying about what people think of my parenting choices?
Anonymous
Post 04/14/2023 16:54     Subject: Re:Send kid in pajamas to daycare
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:Why not get comfy play clothes and use them as PJs?

I have heard teachers discuss how well groomed some kids are and even what they bring in their lunch boxes in daycare situations. They comment on whose parents are perpetually late in picking them up. Yes, they are human and they draw conclusions about parents and kids based on that. Also, the drop-off and pick-up arrangements of divorced parents are also discussed.

How did it change my own behavior. I made sure that my kid was clean, well groomed, smelled good and wore freshly laundered and ironed clothes. I also used to rub her clothing with a sheet of fabric softener to reduce static and make her clothes smell extra nice.

You rubbed perfume all over your kid so she smelled "nice"? Sorry, that's nuts. A kid in clean clothes who bathes regularly smells just fine, and doesn't need fake scent.


Yes, dryer sheets are gross and full of chemicals. PP probably also sprays her dog with Febreze
Anonymous
Post 04/14/2023 15:43     Subject: Send kid in pajamas to daycare
Anonymous wrote:I like mixing pajama tops with regular pants. But today for picture day I sent my daughter in her elmo pajamas with elmo crocs. Yes sue me - I used up all her nice dresses during passover. In any case an elmo picture will capture this moment in her toddlerhood better than some fancy dress she trips over.

She looks super cute in elmo pajamas. It helps she is only 23 months - I wouldn't do it to a four year old but I wouldn't fight a four year old either if they wanted to wear pajamas to daycare.


+1 my hack on this issue is to mix and match PJ tops and bottoms to make it look less like PJs than a uniform print

We buy a lot of Carter's pants and they feel similar to PJs (cotton, soft waistband, etc). I only buy those for my 4yo, no jeans or pants with buttons etc. I have a DS but assume there are similar girl options.
Anonymous
Post 04/14/2023 14:10     Subject: Send kid in pajamas to daycare
I like mixing pajama tops with regular pants. But today for picture day I sent my daughter in her elmo pajamas with elmo crocs. Yes sue me - I used up all her nice dresses during passover. In any case an elmo picture will capture this moment in her toddlerhood better than some fancy dress she trips over.

She looks super cute in elmo pajamas. It helps she is only 23 months - I wouldn't do it to a four year old but I wouldn't fight a four year old either if they wanted to wear pajamas to daycare.
Anonymous
Post 04/13/2023 22:16     Subject: Re:Send kid in pajamas to daycare
Idk but our rule is that clothing has to be (1) appropriate to the weather and activity, and (2) not pajamas. It’s hard to stay consistent but I don’t let them wear pajamas out of the house unless it’s to a doctors appt when they are sick.
Anonymous
Post 04/13/2023 10:23     Subject: Send kid in pajamas to daycare
Anonymous wrote:Former preschool teacher here. I did not care at ALL about pajamas. I cared about good shoes that they can climb in and don't get wood chips in constantly. And I cared if parents asked me to please not get their dress messy. That annoyed me--it's preschool, we get messy. But weather appropriate pajamas? Totally fine. Non issue.


Pp...and also if they can climb on the playground safely. An Elsa dress is adorable, but if it goes below their feet constantly, it was stressful worrying about them falling.
Anonymous
Post 04/13/2023 10:22     Subject: Send kid in pajamas to daycare
Former preschool teacher here. I did not care at ALL about pajamas. I cared about good shoes that they can climb in and don't get wood chips in constantly. And I cared if parents asked me to please not get their dress messy. That annoyed me--it's preschool, we get messy. But weather appropriate pajamas? Totally fine. Non issue.
Anonymous
Post 04/13/2023 10:00     Subject: Re:Send kid in pajamas to daycare
Anonymous wrote:Why not get comfy play clothes and use them as PJs?

I have heard teachers discuss how well groomed some kids are and even what they bring in their lunch boxes in daycare situations. They comment on whose parents are perpetually late in picking them up. Yes, they are human and they draw conclusions about parents and kids based on that. Also, the drop-off and pick-up arrangements of divorced parents are also discussed.

How did it change my own behavior. I made sure that my kid was clean, well groomed, smelled good and wore freshly laundered and ironed clothes. I also used to rub her clothing with a sheet of fabric softener to reduce static and make her clothes smell extra nice.

You rubbed perfume all over your kid so she smelled "nice"? Sorry, that's nuts. A kid in clean clothes who bathes regularly smells just fine, and doesn't need fake scent.
Anonymous
Post 04/13/2023 09:59     Subject: Send kid in pajamas to daycare
Sure your kids’ appearance makes a difference in how they get treated at daycare. What also makes a difference is the relationship you form with their teachers. I am astounded at the number of parents I see who don’t even acknowledge the teachers. I always make a point to say hello and call them by their name, ask how they are doing, how their weekend was, etc. I make sure I say “Thank you for everything you do.” I treat them like the human beings that they are.
Anonymous
Post 04/13/2023 09:47     Subject: Send kid in pajamas to daycare
As long as they are clean, fit well, and you pack spares there is no issue. Don’t worry about the monologuing here. It’s such a short period of your lives. It’s not worth fretting over.
Anonymous
Post 04/13/2023 09:44     Subject: Send kid in pajamas to daycare
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:I’ll admit I side eye kids who are over age 1 in pajamas. It makes the parents look sloppy and lazy, like they don’t care well enough for the child. I also assume if you are cool with your children wearing rumpled pajamas they likely wore the night before put on public that you also likely have a messy, disorganized home and life. Appearances matter in this world, like it or not. If you truly don’t GAF what your kids wear and don’t care what the teachers and fellow classmates think that’s totally good for you! Just know you and the kids may get extra attention that’s not positive for it. Whether you care or not is up to you. And whether you want others to think you care or not is also up to you.


Yeah I would say definitely no one should care about the opinion of someone who’d judge this!!


Here’s the thing … a lot of people here, including daycare workers and teachers, are saying they do judge it. That may not matter to you, which is evident since you don’t care a lot about appearances. No biggie for you, and you can roll your eyes all you want, but it’s the truth that others are looking at your kid and judging your parenting decisions. Whether you think they should or not. Welcome to the real world!
Anonymous
Post 04/13/2023 09:39     Subject: Send kid in pajamas to daycare
It’s fine.