I live overseas with the purpose of avoiding any and all contact with my narcissistic borderline parent.

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Anonymous wrote:My adult child lives in the UK. I hear from her just about everyday via text or FaceTime. I see her in person four or five times a year; sometimes we go there and sometimes she comes home to visit.

You fly or she flies over every 2.5-3 months per year? I don’t believe that.

Some people are wealthy, dear.

I am wealthy and still do not believe that you and your daughter do that.

I am the person withe the daughter in the UK (not the person with the snide wealthy remark). As I said, sometimes we fly to her and other times she flies to us so that's just twice a year for each of us. I don't see how that is excessive, particularly given that lodging is taken care of.

I was the daughter living overseas (in the UK) for several years and our schedule was much like yours, pp. I talked to my parent pretty much every day and we each traveled to the other 2-3x per year. My spouse talked to his parent a few times a week and visited 1-2x a year.

Now that we are back in the US, we still speak every day and visit 4-6 times a year.

My parents live in Asia. We see them once a year - take turns visiting, but will stay 3-4 weeks at a time.
We facetime every weekend for them to see the kids (elementary age)
I talk to them over the phone once a week sans kids.

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Anonymous wrote:My adult child lives in the UK. I hear from her just about everyday via text or FaceTime. I see her in person four or five times a year; sometimes we go there and sometimes she comes home to visit.

You fly or she flies over every 2.5-3 months per year? I don’t believe that.

Some people are wealthy, dear.

Money is not the only factor, dear.

Yes it is

What about time? Assuming people are working…you’re talking about taking time off to travel, time off to spend with each other during the visit and so forth. I’m not saying it’s not possible, because lots of people have plenty of flexibility or portability in their jobs. I’m just agreeing with the PP who said that money is not the only factor. Time is also a factor, generally. Maybe these people have unlimited amounts of both money and time. Wheee!

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Anonymous wrote:My BFF's DD is in EU as a Fulbright scholar, family visited her twice. She hasn't in 8 months even though they wanted her to come and offered tickets.

As a Fulbright scholar, she may have responsibilities that don't allow her to leave her host country. Also, they're a limited term, so it's not like this is a permanent situation.

Yeah, teachers have a lot on their plates

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Anonymous wrote:My adult child lives in the UK. I hear from her just about everyday via text or FaceTime. I see her in person four or five times a year; sometimes we go there and sometimes she comes home to visit.

You fly or she flies over every 2.5-3 months per year? I don’t believe that.

Some people are wealthy, dear.

Money is not the only factor, dear.

Yes it is

Anonymous wrote:I lived in London for three years. Spoke with parents almost daily (even if just to say goodnight). Traveled home 2/3 times per year.

That is sweet, actually.

I lived in London for three years. Spoke with parents almost daily (even if just to say goodnight). Traveled home 2/3 times per year.

Kid in New Zealand doing a six month study abroad (which is six hours behind us, but also tomorrow. We Zoom once a week. We also Zoom once a week when he is in college six hours away. Family text chain whenever.