Anonymous
Post 04/10/2023 11:25     Subject: DS does not want to work after college graduation. WWYD?
Anonymous wrote:I think it's a great idea! I graduated in May, had internships until August, my job started in November. My mom basically had a heart attack over my 3 months of "unemployment". She made me feel terrible about myself, forced me to get a minimum wage job (I didn't need money) if I wanted to stay in her house and assigned me TONS of chores. I wanted to use my savings (I had high paying summer jobs) to backpack with my best friend but she told me no and that unemployed people don't get to vacation. The whole thing was insane IMO. Don't be my mom. I think my mom had seen boomerang kids who lived in their parents basements and got worried that's what I was planning. Instead of just having the last 3 months free of my entire adult life before I started the nonstop rat race. We didn't speak for a while and she wishes I came home more often with my kids. ha! I don't have the leave.


OP would be fine if the job was willing to wait to November and he took off some time. This is her DC turning down ALL his job offers to become a vagabond for a year.
Anonymous
Post 04/10/2023 11:24     Subject: Re:DS does not want to work after college graduation. WWYD?
If he hustled to graduate in 3 years, a regular 8-5 job he can leave at 5pm will feel like a break. He'll be fine.
Anonymous
Post 04/10/2023 11:24     Subject: DS does not want to work after college graduation. WWYD?
Anonymous wrote:What choice do you have? He’s an adult. Even if you cut him off he can manage for a year fine.


He has $25k. Has he ever traveled as a true budget traveler or only when parents were paying? $25k for a YEAR means hostels and lots and lots of buses, not a nice hotel with a private bath and good meals out.
Anonymous
Post 04/10/2023 11:23     Subject: DS does not want to work after college graduation. WWYD?
I think it's a great idea! I graduated in May, had internships until August, my job started in November. My mom basically had a heart attack over my 3 months of "unemployment". She made me feel terrible about myself, forced me to get a minimum wage job (I didn't need money) if I wanted to stay in her house and assigned me TONS of chores. I wanted to use my savings (I had high paying summer jobs) to backpack with my best friend but she told me no and that unemployed people don't get to vacation. The whole thing was insane IMO. Don't be my mom. I think my mom had seen boomerang kids who lived in their parents basements and got worried that's what I was planning. Instead of just having the last 3 months free of my entire adult life before I started the nonstop rat race. We didn't speak for a while and she wishes I came home more often with my kids. ha! I don't have the leave.
Anonymous
Post 04/10/2023 11:23     Subject: DS does not want to work after college graduation. WWYD?
Anonymous wrote:
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Anonymous wrote:I’d let him do it. Once in a lifetime opportunity. And if he’s talented enough that he’s being offered a 130k salary straight out of undergrad, there will be another job offer.


Op said $103k, which is a standard professional salary these days with inflation and hot labor market. OP should clarify how much of a hot shot he is job market wise — my feeling is if he was that desirable he would have multiple offers and negotiated a 6 month start date. That’s what adults do.


LOL no.


WHich part is "NO"? when I graduated I negotiated a late start date 4 months later, and I was just a run of the mill student (though I was from an elite school).



How long ago were you graduated? This is 2023, not 1990. Most tech employers, especially startups, will not wait for you.


Well, first off I would not be taking a job at a freaking startup, with the higher rates and VC winter.
Anonymous
Post 04/10/2023 11:21     Subject: DS does not want to work after college graduation. WWYD?
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:How wealthy and connected are you? People who forgo employment after college have parents who can support them nearly indefinitely and help connect them with jobs.

He has $25k - they wont cover a year of traveling even by backpack. No student debt?


OP here. No student debt. He won a prestigious academic scholarship that covered both tuition, room, board, and a $200/month in stipend.


So you aren't rich or connected -- he was a smart kid that went to the lower rung school which offered the best scholarship?
Anonymous
Post 04/10/2023 11:21     Subject: DS does not want to work after college graduation. WWYD?
Slightly different situation but I got out of college without a job and unsure of what I wanted to do, freaked out, and jumped right into a one year grad school. A year later, I still didn't really know what I wanted to do, moved across the country, and found a temp job. That led to a "real job" and I've had a decent career ever since (though I still don't know what I want to do when I grow up - at age 50 LOL). Living probably an UMC lifestyle, nice house, travel, etc.

If I had to do it all over again, I would have skipped grad school and realized I didn't need to jump right into the rest of my life immediately after college. It's a great time to try to "find yourself" and he may regret jumping right into a job, especially if he's already feeling burnt out.
Anonymous
Post 04/10/2023 11:20     Subject: DS does not want to work after college graduation. WWYD?
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:I’d let him do it. Once in a lifetime opportunity. And if he’s talented enough that he’s being offered a 130k salary straight out of undergrad, there will be another job offer.


Op said $103k, which is a standard professional salary these days with inflation and hot labor market. OP should clarify how much of a hot shot he is job market wise — my feeling is if he was that desirable he would have multiple offers and negotiated a 6 month start date. That’s what adults do.


LOL no.


WHich part is "NO"? when I graduated I negotiated a late start date 4 months later, and I was just a run of the mill student (though I was from an elite school).


The $100k/year job being the norm for a new grad part.
Anonymous
Post 04/10/2023 11:19     Subject: DS does not want to work after college graduation. WWYD?
Anonymous wrote:DS will graduate from college next month with a very good job offer, 103K salary, waiting for him; however, DS feels like he is burning out after five years in the rat race, started in sophomore year in HS and about to end next month, he graduates in three years. He just wants to take a year off to pursue things that he has missed for the past five years. He has 25K in savings from two past summer internships that he will use to travel the world. Is this a good or bad idea especially with the uncertainty in the economy at this time?


He needs female companionship. And, maybe, a beach vacation.
Anonymous
Post 04/10/2023 11:17     Subject: DS does not want to work after college graduation. WWYD?
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:I’d let him do it. Once in a lifetime opportunity. And if he’s talented enough that he’s being offered a 130k salary straight out of undergrad, there will be another job offer.


Op said $103k, which is a standard professional salary these days with inflation and hot labor market. OP should clarify how much of a hot shot he is job market wise — my feeling is if he was that desirable he would have multiple offers and negotiated a 6 month start date. That’s what adults do.


LOL no.


WHich part is "NO"? when I graduated I negotiated a late start date 4 months later, and I was just a run of the mill student (though I was from an elite school).



How long ago were you graduated? This is 2023, not 1990. Most tech employers, especially startups, will not wait for you.
Anonymous
Post 04/10/2023 11:14     Subject: DS does not want to work after college graduation. WWYD?
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:I’d let him do it. Once in a lifetime opportunity. And if he’s talented enough that he’s being offered a 130k salary straight out of undergrad, there will be another job offer.


Op said $103k, which is a standard professional salary these days with inflation and hot labor market. OP should clarify how much of a hot shot he is job market wise — my feeling is if he was that desirable he would have multiple offers and negotiated a 6 month start date. That’s what adults do.


LOL no.


WHich part is "NO"? when I graduated I negotiated a late start date 4 months later, and I was just a run of the mill student (though I was from an elite school).
Anonymous
Post 04/10/2023 11:11     Subject: DS does not want to work after college graduation. WWYD?
Anonymous wrote:This is not your call he is an adult

I would encourage him to take the job in 2024 when Republicans take over there will not be any we are headed to a major depression .

However like I said you have no say. Have him move out no help from you and let him make his bed it’s his life not yours you raised a slacker omg he had to work hard to get where he is smm


Where do you get the idea that he is a slacker? A slacker doesn't get a full-ride scholarship and graduate in three years.
Anonymous
Post 04/10/2023 11:07     Subject: DS does not want to work after college graduation. WWYD?
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:I'd negotiate a start date for the job in the fall.


No employer can put a job on hold for 12 months.


I mean according to all the layoffs we see in Big Tech apparently they could haha
Anonymous
Post 04/10/2023 10:56     Subject: Re:DS does not want to work after college graduation. WWYD?
He should have 2 weeks between graduation and work, let him travel then. If anything, I’d suggest starting the job and working for 2 years then resign in May 2025 and take the summer off. He’ll have work experience and if he can’t find another job then can do grad school.
Anonymous
Post 04/10/2023 10:56     Subject: DS does not want to work after college graduation. WWYD?
If I were him I’d take the job, get some work experience under my belt, save more money and then think of a break.