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Anonymous wrote:Op here, I am at 39 weeks. This may come as a suprise to you but not all decisions/desires in life are made solely based on medical reasons. We are an immigrant family and both my kids were preemies so my mom came early to support us and she has to leave next week- leaving me with no support person. Husband has no leave from work and we have no family/close friends around. I really wanted my mom to meet with the baby.

That is not a reason to force the baby to be born when it isn’t ready. You are not overdue. How incredible selfish and inappropriate.
People have babies everyday with no support person. You are ridiculous. My husband had no leave whatsoever and we lived out of state with no family or friends. Get over yourself.

Congratulations... geez.
OP I have no idea why people are being jerks about this. My OB will put anyone interested on the elective induction list at 39 weeks because it's totally reasonable and evidence based. Anyway I had a membrane sweep at 39+6 and that did it for me for my 2nd child. Unfortunately with my first though I had two sweeps and they did nothing, had to be induced.

Gotta get that baby out for visitor convenience.

Who cares what the reason is though if medically there is no reason not to induce at 39 weeks?
I was completely miserable with a knee injury barely able to walk to take care of my toddler so by 39 weeks I was feeling desperate for baby to come out. He seemed pretty ready considering labor was only 2 hours long. I judge people who wait until 42 weeks way more than anyone getting induced at 39.... if you look at the risks there's no question which scenario is safer for mother and baby.

You don’t want to be judged while you judge others. Got it.
Your reason for induction was not for a visit, idiot.
Doctors do not wait until 42 weeks to induce, again, you’re an idiot.
40 weeks is full term so if someone waits till then, that is again, full term.

Wow, you might want to take a walk or something.
I know people who wanted birth center /home births and waited until 42 weeks hoping baby would come on his/her own. When that didn't happen the midwife said they had to go to the hospital for the birth. So yeah, again compared to people going with evidence based practices like a 39 week induction, I will definitely judge someone more who is doing risky things solely based on their l/d preference.

Just because someone doesn’t get induced at 39 weeks doesn’t mean they will go till week 42. You do know babies are born everyday at 40 weeks and at 41 weeks. Hard for you to grasp that, I presume.

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Anonymous wrote:Op here, I am at 39 weeks. This may come as a suprise to you but not all decisions/desires in life are made solely based on medical reasons. We are an immigrant family and both my kids were preemies so my mom came early to support us and she has to leave next week- leaving me with no support person. Husband has no leave from work and we have no family/close friends around. I really wanted my mom to meet with the baby.

That is not a reason to force the baby to be born when it isn’t ready. You are not overdue. How incredible selfish and inappropriate.
People have babies everyday with no support person. You are ridiculous. My husband had no leave whatsoever and we lived out of state with no family or friends. Get over yourself.

Congratulations... geez.
OP I have no idea why people are being jerks about this. My OB will put anyone interested on the elective induction list at 39 weeks because it's totally reasonable and evidence based. Anyway I had a membrane sweep at 39+6 and that did it for me for my 2nd child. Unfortunately with my first though I had two sweeps and they did nothing, had to be induced.

Gotta get that baby out for visitor convenience.

Who cares what the reason is though if medically there is no reason not to induce at 39 weeks?
I was completely miserable with a knee injury barely able to walk to take care of my toddler so by 39 weeks I was feeling desperate for baby to come out. He seemed pretty ready considering labor was only 2 hours long. I judge people who wait until 42 weeks way more than anyone getting induced at 39.... if you look at the risks there's no question which scenario is safer for mother and baby.

You don’t want to be judged while you judge others. Got it.
Your reason for induction was not for a visit, idiot.
Doctors do not wait until 42 weeks to induce, again, you’re an idiot.
40 weeks is full term so if someone waits till then, that is again, full term.

Wow, you might want to take a walk or something.
I know people who wanted birth center /home births and waited until 42 weeks hoping baby would come on his/her own. When that didn't happen the midwife said they had to go to the hospital for the birth. So yeah, again compared to people going with evidence based practices like a 39 week induction, I will definitely judge someone more who is doing risky things solely based on their l/d preference.

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Anonymous wrote:Op here, I am at 39 weeks. This may come as a suprise to you but not all decisions/desires in life are made solely based on medical reasons. We are an immigrant family and both my kids were preemies so my mom came early to support us and she has to leave next week- leaving me with no support person. Husband has no leave from work and we have no family/close friends around. I really wanted my mom to meet with the baby.

That is not a reason to force the baby to be born when it isn’t ready. You are not overdue. How incredible selfish and inappropriate.
People have babies everyday with no support person. You are ridiculous. My husband had no leave whatsoever and we lived out of state with no family or friends. Get over yourself.

Congratulations... geez.
OP I have no idea why people are being jerks about this. My OB will put anyone interested on the elective induction list at 39 weeks because it's totally reasonable and evidence based. Anyway I had a membrane sweep at 39+6 and that did it for me for my 2nd child. Unfortunately with my first though I had two sweeps and they did nothing, had to be induced.

Gotta get that baby out for visitor convenience.

Who cares what the reason is though if medically there is no reason not to induce at 39 weeks?
I was completely miserable with a knee injury barely able to walk to take care of my toddler so by 39 weeks I was feeling desperate for baby to come out. He seemed pretty ready considering labor was only 2 hours long. I judge people who wait until 42 weeks way more than anyone getting induced at 39.... if you look at the risks there's no question which scenario is safer for mother and baby.

Full-term is 280 days which is 40 weeks. 39 weeks is not late and baby can stay without being induced for another week or two. OP should not have had mother come only to leave before baby is due.

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Anonymous wrote:Op here, I am at 39 weeks. This may come as a suprise to you but not all decisions/desires in life are made solely based on medical reasons. We are an immigrant family and both my kids were preemies so my mom came early to support us and she has to leave next week- leaving me with no support person. Husband has no leave from work and we have no family/close friends around. I really wanted my mom to meet with the baby.

That is not a reason to force the baby to be born when it isn’t ready. You are not overdue. How incredible selfish and inappropriate.
People have babies everyday with no support person. You are ridiculous. My husband had no leave whatsoever and we lived out of state with no family or friends. Get over yourself.

Congratulations... geez.
OP I have no idea why people are being jerks about this. My OB will put anyone interested on the elective induction list at 39 weeks because it's totally reasonable and evidence based. Anyway I had a membrane sweep at 39+6 and that did it for me for my 2nd child. Unfortunately with my first though I had two sweeps and they did nothing, had to be induced.

Gotta get that baby out for visitor convenience.

Who cares what the reason is though if medically there is no reason not to induce at 39 weeks?
I was completely miserable with a knee injury barely able to walk to take care of my toddler so by 39 weeks I was feeling desperate for baby to come out. He seemed pretty ready considering labor was only 2 hours long. I judge people who wait until 42 weeks way more than anyone getting induced at 39.... if you look at the risks there's no question which scenario is safer for mother and baby.

Physicians do not wait until week 42 so your comparison does not exist.

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Anonymous wrote:Op here, I am at 39 weeks. This may come as a suprise to you but not all decisions/desires in life are made solely based on medical reasons. We are an immigrant family and both my kids were preemies so my mom came early to support us and she has to leave next week- leaving me with no support person. Husband has no leave from work and we have no family/close friends around. I really wanted my mom to meet with the baby.

That is not a reason to force the baby to be born when it isn’t ready. You are not overdue. How incredible selfish and inappropriate.
People have babies everyday with no support person. You are ridiculous. My husband had no leave whatsoever and we lived out of state with no family or friends. Get over yourself.

Congratulations... geez.
OP I have no idea why people are being jerks about this. My OB will put anyone interested on the elective induction list at 39 weeks because it's totally reasonable and evidence based. Anyway I had a membrane sweep at 39+6 and that did it for me for my 2nd child. Unfortunately with my first though I had two sweeps and they did nothing, had to be induced.

Gotta get that baby out for visitor convenience.

Who cares what the reason is though if medically there is no reason not to induce at 39 weeks?
I was completely miserable with a knee injury barely able to walk to take care of my toddler so by 39 weeks I was feeling desperate for baby to come out. He seemed pretty ready considering labor was only 2 hours long. I judge people who wait until 42 weeks way more than anyone getting induced at 39.... if you look at the risks there's no question which scenario is safer for mother and baby.

You don’t want to be judged while you judge others. Got it.
Your reason for induction was not for a visit, idiot.
Doctors do not wait until 42 weeks to induce, again, you’re an idiot.
40 weeks is full term so if someone waits till then, that is again, full term.

Spicy food?

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Anonymous wrote:Op here, I am at 39 weeks. This may come as a suprise to you but not all decisions/desires in life are made solely based on medical reasons. We are an immigrant family and both my kids were preemies so my mom came early to support us and she has to leave next week- leaving me with no support person. Husband has no leave from work and we have no family/close friends around. I really wanted my mom to meet with the baby.

That is not a reason to force the baby to be born when it isn’t ready. You are not overdue. How incredible selfish and inappropriate.
People have babies everyday with no support person. You are ridiculous. My husband had no leave whatsoever and we lived out of state with no family or friends. Get over yourself.

Congratulations... geez.
OP I have no idea why people are being jerks about this. My OB will put anyone interested on the elective induction list at 39 weeks because it's totally reasonable and evidence based. Anyway I had a membrane sweep at 39+6 and that did it for me for my 2nd child. Unfortunately with my first though I had two sweeps and they did nothing, had to be induced.

Gotta get that baby out for visitor convenience.

Who cares what the reason is though if medically there is no reason not to induce at 39 weeks?
I was completely miserable with a knee injury barely able to walk to take care of my toddler so by 39 weeks I was feeling desperate for baby to come out. He seemed pretty ready considering labor was only 2 hours long. I judge people who wait until 42 weeks way more than anyone getting induced at 39.... if you look at the risks there's no question which scenario is safer for mother and baby.

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Anonymous wrote:Op here, I am at 39 weeks. This may come as a suprise to you but not all decisions/desires in life are made solely based on medical reasons. We are an immigrant family and both my kids were preemies so my mom came early to support us and she has to leave next week- leaving me with no support person. Husband has no leave from work and we have no family/close friends around. I really wanted my mom to meet with the baby.

That is not a reason to force the baby to be born when it isn’t ready. You are not overdue. How incredible selfish and inappropriate.
People have babies everyday with no support person. You are ridiculous. My husband had no leave whatsoever and we lived out of state with no family or friends. Get over yourself.

Congratulations... geez.
OP I have no idea why people are being jerks about this. My OB will put anyone interested on the elective induction list at 39 weeks because it's totally reasonable and evidence based. Anyway I had a membrane sweep at 39+6 and that did it for me for my 2nd child. Unfortunately with my first though I had two sweeps and they did nothing, had to be induced.

Gotta get that baby out for visitor convenience.

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Anonymous wrote:Op here, I am at 39 weeks. This may come as a suprise to you but not all decisions/desires in life are made solely based on medical reasons. We are an immigrant family and both my kids were preemies so my mom came early to support us and she has to leave next week- leaving me with no support person. Husband has no leave from work and we have no family/close friends around. I really wanted my mom to meet with the baby.

That is not a reason to force the baby to be born when it isn’t ready. You are not overdue. How incredible selfish and inappropriate.
People have babies everyday with no support person. You are ridiculous. My husband had no leave whatsoever and we lived out of state with no family or friends. Get over yourself.

Congratulations... geez.
OP I have no idea why people are being jerks about this. My OB will put anyone interested on the elective induction list at 39 weeks because it's totally reasonable and evidence based. Anyway I had a membrane sweep at 39+6 and that did it for me for my 2nd child. Unfortunately with my first though I had two sweeps and they did nothing, had to be induced.

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Anonymous wrote:Op here, I am at 39 weeks. This may come as a suprise to you but not all decisions/desires in life are made solely based on medical reasons. We are an immigrant family and both my kids were preemies so my mom came early to support us and she has to leave next week- leaving me with no support person. Husband has no leave from work and we have no family/close friends around. I really wanted my mom to meet with the baby.

That is not a reason to force the baby to be born when it isn’t ready. You are not overdue. How incredible selfish and inappropriate.
People have babies everyday with no support person. You are ridiculous. My husband had no leave whatsoever and we lived out of state with no family or friends. Get over yourself.

Seriously? Why are you on this forum. There is nothing wrong with OP asking this question.

NP. It’s the woe is me attitude of the OP in regards to having to do things that millions upon millions of women do and have done since the beginning of time.

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Anonymous wrote:OP, you want to do this because of your mom visiting? Bizarre.

That’s not bizarre at all. She’s not trying to push her doctor to schedule an induction based on visitors’ timing, she’s just saying it really would be nice it this timing worked out, does anyone have any tips of things to try at home? What’s bizarre to me is that people are acting like this is some crazy off the wall question, when really it’s something 90+% of pregnant women are googling once they hit a certain point

Cite article where it states 90+% of pregnant women are googling this information once they hit a certain point.

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Anonymous wrote:Op here, I am at 39 weeks. This may come as a suprise to you but not all decisions/desires in life are made solely based on medical reasons. We are an immigrant family and both my kids were preemies so my mom came early to support us and she has to leave next week- leaving me with no support person. Husband has no leave from work and we have no family/close friends around. I really wanted my mom to meet with the baby.

That is not a reason to force the baby to be born when it isn’t ready. You are not overdue. How incredible selfish and inappropriate.
People have babies everyday with no support person. You are ridiculous. My husband had no leave whatsoever and we lived out of state with no family or friends. Get over yourself.

Seriously? Why are you on this forum. There is nothing wrong with OP asking this question.

Anonymous wrote:OP, you want to do this because of your mom visiting? Bizarre.

That’s not bizarre at all. She’s not trying to push her doctor to schedule an induction based on visitors’ timing, she’s just saying it really would be nice it this timing worked out, does anyone have any tips of things to try at home? What’s bizarre to me is that people are acting like this is some crazy off the wall question, when really it’s something 90+% of pregnant women are googling once they hit a certain point

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Anonymous wrote:Op here, I am at 39 weeks. This may come as a suprise to you but not all decisions/desires in life are made solely based on medical reasons. We are an immigrant family and both my kids were preemies so my mom came early to support us and she has to leave next week- leaving me with no support person. Husband has no leave from work and we have no family/close friends around. I really wanted my mom to meet with the baby.

I hope it works out for you, OP. Ignore the preachy a-holes on this thread, most people I know were trying natural induction techniques once they hit 39 weeks. In fact, when I had my last baby my practice pushed hard for me to have an induction at 39 weeks, saying that it was medical best practice (ended up being a moot point, as I went into labor on my own). I would not try castor oil, but no reason not to try the other things mentioned here. Good luck to you!

When I had one of my children, I didn’t get induced till after 40 weeks. Pushing to induce at 39 makes no medical sense unless there is a medical issue. Babies are due at 40 weeks, this is nothing new.

PP here - yeah, it surprised me at the time (especially because I was only 33/not high risk or anything) and I was super anxious about what to do. My doctor kept telling me she had done a lot of reading and stayed up on latest best practice and that if I felt strongly I could go to 40 weeks before inducing, but they really recommended 39 - I was so torn, it felt weird going against medical advice but I also am not one to jump at interventions…honestly I still hadn’t quite decided what to do, but my body went into labor at 38+4 and the decision was made for me

Yeah. It’s not ok to rush baby. Maybe can the dressing down though? Or find a supportive way to explain the timetable for when to intervene. If we tell people their questions are bizarre or nonsensical they won’t get asked due to this being a critical space without constructive information. Or worse they try something super unsafe because no one was there to advise. And while these are excellent questions for her doc that’s clearly not the only place information is being sought.