Anonymous wrote:My DH is 65 and still healthy and going about his life and work, but every once in a while he will 'remember' something that never happened and I am concerned. For example he would say that something existed where it didn't, - like there was a carwash on a corner and now it's been torn down and there is a store there. But it's not true, I know it's not true and the internet shows it's not true but he will argue that it's true. He thinks he remembers something that didn't happen at all. I am certain that he is incorrect, but he gets angry that he is correct.

Does this sound like dementia? Or is it normal for mid-60's?

He's just got a terminal case of being a man.

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Anonymous wrote:Why the hell are you arguing about this? Is this the only example? Let it go. He's misremembering, got the names/corners wrong (or you are). So what. Happens to all of us. This is not a sign of anything. Geez. you both are stupidly stubborn over nothing.

It's not the only incident. Today he told me that a stranger said something to him that is so off the wall and crazy that I don't believe they said it. He must have misunderstood them or imagined it. He swears it's true, but I wasn't there so I can't say for certain.

You are right to be concerned, OP. I would call his primary care doctor to have him evaluated.

I agree there is reason to be concerned if it has happened several times. I would definitely have him checked if I were in your shoes OP. The incidents you describe sound a lot like what happened to my mother in the beginning of what was later diagnosed as Lewy Body Dementia. Of course it could be nothing but I’d check.

Anonymous wrote:OP, this is conflabulation and needs to be followed up:

https://en.m.wikipedia.org/wiki/Confabulation

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OP - stop badgering him and expecting his “logic” to kick in and see the error. This is the entire problem. He can’t see the error because his brain isn’t able to process the discrepancy. My mother had a brain tumor and the initial medication they gave her cause a psychological breakdown as a side effect. She had extremely erratic behavior one evening leading to an EMS call. After she was off those medications and back in her right mind, she could analyze her behavior and hold both the idea that it was not like her normal self, yet she behaved normally and logically at the time. The brain is amazing, but when something is off, don’t expect it to just correct itself.

Go get him evaluated. If he doesn’t agree, suggest that you both get evaluated, because one of you is not thinking the way they used to.

OP, this is conflabulation and needs to be followed up:

https://en.m.wikipedia.org/wiki/Confabulation

My MIL started doing this a few years before her death. She started telling stories that my husband had never heard before and was fairly sure never happened. She had been having mini strokes so maybe it was vascular dementia or maybe just old age.

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Anonymous wrote:Why the hell are you arguing about this? Is this the only example? Let it go. He's misremembering, got the names/corners wrong (or you are). So what. Happens to all of us. This is not a sign of anything. Geez. you both are stupidly stubborn over nothing.

It's not the only incident. Today he told me that a stranger said something to him that is so off the wall and crazy that I don't believe they said it. He must have misunderstood them or imagined it. He swears it's true, but I wasn't there so I can't say for certain.

We live in the DC area. I would not be surprised if a stranger said something crazy to him. Every freaking street corner has crazy on it.

I embarrassed myself at a family gathering. Apparently I had had a dream years before, but it was so realistic that my brain recorded it as such. I brought it up to confused faces of people who were like “that never happened”. The mind is tricky that way. Do I think I have dementia, no, but it did scare me.

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Anonymous wrote:Why the hell are you arguing about this? Is this the only example? Let it go. He's misremembering, got the names/corners wrong (or you are). So what. Happens to all of us. This is not a sign of anything. Geez. you both are stupidly stubborn over nothing.

+1 you Sound like a pill 0P

And you have your head buried in the sand! This is not normal behavior. I would be concerned about a neurological issue, brain tumor, etc.

Anonymous wrote:Why the hell are you arguing about this? Is this the only example? Let it go. He's misremembering, got the names/corners wrong (or you are). So what. Happens to all of us. This is not a sign of anything. Geez. you both are stupidly stubborn over nothing.

+1 you Sound like a pill 0P

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Anonymous wrote:I would be more concerned it is another health condition rather than dementia OP.

Such as?

DP. Wernicke-Korsakoff Syndrome. This is a medical emergency.

Does he happen to get UTIs?

Anonymous wrote:I would be more concerned it is another health condition rather than dementia OP.

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Anonymous wrote:Dementia impacts short term memory first. So he might not retain info you shared today, yesterday ad last week. You husband’s long term memory is a little fuzzy. That is different.

There are different forms of illnesses under the umbrella of “dementia “. FTD (re Bruce Willis) affects behavior and language, Alzheimer’s affects memory, , etc.

When My grandmother was 85 one of her first signs that we noticed was that she casually mentioned that some young ladies that she didn’t know came by her house asking for food. We thought it was odd but She was so believable. My grandfather was adamant that they didn’t come and that he’d told her a hundred times.