Anonymous wrote:We moved for excellent schools and safe neighborhoods we would feel comfortable letting our young kids roam freely in. Go ahead and judge. I judge not prioritizing schools and safety right back.

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We moved for excellent schools and safe neighborhoods we would feel comfortable letting our young kids roam freely in. Go ahead and judge. I judge not prioritizing schools and safety right back.

Sometimes I feel judged. I don't pay the judgers any mind. My family and I are very happy in our MoCo suburb.

Not for a split second. Have always been a nice suburbs person, even growing up (different city suburbs). I don't know the nuances of the Dallas places you list, but rec remains the same--you've outgrown those old friends and will have more in common with new ones that you and kids make. Don't look back.

A lot of people get into arguments about this what you say “I live in [city]” when you actually live in the burbs.

I don’t live in DMV, but I used to be super judged for living in the burbs (2010-2018 era), and then the city I’m adjacent to started going to hell in a handbasket with homeless, tents, and crime. The judgy “cool” people who judged me then decamped for the suburbs too!

why would I ever feel judged for living in a nicer area? Also, these people aren't your friends and are either jealous or weird.

Anonymous wrote:Where we live, the only people who judge suburbanites are angry urban progressives who worship failing school districts and dysfunctional politicians and high property taxes and violent crime. Because we're racist for moving to the suburbs. Ok. Fine. Let them be judgmental!

Yeah, they're the ones who sound judgmental in this story.

OP this poster is an object lesson - you feel judged but wth are you saying to/about people who live where your friends live? This topic is often a circular firing squad.

Where we live, the only people who judge suburbanites are angry urban progressives who worship failing school districts and dysfunctional politicians and high property taxes and violent crime. Because we're racist for moving to the suburbs. Ok. Fine. Let them be judgmental!

Get jealous people out of your life. They’re a drag on your emotional well being.

No that is weird.

Unless they want to pay my mortgage, I don’t give a &hit what they think.

No, I don't feel judged, because true friends realize people like different things and have different criteria when they choose where they want to live.

I don't want friends who speak to me in a snide way and don't respect my decisions.

Judgers gonna judge - whether it is where you live, where you went to school/your kid goes to school, where you work, what you do for a living, hell, even what kind of vehicle your drive.

I don’t respond to that judgement. I don’t care. Sometimes I feel sorry for them because people who judge others are also judging themselves OR fear being judged.

I just ignore it. An old friend's husband will make remarks about how he'd never move to Maryland, which we did a few years back. I don't engage. I wouldn't want to live with some of the things they've mentioned but they are happy in their neighborhood otherwise and I'd never say anything about it. We're in our forties and have the financial wherewithal to live basically anywhere so it's clear we've all done what feels right for us and there's no need to comment on it unless you feel insecure. To me it says more about him than it does about me.