Anonymous wrote:My advice as a 52 yr old.. do not marry young. Most people are too immature to marry young, both women and men, but especially men. Better to get a higher paying job to build wealthy than rely on each other.

+1

I got married at 25 and feel like I married too young. I'm still married to him, happily. Just feel like I was too immature. I think I'd have benefitted from being a full grown adult without being in a relationship for a while.

Anonymous wrote:AND no kids until you’ve been married for 5 years. Really get your spouses to see if they would make a good parent. Observe them.

The “marry young” part is for mutual wealth building.

This is what I did and it worked well for us, but it's maybe a bit strong.

I think the biggest thing is to live with intention in your 20s. Don't waste years in bad relationships or jobs. Keep looking for a good fit. You can still use your 20s to explore, traveling or doing things outside your comfort zone, but do so with intention. Don't waste the whole decade drinking and languishing. Find a life partner. Find a career. Go into your 30s having checked those boxes, otherwise you'll spend that decade playing catch up.

My advice as a 52 yr old.. do not marry young. Most people are too immature to marry young, both women and men, but especially men. Better to get a higher paying job to build wealthy than rely on each other.

Most of the people in my circle met their spouse in early to mid 20s, got married in late 20s, and had kids in early 30s. Most are still married over a decade later. The ones who divorced were predictable -- one person in the relationship has always been difficult to get along with or has serious mental illness that impairs relationships.

Your frontal lobe isn’t fully developed until 24-25 and for some late 20’s. So execute function isn’t at its fullest until then. That’s just the truth, so I’d say around 28 is probably safe assuming you have a fairly good idea of that SO.

Anonymous wrote:I do agree with not having kids until 30 but getting married is fine if both of the partners are mature, in love and have lived together for at least a year. Don't come with stories that I didn't know he was a jerk or had ADHD or was an alcoholic.

Do stupid things, get stupid results. Even people marrying in their 30's and 40's do this.

I do agree with not having kids until 30 but getting married is fine if both of the partners are mature, in love and have lived together for at least a year. Don't come with stories that I didn't know he was a jerk or had ADHD or was an alcoholic.

Anonymous wrote:Or, you can have your own career, make your own money and choose someone you love rather than someone you expect will be a good provider.

Agree. It's always best to be your own provider.

You meet your future spouse whenever time permits. That may be at 22, 32, 52 or never.

Marriage and kids aren't the end all be all. But there's also nothing wrong with marrying in your 20s. Lots of paths to success around here

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Anonymous wrote:Why should anyone care what your advice is? What are your qualifications?

I have a bachelor’s degree in Family Relationships, a master’s in relationship advice (with a specialization in non-explicit) and am working on a PhD in Adult Children.

Lots of people did not get our joke! I laughed a bunch! Thank you!

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Anonymous wrote:Why should anyone care what your advice is? What are your qualifications?

I have a bachelor’s degree in Family Relationships, a master’s in relationship advice (with a specialization in non-explicit) and am working on a PhD in Adult Children.

How much is that in student debt? Sounds like the opposite of wealth building.

Anonymous wrote:I disagree about only dating with an eye toward marriage. When you’re really young, date with an eye toward practicing being in relationships. Enjoy getting to know people. But stay single, so you can get to know yourself too.

And while experimenting, push away good match you fall in love with.

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Why should anyone care what your advice is? What are your qualifications?

I have a bachelor’s degree in Family Relationships, a master’s in relationship advice (with a specialization in non-explicit) and am working on a PhD in Adult Children.

So what?

You surely aren't qualified in sarcasm. Go take a remedial course.

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Why should anyone care what your advice is? What are your qualifications?

I have a bachelor’s degree in Family Relationships, a master’s in relationship advice (with a specialization in non-explicit) and am working on a PhD in Adult Children.

That's a good one, PP I see what you did here.

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Why should anyone care what your advice is? What are your qualifications?

I have a bachelor’s degree in Family Relationships, a master’s in relationship advice (with a specialization in non-explicit) and am working on a PhD in Adult Children.

People this is obviously a joke based on the DCUM forum names.