Actually I know many transactional attorneys who have done this. During SAH years you can even do light consulting for past employers or Axiom-type places to keep your resume current. Especially if you have BigLaw experience first.

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Anonymous wrote:I have two teen DD’s. Both have expressed a hope that they can SAH or go part time when their children are young. Yea they know it’s not guaranteed, etc. But there are definitely some careers that seem more conducive to this than others. What are careers that provide independence/financial stability but also flexibility for the early kid years? Nursing is one that came to mind.

Typical woman jobs. Nursing and teaching.

However as a woman with a career that provides much more financial stability than those stereotypical jobs, I have a career in IT (which is absolutely not for people who want to take long breaks) I’m able to work from home and have an incredibly flexible schedule. I would hate being shackled to a building as many of these mom careers go. Bonus is I’ve been able to secure both my kids with incredible summer internships in both high school and college at various technology companies, giving them a huge leg up. Privilege is a thing and I’m going to leverage it as much for my kids as possible. I think it’s pretty cool that my boys are following in my foot steps and not their father who is an attorney. They probably see my job as wayyy more flexible and better COL than their dad who is always in court or visiting clients/colleagues.

As a SAHM, I have been able to help my kids secure incredible summer STEM research internships with many prestigious DMV organizations for HS and college - from medical to IT focused careers. Its called being an average clued in and educated parent in DMV.

There is not one public school student in my social circle that has not interned or volunteered for resume and skill building during summer or the school year starting from MS.

It’s called being highly connected & privileged.

Ha ha! Except I am not highly connected. We are first gen immigrants, not White or URM. My kids are high achieving, with stellar academic and EC records. Their resumes do all the work. All I do is use "Google" and track opportunities in a database. My kids apply to 50-60 internships for any time period and cherry-pick what they want.

Of course, being a SAHM and having access to Google is a privilege. But then so is modern plumbing, correct?

While being in a IT career may allow woman to have a flexible career, getting internships for your kids because of it is a weird flex. Unless OP's kids were terrible meritless candidates who would not have got the opportunity without some connection.

You have to know someone for all of that. Public school kids get their “résumés” thrown in the toilet.

Or your public school kids could have excellent academic and ec credentials. You know, be like the usual Asian American over-achievers

I have an MBA in tech and work for legacy tech companies - think IBM, Lenovo - work in strategy in global teams. Though by Tech standards I don't make a lot but I make more than enough (especially combined with DH's salary). The job is flexible and I WFH, but honestly no guarantees. I may be asked to come to work from office anytime. I don't have to keep up with tech/software skills. I think it will be easier to find decent paid remote jobs in tech (>100K) in the years to come.

And although I couldn't take care of my babies by myself while working a full time job, we ended up hiring an at home nanny for 8 hrs a day. It was the best of both worlds, I got to spend time with kids in my office breaks and didn't have to deal with some of the chores (preparing baby food, cleaning after the baby, baby laundry etc..), work commute etc and could BF.

We are in DMV. Telling my kids to find careers that have opportunities in DMV. They can have kids then and we will provide childcare. Of course, they also need affordable housing and good schools.

USA has really become very pathetic.

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Anonymous wrote:I have two teen DD’s. Both have expressed a hope that they can SAH or go part time when their children are young. Yea they know it’s not guaranteed, etc. But there are definitely some careers that seem more conducive to this than others. What are careers that provide independence/financial stability but also flexibility for the early kid years? Nursing is one that came to mind.

Typical woman jobs. Nursing and teaching.

However as a woman with a career that provides much more financial stability than those stereotypical jobs, I have a career in IT (which is absolutely not for people who want to take long breaks) I’m able to work from home and have an incredibly flexible schedule. I would hate being shackled to a building as many of these mom careers go. Bonus is I’ve been able to secure both my kids with incredible summer internships in both high school and college at various technology companies, giving them a huge leg up. Privilege is a thing and I’m going to leverage it as much for my kids as possible. I think it’s pretty cool that my boys are following in my foot steps and not their father who is an attorney. They probably see my job as wayyy more flexible and better COL than their dad who is always in court or visiting clients/colleagues.

As a SAHM, I have been able to help my kids secure incredible summer STEM research internships with many prestigious DMV organizations for HS and college - from medical to IT focused careers. Its called being an average clued in and educated parent in DMV.

There is not one public school student in my social circle that has not interned or volunteered for resume and skill building during summer or the school year starting from MS.

It’s called being highly connected & privileged.

Ha ha! Except I am not highly connected. We are first gen immigrants, not White or URM. My kids are high achieving, with stellar academic and EC records. Their resumes do all the work. All I do is use "Google" and track opportunities in a database. My kids apply to 50-60 internships for any time period and cherry-pick what they want.

Of course, being a SAHM and having access to Google is a privilege. But then so is modern plumbing, correct?

While being in a IT career may allow woman to have a flexible career, getting internships for your kids because of it is a weird flex. Unless OP's kids were terrible meritless candidates who would not have got the opportunity without some connection.

You have to know someone for all of that. Public school kids get their “résumés” thrown in the toilet.

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Anonymous wrote:I have two teen DD’s. Both have expressed a hope that they can SAH or go part time when their children are young. Yea they know it’s not guaranteed, etc. But there are definitely some careers that seem more conducive to this than others. What are careers that provide independence/financial stability but also flexibility for the early kid years? Nursing is one that came to mind.

Typical woman jobs. Nursing and teaching.

However as a woman with a career that provides much more financial stability than those stereotypical jobs, I have a career in IT (which is absolutely not for people who want to take long breaks) I’m able to work from home and have an incredibly flexible schedule. I would hate being shackled to a building as many of these mom careers go. Bonus is I’ve been able to secure both my kids with incredible summer internships in both high school and college at various technology companies, giving them a huge leg up. Privilege is a thing and I’m going to leverage it as much for my kids as possible. I think it’s pretty cool that my boys are following in my foot steps and not their father who is an attorney. They probably see my job as wayyy more flexible and better COL than their dad who is always in court or visiting clients/colleagues.

As a SAHM, I have been able to help my kids secure incredible summer STEM research internships with many prestigious DMV organizations for HS and college - from medical to IT focused careers. Its called being an average clued in and educated parent in DMV.

There is not one public school student in my social circle that has not interned or volunteered for resume and skill building during summer or the school year starting from MS.

It’s called being highly connected & privileged.

Ha ha! Except I am not highly connected. We are first gen immigrants, not White or URM. My kids are high achieving, with stellar academic and EC records. Their resumes do all the work. All I do is use "Google" and track opportunities in a database. My kids apply to 50-60 internships for any time period and cherry-pick what they want.

Of course, being a SAHM and having access to Google is a privilege. But then so is modern plumbing, correct?

While being in a IT career may allow woman to have a flexible career, getting internships for your kids because of it is a weird flex. Unless OP's kids were terrible meritless candidates who would not have got the opportunity without some connection.

Don't do this OP: I did because I wanted to have a family and children, so I thought going into education was the answer.

Fast forward 20 years: I was unable to have kids (we tried for years) and now I have a poor paying frustrating profession; retirement can't come soon enough.

If they are inclined towards health care or therapy of some sort, those careers may have more flexibility. The problem is that no one has a crystal ball and you have no idea who will be able.to have children.

Earning the most money possible would.have helped me deal with infertility more than a flexible career choice..

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Anything healthcare.

FFS don’t encourage your DDs to go into pink collar jobs for some mythical SAH dream. Let them do a career that earns real money and maybe interest them.

The option to SAH will depend on a lot of factors but largely if her husband is on board, and earns enough money to drop her income completely. Being able to re-enter is nice but meaningless — while she is home, if her DH earns enough she can just go back to school for year and retrain for a her former or a new career. SAH for 6 years vs 6 + 1 year grad courses is hardly that different as long as her husband can and is willing to be breadwinner.

PP was right, you as future grandma should try to maximize your income to help them have that option by giving them cash to get started, down payments, and no student debt. That’s way for valuable than encouraging them to hobble their careers out the gate for some mythical husband and kids.

any type of therapist - physical, SN, speech.

What about you have enough money that your SAHM daughters can be at home and then retrain for a future job. We don't know what the future brings, but having millions in the bank would give them option.

Anonymous wrote:It seems like a really stupid idea to advise a teen to pick a career based on this consideration.

No it isn’t. It’s smart to think ahead.

Not an attorney.

Anything healthcare.

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Anonymous wrote:I have two teen DD’s. Both have expressed a hope that they can SAH or go part time when their children are young. Yea they know it’s not guaranteed, etc. But there are definitely some careers that seem more conducive to this than others. What are careers that provide independence/financial stability but also flexibility for the early kid years? Nursing is one that came to mind.

Typical woman jobs. Nursing and teaching.

However as a woman with a career that provides much more financial stability than those stereotypical jobs, I have a career in IT (which is absolutely not for people who want to take long breaks) I’m able to work from home and have an incredibly flexible schedule. I would hate being shackled to a building as many of these mom careers go. Bonus is I’ve been able to secure both my kids with incredible summer internships in both high school and college at various technology companies, giving them a huge leg up. Privilege is a thing and I’m going to leverage it as much for my kids as possible. I think it’s pretty cool that my boys are following in my foot steps and not their father who is an attorney. They probably see my job as wayyy more flexible and better COL than their dad who is always in court or visiting clients/colleagues.

As a SAHM, I have been able to help my kids secure incredible summer STEM research internships with many prestigious DMV organizations for HS and college - from medical to IT focused careers. Its called being an average clued in and educated parent in DMV.

There is not one public school student in my social circle that has not interned or volunteered for resume and skill building during summer or the school year starting from MS.

It’s called being highly connected & privileged.

Anonymous wrote:I'm a fed and many people at my agency do this.

Nursing is another great suggestion, with basically infinite schedule flexibilities depending on area of specialty. (For example, my cousin is a NICU nurse and works 3 overnight shifts per week and can pick up as much overtime as she is willing to work.)

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Nursing is a flexible career. As long as you keep your license current, you will always find work. It can allow you to work 1 weekend a month while being a SAHP the rest of the time. Extremely flexible

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Anonymous wrote:I have two teen DD’s. Both have expressed a hope that they can SAH or go part time when their children are young. Yea they know it’s not guaranteed, etc. But there are definitely some careers that seem more conducive to this than others. What are careers that provide independence/financial stability but also flexibility for the early kid years? Nursing is one that came to mind.

Typical woman jobs. Nursing and teaching.

However as a woman with a career that provides much more financial stability than those stereotypical jobs, I have a career in IT (which is absolutely not for people who want to take long breaks) I’m able to work from home and have an incredibly flexible schedule. I would hate being shackled to a building as many of these mom careers go. Bonus is I’ve been able to secure both my kids with incredible summer internships in Bo th high school and college at various technology companies, giving them a huge leg up. Privilege is a thing and I’m going to leverage it as much for my kids as possible. I think it’s pretty cool that my boys are following in my foot steps and not their father who is an attorney. They probably see my job as wayyy more flexible and better COL than their dad who is always in court or visiting clients/colleagues.

And wouldn't it be the cherry on top if they don't grow up to be self-centered twerps like you?

DP. She is only be honest. If possible, we all would give our kids every advantage we can. Anyone who claims otherwise is a liar.

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