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Anonymous wrote:

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Anonymous wrote:There’s more to it than he’s telling you. He had incentive to lie here. You need to back up the teacher.

That would be very damaging to OP's relationship with her child is he is telling the truth. You don't want to take that risk unless you have hard evidence, and there is none.

I mean the kid could be telling the truth, but if I were in OPs shoes, i would tell my kid don’t have tabs open be bored and day dream it is how I got through school. But if you choose to have open tabs, your teacher may be angry and you will have to deal with the punishment. I mean teachers can’t look at amazon all day, you can’t have DCUM open at work if your boss is hanging over you right? So, tell your kid he now has to be above suspicion. Prep for working life!

That is very different from what you were advocating before, and you need to acknowledge that to yourself. We would all tell this kid to close his tab. But backing up the teacher who has accused him of lying is not the same thing. At all.

Anonymous wrote:Middle school, I have a very open relationship with my child. Child came home and told me that there was an incident with a teacher suspecting watching videos on a laptop. He told me the story, his side was that a tab was open but he was only watching when allowed (between classes).

Then I see the email. Very very long email from his teacher basically tearing into my son. He's unethical, a liar, the whole nine. As a result of him being a liar, I'm sending him to detention and writing him up to the school.

I thought it was a total over reaction by the teacher. But also, who engages in a tear down of a kid like that.

I've never dealt with a teacher having that strong of reaction. He's never had discipline issues outside of this specific teacher. He's above grade level in everything.

How would you handle as a parent?

Anonymous wrote:Middle school, I have a very open relationship with my child. Child came home and told me that there was an incident with a teacher suspecting watching videos on a laptop. He told me the story, his side was that a tab was open but he was only watching when allowed (between classes).

Then I see the email. Very very long email from his teacher basically tearing into my son. He's unethical, a liar, the whole nine. As a result of him being a liar, I'm sending him to detention and writing him up to the school.

I thought it was a total over reaction by the teacher. But also, who engages in a tear down of a kid like that.

I've never dealt with a teacher having that strong of reaction. He's never had discipline issues outside of this specific teacher. He's above grade level in everything.

How would you handle as a parent?

Anonymous wrote:It’s irrelevant if your kid lied.

The lesson here is there are very few adults that can be trusted. Evidence, the email from the teacher.

Your child needs to know through life he will meet teachers, coaches, neighbors, etc who are adults that are a bit unhinged.

He also need to know that through life people will create a story about you that is not true. You can’t go around, collecting all the lies and trying to right them.

The teacher is a wack job, you can’t change it, you can’t tell the principal and have them change it. It’s just a thing.

Anonymous wrote:The teacher's reaction was immature and excessive whether or not your child was untruthful.

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:There’s more to it than he’s telling you. He had incentive to lie here. You need to back up the teacher.

The teachers very long email has no evidence that he's lying. In fact it describes the evidence incorrectly and, to me, someone that works in tech, tells me the teacher has no grasp of the tech.

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Middle school, I have a very open relationship with my child. Child came home and told me that there was an incident with a teacher suspecting watching videos on a laptop. He told me the story, his side was that a tab was open but he was only watching when allowed (between classes).

Then I see the email. Very very long email from his teacher basically tearing into my son. He's unethical, a liar, the whole nine. As a result of him being a liar, I'm sending him to detention and writing him up to the school.

I thought it was a total over reaction by the teacher. But also, who engages in a tear down of a kid like that.

I've never dealt with a teacher having that strong of reaction. He's never had discipline issues outside of this specific teacher. He's above grade level in everything.

How would you handle as a parent?

My child's 3rd grade teacher would shop on Amazon while the class was absorbed in coursework. One of the kids saw it and told his mom who told the other parents. Well, there really wasn't anything we could do about it.
When I was in 4th grade, my older sister noticed that my teacher only made a check mark on our homeworks. Older sister said my teacher was lazy for not going thru each sheet problem by problem. So one day I was helping out the 4th grade teacher, I naively and innocently remarked that my sister thought she was lazy for merely making check marks on our homeworks. Ms. 4th grade teacher became incensed and began yelling at me (in front of everyone). I don't remember what she said but I clearly touched a nerve.
It's called being defensive because they were caught being unprofessional.

I might save the information and give it to the school principal upon your child's promotion to the next school.