My IQ is 174. I did great in school but I’m a completely normal person otherwise.

Why don’t you focus your energy on figuring out whether your kids have adhd or dyslexia instead of obsessing over this man?

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Anonymous wrote:Totally a bad idea. You should not do this. Not even a little bit. He is not coming over as an expert who you are paying to advise you on your children. He's coming over as your husband's friend.

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Agree. We have quite a few friends like this, OP - it never once occurred to us to corner them and talk about how they cope with being truly (not just by measly DMV standards) exceptional. Poor form.

Stop. You absolutely do not have quite a few friends with an IQ over 170.

Anonymous wrote:I got my IQ tested in childhood and its high enough that I guess it would impress OP, but I'm as much of an idiot as the next person. I said this in another thread, though...I thought we all had sort of come to an agreement that IQs really don't matter that much?

Treat people like people, OP.

I had the same experience. I think I tested 160 in fifth grade, but now I feel like my IQ is closer to 100. It really doesn't matter.

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Anonymous wrote:I am normal IQ for this general area (130). I am friends with two separate people who have much higher IQs. I share a different hobby with each of them, and they are both exceptionally high EQ and can interact on my level with me relative to the hobby. They are just people.

I find it strange when people a)know their own IQ and b) share it with others.. I cannot in a million years fathom how this comes up.

Gifted testing from childhood, most likely. That’s how I know mine.

But do you share it with others? Do you know your friends' IQs?

Never. My parents actually did not tell me for exactly the same reasons—I ultimately found the number on paperwork.

The whole thing is absurd.

Anonymous wrote:Totally a bad idea. You should not do this. Not even a little bit. He is not coming over as an expert who you are paying to advise you on your children. He's coming over as your husband's friend.

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Ditto with what everyone else says about treating him like a freak show. And note that unless your kids are similarly stratospherically high IQ, the special insights he would have are probably irrelevant. And even if your kids are ultra-high-IQ, they would still be mostly irrelevant. Children are irritatingly dissimilar to each other.

I got my IQ tested in childhood and its high enough that I guess it would impress OP, but I'm as much of an idiot as the next person. I said this in another thread, though...I thought we all had sort of come to an agreement that IQs really don't matter that much?

Treat people like people, OP.

DH treats him as a normal buddy. I feel like IQ that high is not a normal person.

I certainly don’t have an IQ over 170, but I think this is the key. Nobody wants to be treated like a freak, and his IQ is not his only quality. Your husband has remained friends treating him as a normal buddy. Treat him as you would any other friend. Would you ask another friend what activities their kids enjoy or would you ask them how to turn your kids into prodigies? Most people you meet, you have no idea of their IQ, and I doubt the buddy brings it up with strangers when first introduced. If the conversation spontaneously meanders that way and he feels comfortable with it, feel free to engage him. Otherwise, just engage him in normal conversation as a normal friend of your husband.

I am completely at a loss as to how does high IQ make someone a good parent.

All my friends have exceptionally high Eq’s as this Iq stuff is just weird

Yes. One of my best friends from HS has an incredibly high IQ. Taught himself several languages and instruments.

He barely graduated HS and has worked at Best Buy since he was 18. He has crippling depression.

IQ isn’t everything. I know some people who are not particularly intelligent but have really outgoing personalities, work hard and tend to stay incredibly positive. They’re very successful.