Anonymous wrote:Adult in this country are also not well socialized.

If you have tons of relatives, friends, neighbors who are being entertained at your home, your kids will not have this problem

I agree

And the pandemic made it worse. None of our friends were socializing indoors until middle of last year. Some are still not (they are high risk). Our social network for having people over at our house was gone for over two years (between our child's 1st and 3rd birthdays). I really believe this has had a major impact on young children.

Adult in this country are also not well socialized.

If you have tons of relatives, friends, neighbors who are being entertained at your home, your kids will not have this problem

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Anonymous wrote:Take your kid to a small Family Child Care home or a nanny who knows of playmates.

The child needs socialization! It's like a kid who was raised by wolves. It affects them. But your kids is not late. Theur brain is amazing and can learn and adjust. They can learn 3 languages in age as young like 2 and 3 years old

Socialization with strangers is over-hyped at this age. OP's toddler has older siblings in the home who provide the most crucial socialization. As long as they play well at home and spend quality time with one another, everything else is just icing. Little kids who have siblings spend much more time playing with their own siblings than with friends or strangers.

You have to let your child make friends and play, socialize with others and not just his own older siblings. That's why is a shy kid. Just stays with the family.

The poor boy never had opportunities to grow, learn, explore social situations with other children/strangers. Kids needs to learn that social skill.

Socializing with other children (NOT FAMILY/SIBLINGS) are very IMPORTANT to develop the cognitive, social skills into their brains. Kids needs challenges to surpass them and keep exploring their surroundings with all kinds of children

At 3, yes, at 1? No.

And socializing with other children isn't the solution to a child who is afraid of other adults.

Anonymous wrote:Yes, make playmates before is too late and stays shy, intimidated forever. School will be horrible

Social anxiety is treatable, but definitely much easier when they are younger and playdates are a great idea.

Yes, make playmates before is too late and stays shy, intimidated forever. School will be horrible

Teach social skills. Be an example

Director of a full day program here who has been in the business for 30 years, has an MA in ECE, and many years of experience with these children:

I'd say a few things:
1. get a small group of the same children and so things together so your child will warm up and invite those children into their social circle

2. read a book titled Breaking Free of child Anxiety and OCD by Eli Lebowitz. A parent whose child was exhibiting extreme shyness has read this book and has been using it in their approach to their child. their 2 year old who could NOT look at any adults except her 4 teachers has become a 4 yr old who can look new teachers in the eye and answer, can stand up for herself with teachers and child, went from being so scared of any sub, new teacher, or musician or visitor (like, woudln't walk near them, cried hysterically, etc) and now loves music days, and all the things! She will always be an introvert with a few strong friends, but that's a perfectly wonderful way to be - just didn't want her to be crippled by her shyness/anxiety/whatever we want to call it.

3. unless you need childcare, I wouldn't do a program this year, but would consider half days (a whole day might be too much for your child and you are paying for naptime, too) as a 3 yr old, as long as the group is small. Otherwise, for sure as a 4 yr old

I wouldn't push your child to be in all the lessons, etc - just get a strong group of kids and adult friends and do playground with adults and kids once a week forever and ever. this will help.

4. Really, I haven't read the book but it's on my list, I'd suggest you buy it.

And is so disrespectful to say someone " You are shy". It's so rude. It just pushes away shy people. Shy people likes to be social but doesn't know how. I tell the parents when their kids are shy , it's ok, when the child feels comfortable it will feel better and open up. Or say it's ok and change the subject.
Calling some shy is rude. I'm sorry OP.

Find an introvert or shy nanny and she can gradually teach your kid in small groups of kids at the park because all nannies knows other nannies and kids and they meetup and do playmates, share together toys

I like hearing them laugh. And when your child says or does some good praise him. I sing the bravo bravo song in Spanish and clap my hands or you can just say good job, I like that you are sharing the car toys, etc